Fathering Our Future

A very common piece of advice that I see given to dads is, “Be the dad you wish you had.” Depending on who hears this, this suggestion may resinate, but it is not right. As dads, our devotion is to our children and we should be focused on their needs. If our focus is on the pain of our past and what we wish we would have had, we can very easily miss what is right in front of us. This week’s episod...

Our mission as Christian dads is to equip and disciple our children to be a part of God’s mission in a greater capacity than ourselves. In order to achieve this, we must have influence with our kids. We can only have influence if we have a relationship with them, but there will be no relationship without communication. As we focus on communication with our children, there are additional benefits t...

As dads, we do a lot of teaching. We guide our kids through multiple areas of life, providing experience and wisdom every day. While we are the prominent teacher as the dad, there is something our children teach us and we need to pay attention to it. In Mark 10, we read where Jesus expresses the importance and value of being like little children. When it comes to faith, prayer, and how we approach...

Imagine how convenient it would be if every time you asked your kid to do something they obeyed. You never had to worry about uproars in restaurants or meltdowns anywhere else in public. Your kids just obeyed you all the time. Don’t let your imagination run too rampant because there is no fail-proof way to guarantee that. However, we do have biblical guidance on how we can increase the likelihood...

What is a dad? While it may seem like a basic and fundamental question, there isn’t always a clear cut answer. Some may allude to a dad being an ultimate authority and others compare dads to coaches. Some define a dad simply by the tasks he performs or should perform. I don’t see how any of those definitions could be right. When I consider the Bible and God, who is our Father, I see a much differe...

Luke 15 may be the most moving and inspirational passage of the Bible for men on the topic of fatherhood but it can also be one of the most confusing. We read of a father who gives his younger son his inheritance early. I’m not sure I know a dad alive today who would be willing to do that. So why did this father? I want to talk to you about your motivations as a dad. I’m sure there are things you...

Managing kids can feel like wrangling chaos, especially when you're a Christian dad trying to raise your kids with strong values and faith. In this episode, I chat with Christopher Lind, host of Future Focused and dad of seven (yes, seven). Christopher shares his personal journey, from handling financial struggles to redefining what success looks like in a large family. We also talk about how dads...

I want to discuss something that affects each and every one of us: our past. All of those experiences we often try to sweep under the rug that end up shaping us more than we realize. We are looking at the story of Joseph but focusing on another character, his dad, Jacob. Jacob's favoritism towards Joseph, born from his own unresolved issues, led to a whole mess of trouble for Joseph and his brothe...

Do you want to be happy? According to an expert at Yale there is something that happy people have in common. It is also something that the Bible makes very clear to us: community. And it's not just about having acquaintances; it's about forging real connections, having people to share life's ups and downs with. As Christian dads, it's easy to get caught up in the hustle of life, to isolate ourselv...

As we approach Mother’s Day we may find ourselves rattling our brains to find the perfect gift for our wives. While it is important for us to get something material, the greatest thing we can give is immaterial; our time. In this episode, I focus on a crucial aspect of our roles as Christian fathers: prioritizing our wives. From Ephesians 5, we learn that husbands are called to emulate Christ's sa...

Have you ever questioned what to say to your kid or what to actually talk about with them? Have you struggled with getting your kid to talk to you? If talking with your kid ever feels awkward, let me try and help you. This week I dive deep into one of the most crucial aspects of fatherhood: talking to your kids. From communication to relationship building and discipleship, I'm here to emphasize th...

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Pastor Hadley Baker, author of "No Longer A Slave." For over two decades, Hadley wrestled with the chains of addiction to pornography, a struggle that often remains hidden in the shadows, especially within Christian circles. With unwavering honesty and vulnerability, Hadley opens up about his journey from darkness to freedom, sharing the raw details of his...

This week’s episode is all about diving headfirst into the chaotic world of parenting and emerging with a newfound sense of peace and purpose. As a Christian dad myself, I know firsthand the challenges that come with managing chaos while striving to be the dad my children need me to be. I delve into the root causes of chaos in our lives, from the clash between expectations and reality to the compl...

Today's episode is packed with insights gained over ten years of marital bliss – and the occasional challenge. I've penned ten invaluable nuggets of wisdom that have truly transformed my own journey alongside my wife. From understanding the power of support before solutions to the importance of unwavering consistency in our actions, each tip is a testament to the sacred bond we share with our wive...

As fathers, we strive to make lasting memories with our children while imparting valuable life lessons along the way. In our journey as Christian dads, it's crucial to find activities that foster bonding, fun, and tradition. That's where the magic of playing games with our kids comes in. I want to discuss three reasons why incorporating games into our parenting arsenal is not only enjoyable but al...

When should we forgive our children? No one enjoys being wronged, and no one easily forgets the injustices committed against them. We tend to hold on to those acts, especially when they are committed by the ones closest to us, and even more so when they come from our children. Should we wait until we feel they understand our pain? Should we hold off because we think we need to teach them a lesson?...

Would it shock you to know that an accurate reading of Revelation 3 and the moral of KungFu Panda could help you understand the right way for you to do fatherhood? It sounds crazy, but it is true. So many of us fall into this category of people who just want to know what to do. We do not have a desire to guess or to make mistakes. We want someone to tell us exactly the best way to go about whateve...

Some people like to keep a tight leash on there kids, metaphorically and sometimes literally, but is that the right way to go about parenting? Should we be so protective that we chart out every step our children will take, ultimately controlling what they do? Of course the motivation for this is good intention, but does that make control, sheltering, and being over-protective acceptable? A friend...

In our world today, love may be one of the most abused terms. It is taken to justify things it would never stand for. It is used as reasons for things it would never partake in. Love is misunderstood and misused.   After a month of interviews focusing on love, I wanted to recap some requirements, or demands, of love so that we understand what love is and what love is not. If what we call love fail...

Our kids mean the world to us, and we love them with all of our heart, but as they grow, sometimes we have to modify the way we express our love to them.   I’m joined today by Pastor Johnny Hargrove to discuss ways that we can love our children so that we can have a lasting relationship with them. Johnny shares things he did and continues to do in order to nurture his relationship with his childre...

Our marriage is the greatest example we have for our kids. We model so much that they need simply by loving our wife. However, sometimes we struggle with what that really means. I am joined by Adam and Karissa King, founders of Dear Young Married Couple, to learn more about what it means for a husband to love his wife. We discuss Ephesians 5:25 and what it means, as well as practical tips for husb...

If you are anything like the rest of us, you have looked at yourself in the mirror and struggled to accept who you are. You know it’s important to love yourself but sometimes you’re just not sure how.   I am delighted to be joined by Bishop D.G. Hargrove. As a pastor and counselor, D.G. provides a systematic approach to loving ourselves, as well as giving us clarity on what it actually means for u...

Love is something we do not question because we assume we know what it means. Sadly, this assumption leads to love being abused and misused regularly.   As we start the month of February, I want to make sure we understand love. To start it off, we are going to focus on what it means to love God, because if we do not have that right, we will not be able to properly love ourselves and others.   As b...

As Christian dads, we cannot just focus on communicating with our kids, we have to focus and pay attention to how we speak to our kids. The truth is, our children need to hear our words. Our children need affirmation from us. Joining me to talk about affirmation and its impact, is Dr. Eugene Wilson. Eugene is an expert in leadership shares how we, as leaders in our home, can use our voice to build...

In Matthew 25, we read about servants who stewarded what was given to them with diligence and wisdom. They were later described as good and faithful servants. As dads, we have been entrusted with priceless gifts and I believe we should also strive to be good, faithful, and servants. Being good can be subjective but I’ll give you a definition and question to constantly ask yourself to make sure wha...