Fake Love and Flying Monkeys

A victim finds evidence of the narcissist's lies and betrayals and confronts them.  It is natural they would feel a sense of vindication. But what ACTUALLY happens when you confront the narcissist with your evidence?  Find out in this episode! In this episode, we discuss.... * How does the narcissist react to your proof? * Will your evidence result in accountability? * Will they continue to d...

Going no contact with a narcissistic, toxic parent is difficult.  It takes time to understand this parent is never going to change and that you have the right to stop the abuse. The fear, obligation and guilt the narcissistic parent instils in their adult child keeps their child stuck in the abusive environment, where they can never pay off the debt for being born. In this episode I speak with Dr...

Narcissists have a way of reappearing in your life, often when you least expect it. After enduring the pain and chaos of narcissistic abuse, it's natural to ask yourself, "Why do they come back?" The narcissist will 'hoover' you back to regain control of you and to make sure you never forget about them. (Hoover meaning to suck you back, the term being coined from the Hoove...

It is so important to get the right lawyer when you are dealing with a narcissist. In this episode I speak with Karin Walker. Karin is an award winning lawyer who understands the narcissistic abuse cycle and her expertise in representing victims has also culminated in her being the author of several books that provide invaluable information around navigating court with a narcissist.   Karin's...

The Narcissist will cause chaos in the relationships of their children to bring the focus back on to them. The narcissist experiences feelings of envy, abandonment and subsequent anger toward their child and will sabotage the relationships of their adult children.   They need the unlimited source of attention from their adult child, and it is a betrayal when their child is in a relationship that m...

After everything the narcissist put you through, seeing them seemingly happier, more affectionate, or even more committed to someone else can feel like a dagger to the heart. One of the most painful and confusing questions survivors of narcissistic abuse often ask is: “Will the narcissist treat the next person better?” And it’s no wonder —  In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys , I break...

An understanding of coercive Control, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse are not issues that the average person associates with police. Historically, discrimination, racism, and domestic violence stereotypes suggest the police 'have no idea' and take the situation in front of their domestic violence call out, for what it seems. In this episode I discuss with Detective Police Offic...

The Narcissist will destroy all that is good about you because all of those amazing traits and qualities make them feel bad about themselves. Once the narcissist has hooked you in, the devaluation stage must and will begin. They devalue you to punish you for being 'better' than them in any way, and to bring you under their control. In this episode we unpack.... *   Why does the narcissis...

A Counselor reveals her own experience with narcissistic abusers. Mental health professionals are not immune to the powerful trauma bond and the manipulative tactics of the narcissist.  In this episode I talk to Barb. She bravely talks about the trauma she endured and how she used her own trauma to support other victims. Barb is clearly a counselor who 'gets it'.  I hope you feel validat...

In the LGBTQ+ community, victims of narcissistic abuse/domestic violence do not have the same support as victims of domestic violence in a heterosexual relationship . David, a young gay man tells his story,  revealing the trauma he suffered as a victim of narcissistic abuse.  He also offers much needed insights into the lack of trust the lgbtqia+ community has in a system that has not protected th...

What if you have proof they're a narcissist? You've done the research, and they tick all the boxes and appear to have at least 5 of the 9 traits for narcissistic personality disorder, and you want to tell them you know!  Narcissists don't usually take kindly to criticism as we know, and In this episode, we look at what happens when you tell the narcissist you're on to them. Let...

The narcissistic sees any attempt to discuss the children's needs as something that will benefit YOU. The challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist are immense.  Co-parenting can be difficult and requires work when there are two non-disordered parents trying to establish a new life for themselves and their children. Throw a narcissist in the mix and all bets are off.  In this episode we un...

In this powerful episode, we share the story of "Marie," a courageous survivor of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse. Despite fearing her abuser and choosing to remain anonymous, Marie bravely recounts her journey from trauma to recovery. She sheds light on the challenges she faces within the United States' family court system, highlighting how it often remains ill-informed ab...

Gaslighting is used by the narcissist to confuse you and make you feel crazy. The cunning abusive strategy that narcissists use to manipulate their victim's reality and control their perceptions by eroding their self-confidence and fostering dependency. In this episode, discover effective strategies to recognize and resist gaslighting tactics, reclaiming your truth and empowerment. In this ep...

The narcissist's smear campaign is designed to isolate the victim and destroy their reputation. The narcissist's number one fear is exposure. The smear campaign is a pre-emptive strike to destroy the victim's credibility so no one believes them when they go to talk about their abuse. In this episode, I unpack... What is a smear campaign?   When does the smear campaign begin?   How d...

This pervasive question arises because victims of narcissistic abuse are frequently manipulated into feeling like the abuser through tactics like Reactive Abuse and DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). This is the question we answer in this life-changing episode. In this episode, we delve into this crucial question that plagues survivors of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence, p...

Why don't victims of abuse just  leave? Victims often struggle to break free from abusive relationships. In this eye-opening episode we answer this critical question. We explore the complex dynamics of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence in the context of trauma bonding, and NOT Co-dependency.  Join me as I dive deep into the concept of trauma bonding to understand why . We unpack... Wha...

How can someone who professes to love you be so cruel?  It's a  horrifying thought, the possibility that your entire relationship was built on lies and the love you felt was entirely one-sided. Understanding the complexities of narcissistic relationships can be overwhelming, but I'm here to help you make sense of it all. I unpack: What love means to the narcissist Discover the unique and...

What is a Narcissist? It's just a buzzword to many, but for the victims,  it's a devastating,  often very covert form of abuse that destroys their lives, and their is little support and understanding for them.   In this 1st full length episode I explain what a narcissist actually is. It's become a buzzword and so many people use the word without knowing the true meaning, which minim...

Well Fake Love is finally here! In this introductory episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, Nova Gibson gives you a breakdown of what you can expect in this podcast relating to all toxic relationships involving a narcissist. This episode '#0', is uploaded at the same time as episode #1 so you don't have to wait! Subscribe now so you never miss an episode.  P.S. If you have a narci...