Every Man’s Battle Podcast

These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle. JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their discussion on measuring recovery success. The conversation underscores the integration of inner work with outward behaviors for effective recover...

These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle. JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss ways of measuring success when in recovery for sexual integrity issues. They emphasize the importance of balancing tangible actions like step work, ther...

These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle. Men who are acting out often think the worst thing possible would be for others to find out. J.J. West and Doug Barnes discuss why that is actually the best thing that could happen. Th...

These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle. J.J. West and Doug Barnes continue the discussion on why it’s important to continue fighting for your sexual integrity, even when you are struggling, with the reminder that recovery is...

These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle. J.J. West and Doug Barnes discuss why it is important to continue fighting for your sexual integrity, even when you don’t feel like it and you’re struggling or failing. The struggle is...

JJ West and Doug Barnes reflect on what they have learned through recovery and wish they could share with younger versions of themselves to spare themselves from mistakes and heartache. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. Learn more about integrity here...

JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss how childhood sexual abuse impacts adult behavior, emphasizing the importance of therapy and the book "The Wounded Heart" by Dan Allender. They highlight three responses to abuse and three survival styles. They explain what healing involves and how faith and therapy can work together. Additionally, they discuss how shame and unresolved trauma can contribute to sexua...

JJ West and Doug Barnes continue discussing neurobiology and neurochemistry as it relates to sexual addiction. The explain the neurochemical processes in pornography use; the progression of addiction and tolerance; the impact of pornography on the brain; and how a 90-day reset can help re-train the brain. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use...

JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the impact neurobiology and neurochemistry have on sexual addiction, emphasizing the need to balance understanding of these processes with personal responsibility for choices and behavior. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensi...

JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss maintaining hope and progress in recovery when their partner feels stuck. They emphasize the importance of internalizing recovery work to address character issues rather than just completing tasks, as well as being present and empathetic to their partner’s unresolved pain. They highlight the need for a supportive community of healthy men to provide accountability an...

JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss why one's best thinking and efforts are not enough to overcome addiction, sharing that believing this lie can lead to isolation and further complications in a person’s life. They emphasize the importance of honesty, confession, repentance, community, and reliance on God's strength over one's own efforts as key factors in the recovery process. Have a topic you would...

JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Jim Phillis continue their conversation about talking to your kids about your sexual addiction. They share guidelines for disclosure, taking into account the maturity and gender of the child and offer encouragement that while daunting, these conversations can foster respect and demystify the topic of sexuality. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EM...

JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Jim Phillis share a framework for talking to your kids about your sexual addiction. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. Learn more about integrity here.

JJ West and Doug Barnes offer insight to help clergy be well-informed and equipped to support couples navigating the betrayal and recovery process, including ways to avoid common mistakes made in counseling. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. Learn mor...

JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Bob Good examine forgiveness. Referencing the biblical definition, they discuss what forgiveness is and isn’t. They address misconceptions and barriers to forgiveness, emphasizing that one cannot be pressured into forgiving. The explain why full disclosure is vital to the forgiveness process. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com an...

JJ West and Doug Barnes talk with a guest, Rick, who shares his journey from living a double life, to attending the Every Man's Battle workshop in 2012, to having a solid marriage today. Rick highlights the importance of community, accountability, sustained effort, and connection to maintaining long term recovery. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us k...

JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Sam Fraser discuss common mistakes in long-term recovery from sexual integrity issues. They highlight the importance of maintaining internal motivation, avoiding complacency, the need for humility, character development and continuous growth, as well as nurturing a spiritual life. The conversation underscores the value of continuous effort and community in achie...

JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Sam Fraser discuss long-term recovery from sexual addiction. They emphasize the importance of relational growth and character change beyond mere sobriety, highlighting the significance of actions over words, maintaining sobriety, and the role of accountability in recovery. The evolution from initial recovery to long-term recovery is discussed, noting the need fo...

JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Marc Cameron discuss the differences between men and women in sexuality, noting that these differences can lead to misunderstandings and rejection in relationships if not understood. They emphasize the importance of having vulnerable conversations and working together to build a healthy sexual and emotional relationship and offer solutions for the challenges men oft...

JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Laura Mangin McDonald continue discussing the challenges faced by partners of individuals not engaging in recovery work for sexual integrity issues. They touch on the importance of personal healing and support systems, the grieving process, therapeutic separation, boundaries and the role of community in the healing journey. Have a topic you would like to hear? Email...

JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Laura Mangin McDonald discuss what a betrayed women should do if her man isn’t doing good recovery work. Drawing from her own betrayal experience, Laura highlights the need to set clear boundaries; to engage in a healing process independent of his; to have a support system and a trauma therapist; to know her identity in Christ; and to trust God. Have a topic you wou...

JJ West and Doug Barnes are joined by guest Laura Mangin McDonald to continue the discussion on full disclosure in the context of betrayal trauma. They discuss the emotional impact of full disclosure, noting that a trauma-trained therapist can help both parties. Common mistakes made in the disclosure process are reviewed, and they emphasize the need for the betrayed woman to have the space and com...

JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the importance and components of full disclosure in addressing sexual integrity issues, stressing that full disclosure is a process, not an event. The need for thoroughness, humility, and rigorous honesty in disclosing past behaviors and significant life events is explained. They share the significance of impact statements from the offended party as well as men's le...

JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the challenges of maintaining sexual integrity while single. The importance of developing an internal conscience and having a supportive community is explained. They highlight the need for singles to understand and embrace their sexuality as good, contrary to the negative messages from the purity culture. The significance of parents having open, non-shaming conversa...

JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the unique challenges of maintaining sexual integrity in full-time ministry. The increased scrutiny and higher standards placed on religious leaders can lead to feelings of isolation and vulnerability. Having community and accountability are paramount, and they urge ministers to seek support and not attempt to fight their battles alone. They provide practical advice...