Fake Love and Flying Monkeys

"Narcissists have a playbook, and it’s designed to break you." In narcissistic relationships, a chillingly predictable cycle plays out. First, the narcissist sweeps their target off their feet with overwhelming love, affection, and attention—this is known as love-bombing. But just as quickly as they idolised their partner, they begin to devalue them, leading to the inevitable and devasta...

"The silent treatment isn’t just being ignored; it’s psychological warfare." If you've ever been ignored by a narcissist, you know the devastating power of the silent treatment. It’s not just emotional neglect—it’s psychological torture. It makes you feel invisible, worthless, and desperate for validation. This passive-aggressive mind game is designed to punish and control you, and...

"A dog whistle is silent to everyone else, but deafening to its target." Ever had that moment where a narcissist says something that seems harmless to everyone else, but you know it’s a deliberate dig aimed just at you? That’s the narcissistic dog whistle in action— a manipulative tactic designed to control, confuse, and undermine you while keeping their hands clean. In this episode, we...

No Contact from a toxic relationship is not just a strategy, it’s a declaration of self-respect. Going No Contact or using the Grey Rock method—which strategy is right for you? Narcissistic abuse survivors often face the dilemma of which tactic to use when cutting ties with a narcissist. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down both strategies, explaining when and how to use t...

The first step to healing from Narcissistic Abuse is recognising the red flags you missed. Have you ever looked back on a toxic relationship and wondered, "How did I not see this coming?" You're not alone. Narcissists are masters of manipulation, and their conditioning keeps you second-guessing yourself at every turn. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we’re unpacking...

"She made you doubt yourself—now you're doing it in every relationship." If you grew up with a narcissistic mother, that emotional abuse didn’t just stay in childhood—it follows you into adulthood, sabotaging how you love, trust, and relate to others. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we break down how narcissistic parenting creates lasting trauma, including people-pl...

Narcissists don’t forget to give you closure—they refuse to. If you’ve ever been stuck waiting for closure from a narcissist, you’re not alone. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we explore why narcissists never give closure—and how this is one of their most damaging narcissistic abuse tactics. "Their silence is a weapon, not a mistake." Whether you're dealing with gas...

This isn’t just heartbreak—it’s psychological warfare." In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m joined by Tracy Rector—award-winning film producer, speaker, author, and domestic violence survivor. Tracy shares her journey of healing from narcissistic abuse and how it inspired the critically acclaimed film No Ordinary Love, named one of USA Today’s “biggest summer movies”...

"The narcissist’s version of you isn’t real—it’s a weapon." In the final episode of this powerful two-part series on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dig even deeper into the dark world of narcissist smear campaigns. You’ll hear more of the top 20 lies narcissists use to destroy your reputation, isolate you, and maintain control. "They don’t just twist the truth—they set it on fire....

"The narcissist’s lies aren’t random—they’re strategic character assassination." In Part 1 of this explosive two-part series on Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I reveal the top 20 smear campaign lies narcissists use to destroy your reputation and play the victim. These manipulative tactics are designed to make you look unstable, abusive, or untrustworthy—while they gain sympathy and contro...

"Conflict isn’t chaos to the narcissist—it’s control." In this revealing episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into the narcissist’s obsession with manufactured conflict. Ever feel like you're walking on eggshells? Narcissists thrive on drama—and it’s no accident. They don’t want peace—they want power. From twisting your words to fabricating stories, narcissists use...

"They don’t mellow with age—they just master new ways to manipulate." In this insightful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we explore the 10 key behaviours of the ageing narcissist—from guilt-tripping to rewriting history, and everything in between. "Age doesn’t soften narcissism—it sharpens the need for control." As narcissists grow older, their usual tools—like charm a...

How do You Set Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse? If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How can I start setting boundaries after everything I’ve been through?” this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys is exactly what you need. Boundaries are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, but they can feel like unfamiliar territory when you’ve spent so much time walking on eggshells or putting som...

20 Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Tips for 2025 – Happy New Year! Welcome to a brand-new year and a fresh chapter in your healing journey! In this empowering episode I share 20 transformative tips to help you recover from narcissistic abuse in 2025. Whether you’ve just left a toxic relationship or are deep in the healing process, these practical strategies will inspire hope and give you the tools you...

This isn’t just about surviving this Christmas —it's about reclaiming your peace and setting boundaries that protect you.  In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of going no contact with a narcissistic family or partner for the first time during Christmas. The first Christmas of no contact can produce a myriad of emotions, from sadness to anger to relief and peace.  Yo...

 "Wolf of Wall Street"s ex wife  Dr Nadine Macaluso, shares her story. In this episode I speak with the inspirational Dr. Nadine Macaluso, known to her patients as Dr. Nae. Dr Nae is the real-life inspiration behind Naomi Belfort's character in "The Wolf of Wall Street." She survived a turbulent eight-year marriage to Jordan Belfort, marked by abuse, greed, and trauma. Fol...

If you have a female narcissist in your life or you know someone who does,  then you don't want to miss this episode! In this episode, I talk about the female narcissist and the toxic abuse strategies she uses. Narcissistic abuse is not gender specific, and female narcissists (Mothers, Friends, Colleagues and Bosses) can be just as destructive as their male counterparts. Female narcissists an...

In this episode, I'm joined by Amanda Stern. Amanda provides amazing insights into healing from narcissistic abuse through journaling. She empowers her clients and community to embrace journaling as a path to self-discovery, self-compassion, and self-love so they can own their worth, find success on their own terms, and write their way to a life they love. We discuss how journaling helps you...

Have you ever felt like you’re losing your mind when dealing with a narcissist? Like no matter what you say or do, somehow, you’re the one who’s “too sensitive” or “overreacting”? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I discuss one of the most common—and maddening—questions victims of narcissistic abuse ask: Are they doing this on purpose? Spoiler alert: Yes, they are. I’ll break down t...

What’s driving your abuser’s behaviour?" Is it narcissism? Could it be ADHD? Or maybe it’s something else entirely? And does putting a label on it even matter when the abuse keeps happening? In this episode, I tackle these questions many victims of abuse find themselves grappling with. I talk about the differences and similarities between narcissistic traits and other conditions like ADHD, ex...

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, love, and togetherness, but what happens when a narcissist is part of the family? In this eye-opening episode, we dive into the chaos a narcissistic family member can bring to your Christmas celebrations. From subtle manipulations to outright control tactics, narcissists have a knack for making everything about them—and ruining the holiday spirit for...

DARVO is an insidious tactic narcissists use to flip the script and play the victim. DARVO, which stands for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender, is a manipulative strategy that leaves victims feeling confused, powerless, and silenced. But what exactly is DARVO, and how can you spot it in real-time? In this Episode, we unpack: The tell-tale signs of DARVO in action Why narcissists rely o...

Have you ever found yourself caught in the middle of someone else's drama, unsure how you ended up there? That’s triangulation at play. Narcissists thrive on turning people against each other to maintain power, sow confusion, and deflect attention from their behaviour. Whether it’s in families, friendships, workplaces, or romantic relationships, this tactic can leave victims feeling isolated,...

Leaving a narcissist should mean freedom, right? Unfortunately, for many, it’s just the start of another battle - the cruel and calculated ways narcissists try to maintain control long after the relationship ends, also known as POST SEPARATION ABUSE.  In this episode I'm joined by Sybil Cummin, who provides her incredible insights and expertise around the issue of Post Separation Abuse.  Sybi...

While their methods may seem less obvious than those of the overt narcissist, covert narcissists are just as destructive. They operate behind a mask of humility, kindness, or even victimhood, all while strategically eroding any joy in your life.  In this eye-opening episode, I take you on a deep dive into the subtle yet devastating tactics that covert narcissists use to chip away at your happiness...