Fathering Our Future

Good intentions often fail our kids and sometimes act as an excuse we hide behind. Good intentions are like something that looks great on paper but fails miserably when applied to reality.   The responsibility and calling on us as dads is too great to approach it with only good intentions. If we mean well but are ignorant and unintentional, we will let our children down. We cannot allow that to ha...

Christmas may truly be the most wonderful time of the year. For us as Christians, it is a time where we heavily reflect upon the birth of our savior, Jesus. We focus on giving, joy, and love which was modeled to us by Christ, but there is something about Christmas that is most important for us to grasp as dads. In Matthew 1:23, we read that a virgin will conceive, birth a son, and his name will be...

You have probably spent way too much money this Christmas on presents for your kids but there is a gift they desire most that money cannot buy — you.   Every kid adores their dad and longs for time and experiences with them. They’ll love their toys and games but dads have a way of making everything more enjoyable.   Let this episode serve as a motivation and reminder for you that the greatest thin...

It’s the holiday season and we all have at least one unwanted guest joining us — chaos.   No matter how much we hope to avoid it, chaos is one of those inevitable things that always presents itself. The harder we try to avoid it, the more we come face to face with it.   While we can’t eliminate chaos, we can learn to deal with it properly. I’ve got three tips that work tremendously well when handl...

All of us, as dads, have brokenness in our past that causes us to choose how we will live in the present. That ongoing decision and effort ultimately become the legacy we leave behind.   I sat down with Ian Barnett, better known as ASAP Preach, to talk about fatherhood. He opens up about his past, involving molestation and drugs, his efforts in the present, and the legacy he hopes to leave behind...

Fatherhood is no easy journey and it does not get easier when you decide to be intentional and engaged. Being a dad continues to grow complicated as things change and you start new practices. All of the changes and newness can easily make you want to quit. Today, I want to encourage you to not despise your small beginnings. The start is almost always the most challenging but fatherhood is a challe...

As dads, we make a lot of mistakes. When we think about these moments, we probably all do the same things and that is we only see the mistakes that involve our kids. There is a huge mistake that is so easy for us to make as dads but this mistake happens with our wives. In this episode we will focus on marriage, what it should look like, what God calls good, and one mistake that we need to stop mak...

There is a lie we tell ourselves as men. We convince ourselves that we do not need help. We believe we can rub some dirt on it and it will feel better when it stops hurting. The truth is all of us need help and a lot more than we probably realize.   I’m joined by my friend Dr. Chad Flowers, a pastor and licensed counselor, to discuss our need for help. We dive into why we need it and explore multi...

When you think about integrity you probably think about doing what is good, what is right, and doing those things with excellence. This is an understood, culturally accepted, idea of integrity. It is also a vital part of integrity, but it is not all there is to the term.   Integrity is an element that makes us worth being in a relationship with. This is more than something we want as dads, it is s...

When we read through wisdom literature in the Bible one thing becomes clear, we do not want to be fools. The fool does not have a great ending and there are a plethora of negative sentiments made about the fool. However, Proverbs 29:20, tells us that the person who speaks quickly, without thinking, has less hope than a fool.   How we speak matters. As dads it is easy to speak quickly to our childr...

One of the most common pieces of advice given from super successful individuals is bet on yourself. We have to believe that what we are doing is meaningful and that we have a purpose that is worth pursuing even through failures. But there is a reason the super successful individuals are a minority, most people give up on themselves.   I am joined today by my friend and executive director of Manhoo...

While running and exercise are great choices for us, that is not what today’s episode is about.   In Luke 15, Jesus paints a picture of his identity by telling us a story of a dad with two sons. Most of the time we get focused on the prodigal, but our focus should be on the dad.   The dad in this story has a son that acted selfishly and foolishly, and another who stayed quiet and stuck around. How...

Children are gifts from God but unfortunately we live in a world where predators wait in the shadows. While most of us think it could never happen to our children, there are things we simply do not know.   The sad reality is that one in five boys and one in three girls are victims of sexual abuse, and the abuse typically begins between the ages of 3 and 5. As dads devoted to serving our children a...

“Can you help me,” may be the most unspoken phrase by men, but it shouldn’t be. If we want to thrive as fathers and be the dads our children need us to be, we need to ask for help. In order to do this, we need people in our lives that we can ask for help.   This week’s episode is committed to showing you that good dads ask for help and surround themselves with community. We were designed by God to...

As men we universally desire four things: power, money, wisdom, and sex. It’s very easy for us to crave and pursue these desires too much, getting lost in a childish demand for more, more, more.   While power, money, wisdom, and sex are all great things; what do you think you would find if you obtained as much as you desired in each of these areas? Someone has done and what they discovered might s...

As Christian dads, the greatest influence in our lives should be God and the Bible. Every aspect of our lives, from work to family, should be influenced by scripture. This is important for us, but it is also going to be important for our children.   One day our children will grow up and venture off on their own. Will they be rooted enough in God’s word to navigate life and withstand the challenges...

I’m happy to have my good friend, Derrick Weeks with me on the podcast to   Resources discussed in this episode:   https://bibleproject.com   The Old Testament For Everyone https://amzn.to/4g0J4EV   The New Testament For Everyone https://amzn.to/4cQwkxR   The Kingdom New Testament https://amzn.to/4cSf1wa   —   Get your copy of the new devotional for dads, Following Our Father: https://amzn.to/4dtG...

God’s love for us is great! It is so extravagant that it is transformational for us. When we look at our lives and struggle to see meaning, we can still carry on because God loves us. While we may struggle to see what is so lovable, we know something about us must be because God is infatuated with us.   As dads, our love has the same impact on our children. It can be transformational and motivatio...

We live in an extravagant culture in America. We often think the bigger, the better. In Texas, we even boast that everything is bigger, implying that it is also better.   While sometimes this is true, it is so easy for us, as dads, to believe this all the time. We work and aspire for the things that are great. We aim to plan huge trips and vacations. We focus on getting the biggest gifts we can fi...

One of the worst things we can do as dads is roam through life aimlessly. If we are going to find fulfillment, we must have values in our lives that drive us forward to goals and meaningful achievements. Values guide us and determine how we respond to situations. Like Jesus, starving in the wilderness being tempted by the devil, we must stay true to what matters. In this episode, you will learn wh...

This week we focus in on Genesis 12:1-3. As you read through the passage, something should stand out. God says He will do a number of things for Abram, but He tells Abram there is only one thing he is to do. This one thing that Abram was to focus on is something that we, as Christian dads, should be focused on as well; being a blessing. I hope to reorient your daily focus from fixating on ways to...

We like to keep the main thing, the main thing. We all want to focus on what is most important. How would you feel if you knew what your children actually wanted more than anything else? Would it change the way you go about life and what you aim to do? Your kids want the exact same thing as my kids; time with their dad. More than our money or personal success, they just want us. I’ll provide my re...

Finding yourself consumed by stress and anxiety? Do you feel like you cannot escape all of the chaos and insanity in your life? I’ve got good news, you can and a lot easier than you think. In this episode, I discuss a researched and biblical remedy to anxiety and consuming negativity; gratitude. A simple change in your mindset and what you think about has the ability to transform your outlook, moo...

As a dad, one of your greatest concerns and pursuits is time with your family. Like everyone else you turn your attention to what is known as work-life balance. What if I told you that was not the right place to start? What if immediately pursuing work-life balance is putting the cart ahead of the horse? I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this and I have come to realize the idea of work-life...

Change is one of those things we can talk about but typically hate to experience. We are creatures of habit and we enjoy the comfort that comes with the familiar and consistent. Well, my family and I made a big change and moved to a new house. The move was something I was against for a while and my oldest was not too thrilled about it either. Through the process of moving, three things stood out t...