Faith Influencer

When marriage gets difficult, most people don't make their biggest mistakes during the argument—they make them in the conversations that happen afterward. In this episode, I talk about something I've seen over and over again through years of working with couples and blended families: when you're hurting, lonely, frustrated, or feeling disconnected from your spouse, who you turn to matters more tha...

How do you really know if someone is the right person to marry—especially when blending families? In this episode, I’m tackling a question I hear often: How to Choose the Right Spouse After Divorce. Too many people make life-changing decisions based on chemistry, attraction, emotional connection, or pressure—but those things alone aren’t enough to build a healthy marriage, especially in a blended...

“You’re asking someone who didn’t hurt you to pay for pain they didn’t cause.” If that hits a little close to home, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re talking about how to rebuild trust after divorce—and why it’s so difficult, especially in a blended family or second marriage. You can be with a good person, in a healthy relationship, and still struggle with trust… not because of what they’ve...

One of the fastest ways to create chaos in your home is this…not knowing when to say yes and when to say no. I see it all the time — especially in blended families. Some parents say yes just to keep the peace…others say no to everything trying to keep control…and both end up creating problems they didn’t intend. So let me ask you this: What are you reserving your yes for? And what are you protecti...

Feeling like a guest in your own home in a blended family? You’re not the only one — and you’re not doing anything wrong. In this episode, we talk about why that feeling is actually normal… and what to do about it. We’ll walk through: - Why belonging can’t be forced - How connection comes before influence - The power of small, everyday moments - And why you need to stop measuring the relationship...

The Pressure That Breaks Blended Families is often the pressure no one prepares you for. In this episode, we’ll talk about the emotional weight that comes with being part of a blended family—especially as a stepparent. The guilt, the frustration, the unspoken thoughts, and the feeling of walking on eggshells in your own home. We’ll talk about why many of these emotions feel wrong, even though they...

Blended family problems no one prepared you for—they’re real, messy, and nothing like what you imagined. In this episode, I break down the struggles that often go unspoken: why trust takes time, why step-parent authority works differently, how loyalty to a biological parent affects kids, and why rules without relationships backfire. This is for anyone who’s been surprised by how hard blended famil...

Have you ever wondered where you really fit as a stepdad — and how to be the father figure God called you to be? I’ve been a stepdad for 16 years, and I know how confusing and heavy this role can feel. The tension, the guarded hearts, the moments when you’re not sure if you’re helping or making things worse. In this episode, I share what I’ve learned — not from theory, but from living it. We talk...

This week on the Faith Influencer Podcast, I’m sharing what may be some of the most important truth you’ll ever hear about blended families—and specifically about Blended Family Boundaries. If you’ve ever thought, “We love each other—so why is this still so hard?” this episode is for you. I break down a hard but freeing reality: love doesn’t blend a family—boundaries do. We’ll talk about why a str...

In this episode of the Faith Influencer Podcast, I finally sit down with my wife, Deana, to talk honestly about what really keeps a second marriage strong and what 16 years in a blended family has actually looked like for us. We open up about how our totally different faith backgrounds shaped the early tension in our marriage, what counseling forced us to confront, and the messy, real moments of f...

IIn this episode, we’re talking about divorce, healing, and finding yourself again. I’m opening up about one of the biggest surprises I faced after my divorce — realizing I was carrying an invisible backpack full of emotions I didn’t even know were there. Grief, shame, guilt, loneliness… all those things we try to push down and move past. But healing starts with honesty. You can’t move forward if...

We all make mistakes… but some can change the entire course of our families and relationships. In this episode, I get real about three of the most common traps we fall into: expecting our spouse to magically change after “I do,” trying to be our kids’ best friend instead of their parent, and believing we can navigate life’s storms alone. Growth requires intention — and God never designed us to car...

Have you ever caught yourself comparing your marriage or family to someone else’s? It’s easy to do—but in a blended family, comparison and withholding can quietly damage connection and joy. In this episode, I will share how to stop comparing and start loving the family you have. I will talk about what it means to let go of past expectations, open your heart fully, and build unity right where you a...

What happens to a family when the man steps back instead of stepping up? In this episode, I dig into God’s design for men to be the strong man of the house—the one who protects, leads, and loves his family with the heart of Christ. When men refuse their role, the enemy fills the gap. But when a man embraces his calling, his leadership can transform not only his family, but generations to come. It’...

How to Deal With a Narcissistic Spouse—this is a question I get asked more than you’d think. In this episode, I talk about what narcissism really is, how to recognize the traits, and what it’s like to actually live with a true narcissist. I’ll share why constantly being “nice” or giving endless validation only feeds the problem, and why what your marriage really needs is kindness with boundaries....

“The #1 Habit That Pushes Husbands Away”—nagging. In today’s episode, I dig into why nagging shows up in marriage, how it chips away at respect and intimacy, and why the more a wife nags, the less her husband responds. We’ll look at covert nagging (“we” really meaning “you”), passive-aggressive tactics like puffing or rattling dishes, and even what Proverbs says about a contentious wife. 🔔 Don't...

I’ve stepped on more than a few landmines in my blended family—and I’ve watched others lose their marriages because of them. In The #1 Mistake That Could Blow Up Your Blended Family, I’m pulling back the curtain on the hidden explosives that can tear a family apart. I’m talking about the big ones—walking into marriage without preparing, ignoring those red flags you swore you’d never overlook, buil...

How do you handle step-sibling conflict with wisdom? That’s the question a listener asked me, and it’s one so many blended families wrestle with. In this episode, we dig into the real reasons behind the tension—jealousy, competition for your attention, loyalty to a biological parent, and the emotional detachment kids often feel when their place in the family shifts. This isn’t about quick fixes—it...

Usually, we talk about how hard second marriages can be (and they are!), but today I’m taking a different approach. I want to show you why I believe they can actually be happier than the first. I’ll talk through lessons I’ve learned, things I’ve messed up, and what’s made my own second marriage so much stronger. I’ll even dive into a few things that might ruffle some feathers—but stick with me. If...

In today’s episode, we’re talking about a hot topic: Should Christians sign a prenuptial agreement? I’ve got strong thoughts on this, and I’ll share how my wife and I handled it when we got remarried—both of us bringing kids and past pain into something we wanted to be whole. I believe marriage is a covenant, not a contract. But I’ll also give you one clear exception—where a prenup might make sens...

Today’s episode takes a different turn. I’m reacting to a viral video titled “Why I Considered Divorcing My Husband.” This woman’s story has racked up millions of views and comments. On paper, she had a great husband, but she was still burned out, frustrated, and ready to walk away. She talks about the “mental load,” parenting, and how she felt unseen in her marriage. Some of it? I get. But some o...

Why Your Kids Don’t Like Your Spouse—let’s be real: your kids might not be fans of your new husband or wife, and it’s not just “a phase.” In this episode, we get into the tough stuff: why it happens, what might really be going on beneath the surface, and how to respond without losing your mind (or your family). It’s not about blaming—it’s about understanding what your kids aren’t saying out loud....

What’s the one red flag that can quietly wreck a marriage before anyone says the word “divorce”? In Communication Issues – This Is How Marriages Fall Apart, I’m getting real about something I missed in my first marriage—and something I see all the time in blended families. When communication breaks down, sarcasm replaces honesty, and we stop truly connecting, the damage adds up fast. This isn’t ab...

Sometimes your ex turns cruel — not just difficult, but cruel. She twists the truth, weaponizes the kids, and makes co-parenting a battlefield. Whether you blew it or not, no man deserves to be alienated from his kids. This one’s for the dads in the fire — the ones fighting for their place while being dragged through the mud. Straight talk on what to do, how to hold your ground, and how to lead wi...

This week, I share a question I overheard that stopped me in my tracks: “Are you done?” It was asked in a raw, real moment between two women—one heartbroken, the other full of wisdom. It made me think of so many of you walking through the messiness of marriage, especially in blended families. So, I’m bringing that question to you: Are you done? I won’t answer it for you, but I’ll walk with you thr...