Fake Love and Flying Monkeys

What happens when the abuse doesn’t leave bruises—but instead rewires your nervous system? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying I dive deep into the reality of Complex PTSD (CPTSD) as it relates to narcissistic abuse. "Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just hurt—it conditions you to expect pain as love." Whether you’ve left the narcissist or are still untangling from the trauma, this episode...

Forgiveness is often misunderstood, especially by those who haven’t lived through the manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse narcissists inflict. This episode will help you understand Should you forgive the narcissist? It's a question that haunts many survivors of narcissistic abuse—and today, we’re unpacking it. In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I explore the...

She seems so sweet—how could she be the problem? That’s exactly the mask the covert female narcissist wears while slowly chipping away at your confidence, your voice, and your sense of reality. In today’s powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we’re pulling back the curtain on 10 subtle but deeply damaging ways the covert female narcissist erodes your self-esteem—and often, your entire...

If you’ve ever been cheated on by a narcissist, you know it’s not just betrayal—it’s psychological warfare. In this raw and eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys , I’m breaking down the top 5 reasons narcissists betray their partners —and trust me, it’s not because of anything you did or didn’t do. If you’ve ever been blindsided by infidelity or left questioning your worth after a na...

Feel like you're walking on eggshells all the time, constantly explaining your spending, or having to ask permission for your own money? You might be experiencing coercive control and financial control — one of the most insidious forms of abuse. “It’s not about money. It’s about power.” Need Support, Extra Resource s?    Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here      In thi...

"Same game. Different masks." Covert and overt narcissists may look like opposites—but don’t be fooled. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I expose 5 unmissable differences between covert and overt narcissists, and how each uses toxic tactics to control, confuse and devalue you. "Covert narcissists fly under the radar. Overt narcissists want the spotlight." Need S...

They know enough to hide it from others, but do they actually know what they're doing? In this powerful episode, I dive deep into a question almost every survivor of narcissistic abuse asks: Do narcissists actually know they’re hurting you? Or are they just so emotionally disconnected that they genuinely believe they’re blameless? Need Support, Extra Resource s?    Resources and Online Counse...

Real love heals. Narcissistic love destroys. Do you know the difference between true love and narcissistic love? While healthy love is built on trust, respect, and emotional safety, narcissistic love is a trap—an illusion designed to control and manipulate you. In this episode I’ll unpack how narcissists mimic real love in the beginning, only to shift into cycles of devaluation and emotional abuse...

Have you ever lashed out in frustration after relentless emotional torment, only to be told you are the problem? That is reactive abuse, and it is not the same as the calculated, intentional cruelty of narcissistic abuse. They push you until you break—then call you the abuser.  In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we expose how narcissists provoke emotional reactions and then twist rea...

Being discarded by a narcissist feels brutal—like you never mattered. One moment, you're their everything. The next, you're replaced, ignored, or worse—mocked. But here's the truth they don't want you to know: narcissists do look back. They do miss the people who once fed their ego. And yes, they often return—but not for the reasons you think. Need Support, Extra Resource s?   ...

Covert narcissists hide in plain sight, using subtle tactics to break you down. In this second part of our series, we delve deeper into the covert narcissist’s manipulative tactics that leave victims feeling invalidated, confused, and emotionally drained. If you’ve ever felt manipulated or questioned your worth in a relationship, this episode is a must-listen. Need Support, Extra Resource s?    Re...

"They don’t yell. They don’t rage. But they destroy you—quietly." In this 2 part series of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I expose 10 subtle but devastating ways the covert narcissist devalues you. Need Support, Extra Resource s?    Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here      From silent treatment and manufactured conflict to jokes that aren’t funny and fake concern...

They replace you like you never existed. If you’ve ever been discarded by a narcissist only to see them jump straight into a new relationship, this episode is for you. I explain why narcissists move on so fast, how they pre-groom new supply, and why their “perfect new relationship” is just another manipulation tactic. It’s not love—it’s control. Need Support, Extra Resource s?    Resources and Onl...

Their love disappears the moment you stop letting them control you. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we uncover what really happens when a narcissist loses control over you—and why their reaction is never about love or regret. Need Support, Extra Resource s?    Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here      Once their manipulation no longer works, narcissists oft...

“Children are often the silent victims in homes filled with conflict and control.” In this important episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm joined by AJ Gajjar, Parenting and Trauma Consultant and creator of the Trauma Healing Parenting model. Together, we explore how domestic violence, high-conflict divorce, and coercive parenting impact children—and what parents and professionals can...

“When sex becomes a weapon, it’s not about love—it’s about control.” In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into how narcissists use sex as a tool for manipulation and emotional abuse. Sex, which should be an act of connection and intimacy, becomes a weapon in the hands of a narcissist, used to dominate, punish, and destabilise their partners. You’ll learn: How narcissists us...

"Covert narcissists don’t need to be loud to control you—they do it quietly, strategically, and with devastating impact." In this revealing episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I expose the manipulative tactics covert narcissists use to isolate their victims and keep them emotionally, mentally, and physically dependent. Unlike overt narcissists, covert narcissists operate in the shad...

"Healing from domestic abuse and addiction is possible—Azadeh Atzberger shares how." In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m joined by Azadeh Atzberger, a bestselling author, trauma survivor, and the founder of Finally Free Life. Azadeh has dedicated her life to empowering others to heal from the effects of domestic abuse and addiction, using her personal journey of...

"Can therapy help a narcissist change? Discover the truth behind narcissists in therapy and why victims are often the ones healing." In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into the question many victims of narcissistic abuse ask: Can a narcissist change if they go to therapy? While therapy is a vital step for survivors of narcissistic abuse, helping them untangle y...

"Is your family dynamic ruled by narcissism? Discover how narcissistic manipulation, control, and emotional abuse shape family relationships." In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we explore the damaging effects of the narcissistic family dynamic—a system built on control, manipulation, and emotional abuse. Growing up in a narcissistic family can leave you feeling...

"Discover the heartbreaking reality of narcissistic abuse and its devastating impact on families, as Ali Kessler shares her powerful story of loss and advocacy." In this emotional and eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I am joined by Ali Kessler, a passionate parent advocate, writer, and the founder of Greyson's Choice—a 501(c)(3) organisation dedicated to raising...

"Uncover the manipulative tactics flying monkeys use to control, deceive, and isolate you on behalf of the narcissist. Learn how to protect yourself from their toxic influence." In this episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, we dive into the world of flying monkeys—the enablers who work in the shadows for the narcissist. Whether they’re doing it consciously or not, these individuals...

Are you stuck in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, unsure if you’re trauma bonded or codependent? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we break down the key differences between trauma bonding and codependency, and how narcissists manipulate these dynamics to keep you trapped. "Understanding whether you’re trauma bonded or codependent is the first step in reclaiming your free...

"When a narcissist says 'You're too good for me,' they’re not showing humility—they're manipulating you." If you've ever heard this phrase in a relationship with a narcissist, you've experienced a classic narcissistic manipulation tactic. While it may seem like they’re being self-aware, this statement is designed to create emotional confusion and keep you em...

Covert narcissists are experts at mind games, hiding behind a facade of charm, vulnerability, or self-pity. In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m revealing the five most insidious tactics covert narcissists use—because once you spot them, you can take your power back. Unlike overt narcissists, who are loud and obvious, covert narcissists manipulate in subtle, sneaky ways. They use g...