Fathering Our Future

It is encouraging as a dad to read statistics about our impact on our children just by being in the home. Our kids are more likely to have success across the spectrum of life just because we are there. However, it is important we do not allow that to get to our heads because our presence alone is not enough.   Our presence matters but our children need more from us. Our standard should not be what...

Being a dad is one of the greatest privileges that men receive in this life. However, too many overlook this because they have their focus elsewhere.   Maybe you are like so many other dads who find themselves climbing the corporate ladder, working way more hours than they should, and drinking enough alcohol to be able to handle it. You would be a lot like my guest, Kevin Goodnight.   Kevin joins...

As Christian dads we have the mission of raising disciples. We often pinpoint that down to making sure our kids know about Jesus but there is a lot more to it than that.   We continue our series about talking to our kids about sex and this week we are addressing pornography. It’s sad, but the likelihood of our kids being exposed to pornography is incredibly high, with the current average age of ex...

When it comes to building relationships with your kids, things do not have to be boring. Yes, there are conversation that need to happen and mundane activities that get prioritized, but you can further your connection while having fun too.   Today, I simply want to offer two recommendations to you that I believe will bring you closer with your kids. I will give you a look into each resource, give...

Many dads constantly wrestle with the balancing of family and career. We know we have to make money but we also have to be around the ones we are making money for. There is a tension and a stretching we are much to familiar with.   This week is not about solutions but about encouragement to keep your family first and a reason why you should. When we prioritize our families, we are qualifying ourse...

Love. Everyone wants it but so many do not actually understand it. Too often love gets replaced with lust and infatuation, or it becomes a spoken feeling to cover our selfishness. Love is something we feel and it is something that we consciously believe in our mind, but love also has a look.   I want to speak to the side of love that we can so easily neglect – the actions. It is one thing for us t...

One of the most uncomfortable things for dads is having ‘the talk’ with their sons. Dads often struggle with what to say, how to say it, and secretly hope they can get by without saying anything. Fortunately, the topic of sex does not have to be uncomfortable. I’m joined today by Dr. Danny Huerta, Vice President of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family, to learn more about how we can successf...

No man has a desire to be lousy at something they are doing. All of us desire to be excellent. As Christian men, we should especially strive to be excellent because we are instructed to do what we do as if we are doing it for the Lord (Colossians 3:23). The problem we often run into, is not knowing what it actually takes to be excellent.   I am joined by Pastor Wayne Francis, to talk about the top...

The late Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., in his famous speech stated, “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” His attention was not on the surface level but on what was within.   This desire of Dr. King, is similar to the desire we should have of ourselves as dads. We sho...

According to the CDC, about 5,700 children are born with Down’s Syndrome in the United States each year. This presents a huge learning curve and adjustment of expectations for parents. However, there is a path forward.   I am join today by Aaron Rocamontes, whose oldest son (10) has Down’s Syndrome. Aaron has dealt with the fears and questions and arrived at some beautiful revelations regarding ra...

Good intentions often fail our kids and sometimes act as an excuse we hide behind. Good intentions are like something that looks great on paper but fails miserably when applied to reality.   The responsibility and calling on us as dads is too great to approach it with only good intentions. If we mean well but are ignorant and unintentional, we will let our children down. We cannot allow that to ha...

Christmas may truly be the most wonderful time of the year. For us as Christians, it is a time where we heavily reflect upon the birth of our savior, Jesus. We focus on giving, joy, and love which was modeled to us by Christ, but there is something about Christmas that is most important for us to grasp as dads. In Matthew 1:23, we read that a virgin will conceive, birth a son, and his name will be...

You have probably spent way too much money this Christmas on presents for your kids but there is a gift they desire most that money cannot buy — you.   Every kid adores their dad and longs for time and experiences with them. They’ll love their toys and games but dads have a way of making everything more enjoyable.   Let this episode serve as a motivation and reminder for you that the greatest thin...

It’s the holiday season and we all have at least one unwanted guest joining us — chaos.   No matter how much we hope to avoid it, chaos is one of those inevitable things that always presents itself. The harder we try to avoid it, the more we come face to face with it.   While we can’t eliminate chaos, we can learn to deal with it properly. I’ve got three tips that work tremendously well when handl...

All of us, as dads, have brokenness in our past that causes us to choose how we will live in the present. That ongoing decision and effort ultimately become the legacy we leave behind.   I sat down with Ian Barnett, better known as ASAP Preach, to talk about fatherhood. He opens up about his past, involving molestation and drugs, his efforts in the present, and the legacy he hopes to leave behind...

Fatherhood is no easy journey and it does not get easier when you decide to be intentional and engaged. Being a dad continues to grow complicated as things change and you start new practices. All of the changes and newness can easily make you want to quit. Today, I want to encourage you to not despise your small beginnings. The start is almost always the most challenging but fatherhood is a challe...

As dads, we make a lot of mistakes. When we think about these moments, we probably all do the same things and that is we only see the mistakes that involve our kids. There is a huge mistake that is so easy for us to make as dads but this mistake happens with our wives. In this episode we will focus on marriage, what it should look like, what God calls good, and one mistake that we need to stop mak...

There is a lie we tell ourselves as men. We convince ourselves that we do not need help. We believe we can rub some dirt on it and it will feel better when it stops hurting. The truth is all of us need help and a lot more than we probably realize.   I’m joined by my friend Dr. Chad Flowers, a pastor and licensed counselor, to discuss our need for help. We dive into why we need it and explore multi...

When you think about integrity you probably think about doing what is good, what is right, and doing those things with excellence. This is an understood, culturally accepted, idea of integrity. It is also a vital part of integrity, but it is not all there is to the term.   Integrity is an element that makes us worth being in a relationship with. This is more than something we want as dads, it is s...

When we read through wisdom literature in the Bible one thing becomes clear, we do not want to be fools. The fool does not have a great ending and there are a plethora of negative sentiments made about the fool. However, Proverbs 29:20, tells us that the person who speaks quickly, without thinking, has less hope than a fool.   How we speak matters. As dads it is easy to speak quickly to our childr...

One of the most common pieces of advice given from super successful individuals is bet on yourself. We have to believe that what we are doing is meaningful and that we have a purpose that is worth pursuing even through failures. But there is a reason the super successful individuals are a minority, most people give up on themselves.   I am joined today by my friend and executive director of Manhoo...

While running and exercise are great choices for us, that is not what today’s episode is about.   In Luke 15, Jesus paints a picture of his identity by telling us a story of a dad with two sons. Most of the time we get focused on the prodigal, but our focus should be on the dad.   The dad in this story has a son that acted selfishly and foolishly, and another who stayed quiet and stuck around. How...

Children are gifts from God but unfortunately we live in a world where predators wait in the shadows. While most of us think it could never happen to our children, there are things we simply do not know.   The sad reality is that one in five boys and one in three girls are victims of sexual abuse, and the abuse typically begins between the ages of 3 and 5. As dads devoted to serving our children a...

“Can you help me,” may be the most unspoken phrase by men, but it shouldn’t be. If we want to thrive as fathers and be the dads our children need us to be, we need to ask for help. In order to do this, we need people in our lives that we can ask for help.   This week’s episode is committed to showing you that good dads ask for help and surround themselves with community. We were designed by God to...

As men we universally desire four things: power, money, wisdom, and sex. It’s very easy for us to crave and pursue these desires too much, getting lost in a childish demand for more, more, more.   While power, money, wisdom, and sex are all great things; what do you think you would find if you obtained as much as you desired in each of these areas? Someone has done and what they discovered might s...