Torera Sotinwa
Family Meeting
“Family Meeting: where wahala meets wisdom”Hosted by Torera - a lawyer, writer and storyteller - , this podcast explores how intergenerational trauma, culture and silence shape African and minority families. From discipline and migration, to love, faith, money and marriage, each episode brings together voices across generations to unpack the past, confront the present and imagine healing futures. It’s not the usual family meeting of shouting aunties and takeaway jollof. This one is about breaking cycles, building bridges and finding laughter on the wayPull up a chair. Healing starts here.
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Torera Sotinwa
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May 12, 2026
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Episodes
"Say It With Your Chest!" Healing From Emotional Silence ft Kelechi Okafor | S.1 Ep.13 12.05.2026 29:50
In Part 2 of our conversation with Kelechi Okafor, we explore what healing from emotional silence actually looks like. From vulnerability and therapy to relationships, family, and self-expression, this episode is about learning to speak honestly after growing up believing emotions were dangerous. 🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
“We Don’t Cry Here” | The Cost of Silence in African Homes ft. Kelechi Okafor | S.1 Ep.12 06.05.2026 28:50
In many African homes, silence is taught as respect...but what happens when children grow up holding everything in? In this episode of Family Meeting , Kelechi Okafor joins us to unpack emotional silence, vulnerability, anger, and self-expression in African families. From “I’m fine” culture to finding your voice as an adult, this is an honest conversation about healing what we were taught to suppr...
Why Sex Is Still Taboo in African Homes ‼️🤐| Shame, Silence & Intimacy | S.1 Ep.11 07.04.2026 1:00:51
“Good girls don’t talk about sex.” But what happens when that silence follows you into adulthood… into relationships… into marriage? In this episode of Family Meeting, we unpack the silent struggle with intimacy in African homes - how shame, culture, and religion shape the way we understand sex, connection, and ourselves. From misinformation to difficult conversations, we explore what happens when...
Healing the First Daughter | Unlearning Duty & Setting Boundaries | S.1 Ep.9 24.03.2026 31:25
What does it look like for the “strong one” to finally choose herself? In Part 2 of our First Daughter series, we explore healing - from setting boundaries and releasing guilt to learning how to rest, receive, and redefine success beyond survival. This is a conversation about softness, self-worth, and reclaiming your identity. 🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
The First Daughter Burden: When Responsibility Becomes Your Personality | S.1 Ep.9 17.03.2026 31:37
What happens when you stop being a child too soon? In this episode of Family Meeting , we explore the first daughter burden - from parentification and pressure to the silent expectation to hold everything together. It’s an honest conversation about identity, responsibility, and what it means to grow up feeling like the “second mum.” 🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
How Do You Raise Confident Black Children in a Racist World? | African Diaspora Parenting & Identity | S.1 Ep.8 10.03.2026 27:15
How do you raise confident Black children in a world that still stereotypes them? In this episode of Family Meeting , Uju Asika returns to discuss parenting in the African diaspora - from teaching cultural pride and navigating racism to raising children who feel rooted in their identity. It’s a conversation about healing, belonging, and creating a freer future for the next generation. 🎙️ Family Me...
Being Black in a White World: African Childhoods, Racism & Identity | S.1 Ep.7 24.02.2026 27:45
How do you navigate racism in childhood before you even have the language to understand it? In this episode of Family Meeting , we explore what it means to grow up African in Britain - navigating identity, migration, racism, and belonging from a young age. From early exposure to discrimination and silence around pain, to learning how to exist between cultures, this conversation unpacks the emotion...
Love, Dating & Marriage Nigerian Style | A Family Meeting Before My Traditional Wedding | S.1 Ep.6 17.02.2026 59:56
Recorded just days before my traditional wedding, this episode of Family Meeting brings my mum, aunty, and uncle together for a funny, honest conversation about love, dating, weddings, and marriage across generations. From old-school romance and wedding politics to gender roles and hard marriage lessons, this is a warm, nostalgic, and insightful family conversation. 🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahal...
“Who Is the Modern Man Meant to Be?” | Redefining Masculinity in a Changing World | S.1 Ep.5 11.02.2026 28:28
In this episode of Family Meeting, we unpack the modern crisis of masculinity - from shifting gender roles and feminism to vulnerability, identity, and healthy manhood. We explore why many men feel confused or pressured in today’s world, how inherited ideas of masculinity still shape behaviour, and what strength looks like when it’s rooted in emotional honesty rather than silence or control. This...
‘Life Is Hard… Would It Be Bad If I Wasn’t Here?’ | Men, Vulnerability & Modern Masculinity S.1 Ep.4 04.02.2026 26:09
We unpack modern masculinity, emotional silence, and what it means to be strong without being disconnected. From inherited ideas of manhood to vulnerability, mental health, and non-toxic masculinity, this is a conversation about choosing connection over survival. 🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom.
“From Scarcity to Abundance: The Mindset That Actually Grows Your Bank Account” | S.1 Ep.3 27.01.2026 21:27
Joy David (founder of “Wealth From Scratch”) is back for another episode about upgrading your mindset, your skills, and your confidence, so YOUR bank account can follow 💨💨 Watch last week’s episode to learn more about her come-up story from a poor home to 100k+ revenue💰, paying her sister’s tuition & putting her mum on a salary! 🎙️ Family Meeting - where wahala meets wisdom What’s one belief ab...
“Why Should I Go Broke Trying to Impress Other Broke People” 💰💸 | Money Matters w. Joy S.1 Ep.2 20.01.2026 28:07
Money isn’t just money in our communities - it’s pressure, pride, and survival. In this episode of Family Meeting, we unpack Black tax, inherited money habits, and the culture of “wearing your wealth.” Our guest shares her journey from growing up in a face-me-I-slap-you house to funding her sisters’ university education, putting her mum on a salary, earning £10k+ monthly, and working toward £1 mil...
“Bahia Is Africa in Brazil 🇧🇷🌍 | Yoruba Roots, Candomblé & Black Identity” S.1 Ep.1 13.01.2026 1:00:27
Bahia holds the heartbeat of Africa in Brazil 🔥 In this special Family Meeting episode, we sit with a native of Bahia to explore Afro-Brazilian identity, Yoruba roots, and how Candomblé emerged as a powerful act of resistance from African traditional practices. We also unpack the hidden structures of racism in Brazil, the myth of racial harmony, and what it means to be Black in one of the largest...
How can we be Besties with the Parents? Bridging Generations & Breaking Cycles | Ep.3 06.10.2025 1:20:48
So, we’ve talked about the trauma. We’ve heard from our parents’ generation. Now… how do we actually heal? In this final part of our launch series, host Torera brings everyone back to the table - the younger generation, the parents, and a psychologist - to talk honestly about what healing looks like in real life. We unpack the myths, the awkward apologies, and the slow steps toward peace: 💭 How d...
“My father was my first bully” - The Crazy Ways in which Intergenerational Trauma Impact Us | Ep.1 04.10.2025 1:22:13
It’s wild how much of what we call “personality” is actually inherited pain. In this first episode of Family Meeting, we unpack the crazy, unexpected ways intergenerational trauma shows up - in how we love, parent, argue, and even chase success. From “tough love” and silent homes to perfectionism and people-pleasing, we explore how unhealed family wounds still shape us today. 💭 In this episode: ...
The Surprising Reasons Our Parents Behaved That Way | Ep.2 04.10.2025 1:11:28
We’ve talked about how intergenerational trauma impacted us… but what about the generation that came before? In this second episode of Family Meeting, we sit down with a therapist and a pastor from the older generation to uncover the pressures, fears, and unhealed experiences that shaped their parenting. From survival during migration and poverty, to colonial legacies and religious expectations, w...
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