Families Matter Most

On the fence? This isn't for you   if you think maybe you'll give losing weight a try.   This is for you if you desperately want to feel stronger and lighter, inside and out.  This is for you if you've had success in the past but it didn't last. This is for you if you already know what to do- you just need someone to hold you accountable to actually do.the.things!    Jenn Dean is a Life Coach, Per...

Are you tired, cranky, and overwhelmed? I have three questions for you to memorize for these moments to help decrease the conflict in your home. These questions are for after the conflict. To wrap up the conflict, while helping kids take responsibility and learn self-control. Would you love it if your child came to you and took responsibility instead of blaming? This works! Want to have more joy a...

Help! What happened to my kid?!   Out of nowhere, it seems your child has been replaced. Your sweet, agreeable little one is now challenging you. They're moody and sensitive. If they are in Grade 6 or older, they're experiencing the adolescent "angst" that makes this season of life so difficult for our kids.  Let's help our kids as they journey towards acceptance and belonging.    For more parenti...

They just won't do it. It doesn't matter what I do, they just won't do it. Is this you? Self- Control is so important. Being in control of oneself is tough, we as adults still struggle in this area. And your littles can start working on this, with your help. As soon as your baby can sit up, you can start teaching your children self- control.  Imagine, your kids never having to lose control. Never...

Think about a good thing in your life. Something you're really proud of. Something you've accomplished recently… and BOOM! Did you notice the negative thought that immediately follows the positive one?  "Yeah, sure the kids had a great day, but you'll never get two days in a row!" Or, "Yes you did a great job at work, but it's only a matter of time before you fail." "You stuck to your health goals...

Want to transform your home?   If you apply this philosophy today, your kids will respond immediately.  It's called Tying Strings, and it's a metaphor for building great relationships no matter what age your kids are. This way of looking at connecting with your kids will help you be intentional when the kids are behaving great, but I'll also share how this can help you even when you have to discip...

Do you struggle with what to say to your kids?  As parents we want to love our kids unconditionally, but sometimes our words don't share that same message to our kids.  If you have fallen into the trap of saying phrases you regret, I am here to help. We won't be just talking about what you shouldn't say. We will also look at what you SHOULD say to your kids. I'm a mom a get it.  We all want to rea...

Feel overwhelmed? Where do you start? Have you had a day when you look around and realize your marriage isn't where you want it to be? When you look at your kids and admit that it's not going so great? My guest on the podcast is Dwayne Moffat of The Imperfect Parent. We talk about the process of personal development and how this actually looks, focusing on three epiphanies that have helped Dwayne...

What do you do when you're in a hard season?    Stress might cause you to explode and take it out on the people around you, or implode and give up altogether. Do you burn up or burn out?   When you're under pressure, there are three things you need to stay connected to in order to come through it. If you're in a hard place right now, I need you to focus on these three things only. Everything else...

What would your life be like if you had more energy? If you had less pain and stiffness? If you slept better at night? If you managed stress and had more patience? Do you think it would affect your parenting and marriage? You bet!  I've done all the fad diets and exercise crazes. I've experimented with macros and muscle fibers, and I've researched the studies to see what is most effective in real...

I get more emails from parents of 7 year old's than ANY OTHER AGE!  Kids aged 6-8 experience a unique developmental hurdle and it changes everything - you used to be able to give an instruction, but now there's constant pushback. Your sweet 4 year old has now become willful and defiant.  Is it like they've regressed back into emotional outbursts and tantrums? It feels like you're in the twilight z...

"I shouldn't have to reward them for something basic like making their bed!"  In this podcast, let's break down behavior and come up with strategies to reach our kids hearts. Incentives allow us to teach which behaviors and qualities we want to see more of. The good news is, if we do it right, it will internalize into character that expands into other areas of life. For More details visit www.fami...

We have a BONUS podcast this week!  I've received so many great questions about how to get started teaching kids responsibility that I created another podcast to help you!  Some feedback from parents: "It's easy to get overwhelmed and not know where to start, but now I finally have a rough plan. I know it will look differently for each of my kids, but at least I can make sure we get some great lif...

There are so many good reasons kids should have to help out the family with regular work around the house. Learning how to do things you don't want to do is a fundamental skill for life success! Character qualities like self control and time management are developed when kids are lovingly guided to learn hard work and responsibility, and we want our kids to feel confident when they eventually laun...

Think of a situation where you took something personally: Did you overreact, yell at your kids, or become offended at your spouse?  Our consistent actions always follow our heart, not our logic. Our behavior stems from our core beliefs, and if you believe a lie in your heart it will be impossible to make lasting change in our lives.  Which lie do you believe? I'm worthless I'm helpless I'm unlovea...

When kids face adversity, they can react with anger, tears, or just shut down completely. Often, our own frustration doesn't help either! Our kids already know what it feels like to fail. They need to learn resilience. Learn how to reduce the emotions and break down hard things into achievable tasks. With your help, your kid can do hard things. For more details visit www.familiesmattermost.com  

Develop three habits to help kids fail forward.   Do your kids struggle with failure? Tantrums, slamming doors and screaming out insults are common behaviors for kids that struggle with frustration.   How can we help our kids deal with mistakes and failure?   Cultivate a culture in your home that accepts failure, help kids become successful even in the midst of failure and help kids to learn from...

Are you feeling like life is moving too fast? Is Everything happening all at once?  The word for this week is overwhelmed.  When we feel stressed and chaos all the time we move into constant overwhelm and will reach burn out- UNLESS we do something to change.  I have made these changes. I have recently put this into practice in my own life, and you can too. Head on over to my website wwwfamiliesma...

Some children are skilled at using words.  Early talkers? Great communicator? Argumentative? Liar? Words are their super power, and though some kids can articulate themselves quite well, they quickly learn that words are a tool to manipulate and hurt others. Learn how to create positive habits in your kids, and to encourage them to use their words for good. You have everything you need to be the p...

What are you trying to prove? That you belong? That you are successful? That you deserve to be where you are? That you're worth it? Overcome feelings of inadequacy! Reach your goals without feeling like a fraud. Identify the warning signs, learn some tools to climb out of perfectionism and take a healthy step towards self-acceptance.  For more details visit www.familiesmattermost.com  

You are a limited resource. I'm getting real on the podcast and I hope this is the wake up you need to actually change your mind and be kind to yourself.  I want you to live authentically, connect with your kids, and reach your goals.  Click here for your complimentary mini-session to see how coaching can help you overcome your biggest challenge- yourself.

How many times have you said, "This is it, I'm doing it, I'm going to lose weight!" The first couple of days, you were gung ho and ready to work, but it was tough. The next few days were a grind, but you were determined- and it got tougher. By the end of the week the world was falling apart, nothing was working, everything was a huge struggle and then the brownie buffet came calling. Ever been the...

Whether you're running a side hustle or a full time business, you might be treating it too much like a hobby to get the results you want. Not having a boss leaning over your shoulder means you can talk yourself into naps, social media spirals, and "working" lunches that are really just an excuse to visit friends. You know I'm right! I'm sharing what I learned the hard way, so you can maximize your...

What are the symptoms of anxiety? How is it different from stress? In this podcast, coach Jenn Dean explains what anxiety feels like and what are the signs that it's getting worse. She talks about Three Levels of Anxiety- and the symptoms aren't what you would think! Let's grow in empathy for ourselves and the people around us. www.familiesmattermost.com  for more details.

Vulnerable conversations are tough. Join mine.  I interviewed my sister-in-law about her experiences as a Black woman and mother. I'm thankful for Anthonia's honesty. I learned about some of my blind spots. I'm so grateful for her willingness to share her heart when, truthfully, words probably fall flat. I deeply regret that it took me this long to ask these questions, but Anthonia doesn't want pe...