Every Coach Needs A Coach

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0RdO8qHC3Zjsf2Q7ztSXaw?si=37dRzCwQQOK1D-X57ayDog&context=spotify%3Ashow%3A2WAKqwVDMgKuDli91VMchb Listen to 8:25-10:00 of that clip. Share it with your kids 186 – Leadership takes courage and courage is hard. Courage comes from support of others. Hard things come from support from ones who love you and support you. Leadership comes with a lot of responsibility,...

The Dash by Linda Ellis I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend He referred to the dates on the tombstone From the beginning...to the end He noted that first came the date of birth And spoke the following date with tears, But he said what mattered most of all Was the dash between those years For that dash represents all the time That they spent alive on earth. And now only th...

If you're feeling overwhelmed, just remember you don't have to do everything at once. Start with one.

My dad has taught me a lot in my life, and one of my favorite phrases that he uses, is "you can't be anyone other than who you are "along that line, he always taught us to try to be like a role models, but don't try to be your role model. The closest you'll come is being the second best version of them, go be the best version of you. Happy Father's Day to all of our dads!

radiology study  182 – We get what we look for; we are going to find what we look for no matter what. Find that good everywhere. Start somewhere, engage in a conversation.

Steve Cohen is a magician who performs in NYC, and i saw him when i was 16 as a birthday present from my aunt and Uncle. He wrote A book called win the crowd, that I read at 16 years old, and the principles in the book and the practical application of them have significantly influence my life for the better. Steve introduces what he calls the Maksims of magic, they are principles he uses to gain o...

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what do we REALLY say when we talk for so long? 180 – Respect your audience, respect your own time. Don’t ramble, keep it simple make a memorable statement and call it a day.

John Maxwell in 'Leaders Made Here' describes the concept of 'pay now, play later' vs. 'Play now, pay later' Life has a price, the good news is we get to decide how much we pay for it. We control our experiences and our response to those experiences. This concept is relevant to us as coaches and for our players because of how we spend our time in the off season. Do we spend it ONLY relaxing? Do we...

A college professor goes up to his whiteboard and starts doing simple math problems..1+1=2 , 1+2=3, 1+3=4, etc. and he gets to 10+1 = 12 Right away, hands shoot up , and the students in his class jump down his throat. "Professor, Professor, you got that last one wrong!"  He turns around and asks what they mean and for them to clarify. He calls them out and says to them, 'none of you said a wo...

“Players think - “Play me and I’ll show you”.  Coaches think - “Show me and I’ll play you”  - Shaka Smart This boils down to expectations. Many conflicts (in relationships (think spouses/players/coaches/bosses/employees/...fill in the blank) arise from unclear or unmet expectations.  So players expect , well, if you play me, I can show you what I can do. and Coaches expect, well, sh...

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6acpB3x1c0Z85ollXSnzQy?si=667e8f099beb44ad Jon Gordon with Alec Ingold, and my reflection on part of their conversation  It has always bothered me when you listen to any person who is accomplished something be interviewed immediately after. Inevitably the reporter asks did you ever think you'd get here? And maybe it's their response in the moment, or maybe it'...

Lauren Ammon was an energetic 5 year old who fell in love with swimming after her mom tossed her into the pool with her 2 big sisters. She swam for 17 years, including at the college level at Eastern Michigan University. After realizing that law school was not in her cards, she started a career in HR. Just before the 2020 Olympics, she considered a career change, realizing that  high level at...

Mark Twain said “Good judgement is the result of experience, and experience the result of bad judgement” How stinking true is this? We make decisions based on perceived information and the meaning that we give to our past experiences. I have had countless times where I’ve said to myself or my best friend, ‘wow, I misjudged that one’. I misjudged someone’s reaction, (sometimes my own), or mis judge...

Definition : the ability to make good decisions about what should be done  the act or process of forming an opinion or making a decision after careful thought : the act of judging something or someone an opinion or decision that is based on careful thought Judegment here is defined as an ABILITY! An ability! If something is an ability, that means we can be good at it or bad at it, AND we can...

Someone hired a helper; but just before she reported to work, he heard some bad reviews about her from a former employer. When the girl came to work, instead of writing her off, the man said, “Nellie, I spoke the other day to a woman you used to work for. She said you were honest and reliable, a good cook and good at caring for the children. But she also said you were sloppy and never kept the hou...

This is a story from Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People -  Ralph Waldo Emerson and his son were trying to get a calf into the barn (which was what they wanted). Emerson pushed and his son pulled, but the calf merely stiffened his legs and stubbornly refused to leave the pasture. Along came the Irish housemaid, who intuitively considered what the calf would want. She place...

https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2018/10/05/five-principles-to-follow-if-you-want-to-influence-others/?sh=2d908f066e29 1. Influence is a persuasive process. It doesn’t happen all at once. 2. Influence is a product of trust. 3. When people feel heard, they’re more open to being influenced. 4. Influence requires persuasively communicating.  Describe the current state. What is g...

I am looking far and wide for how influence happens, and it’s an elusive topic. I returned to one of my favorite books ‘how to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. I could not quickly find a definition for ‘Influence’ or how it happens.  He does provide a LOT of stories of how to win people towards your way of thinking (which maybe is influence?). I’ve found those strategies a l...

We can name our captains. We can pick our starting line up. We can choose to title anything we want on our teams. But our players know who has the most influence on the team. They know who the true leaders are because of the INFLUENCE they have on the behavior of others.  We will get into HOW influence happens. I’m enjoying looking through articles on that topic. We know HOW authority happens...

Power is a tool, influence is a skill; one is a fist, the other a fingertip. Nancy Gibbs I'm not sure about you, but I never took a course in coaching. Most things I've learned about coaching I've come from my own experience, and speaking with other people who have coached for years. It's easy to get better coaching. Go to other coaches practices, have them come To yours and critique you. I think...

Definition - the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something, or the effect itself. As a verb, influence typically means "to affect or change someone or something in an indirect but usually important way." Something or someone that influences a person or thing, then, has an influence on that person or thing. We as coaches can play a significant rol...

https://www.inspirationalstories.eu/inspirational-stories-about-happiness/ There was a boy, whose family was very wealthy. One day his father took him on a trip to the country, where he aimed to show his son, how poor people live. So they arrived to a farm of a very poor family, as he considered. They spent there several days. On their return, the father asked his son, did he like the trip. „Oh, i...

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4449495/ “Happiness & Health: The Biological Factors- Systematic Review Article” (2014) “All of the activities managed by brain. Thoughts, feelings, activities, learning and love, all conducted by the brain. Mood and emotions are not except for this role.” “Another factor that affected happiness in general is hormones and glands. Studies suggested t...

Example/study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3126102/ “Happiness Unpacked: Positive Emotions Increase Life Satisfaction by Building Resilience” “Positive emotions lead to higher levels of ego-resilience in the future ( Fredrickson et al., in press ; Cohn & Fredrickson, in preparation ; Fredrickson & Joiner, 2002). Ego-resilience also achieves its effects partly by generating...