Even Me

Send a text We often learn how to navigate empathy and relate to the feelings of others. Not only is empathy different than sympathy, but it's also not automatically compassion. Did you know there are types of empathy? Tune into this episode to learn more!

Send a text If it's hard for you to admit error or sometimes feel uncomfortable when your thoughts don't match your actions, this episode is for you! If you have heard the term "Cognitive Dissonance" but need more clarity or are unsure what "Cognitive Distortion" is, you're in the right place at the right time! Join me for today's discussion.

Send a text This episode is for you if you keep outliving everyone around you and feel internal pressure to speed up your accomplishments because of it. This episode is also for you if you feel guilty for being spared during traumatic events while claiming that your life could be so much more.

Send a text You lack nothing; however, you may have been conditioned to believe you need more of everything. This episode is for you if you perpetually enforce habits and thoughts that persuade you that you are not enough.

Send a text This episode will help you unlearn that commitment means exclusivity and that a relationship title removes the possibility of still being in a situationship. This episode is for you if you have ever been involved with someone who has produced doubt and uncertainty about the direction of your involvement.

Send a text We all have an attachment style. One that starts in childhood and is either perpetuated or adjusted throughout our lives. Habits, viewpoints, emotional connections, and self-esteem correlate with our attachment style. Depending on how you address your external world determines who and what you continue to attach to. If you have been trying to heal and move toward understanding what a c...

Send a text If you have ever experienced a break-up but didn't feel done or thought you could somehow save this person from themselves if you stayed, this episode is for you. In today's episode, I will explore the unhealthy relationship that led to writing my book, Empowering the Broken. It will also be explored how to look for warning signs that you're involved in a toxic cycle of...

Send a text This episode is for you if social media often has you comparing your life and accomplishments to others. This episode is also for you if you are oversharing your life with people you barely know. What if I told you there's a successful formula for social media to place the entire country under a social experiment for capitalistic gain? Do you understand why you're even ON soc...

Send a text In today's episode, you will discover how feminine and masculine energy originate in every human being and have little to do with gender. You will also learn the consistent misinformation about femininity and masculinity or how either can become toxic.

Send a text This episode is for you if you have ever asked, "How can I tell if they are the one?" Today, you will learn how cognitive distortions and defense mechanisms make it easy to suppress red flags and inflate our feelings as objective truth. 

Send a text Maybe you have heard about love languages and how they work for expressions of love and reciprocity in feeling seen. Have you ever considered why you have the love languages that you do and where they come from? Several things can contribute to it, and one large common denominator for many of us is connected to our childhood. Listen to today's episode to learn how!

Send a text This episode is for you if you have ever identified as a people-pleaser or guilt-tripped someone! There is one common origin for us all, and it starts with what and how you have been taught from the selection of resources hand-selected for your learning and conditioning. Gaslighting doesn't just belong to those with narcissism; though, commonly seen in emotionally abusive relation...

Send a text Ever heard of Destination Addiction? Most people haven't but fall into the category of chasing the future. It blindsides us for a lack of appreciation in existing accomplishments and triggers us to believe that because we still have improvements we would like to make that we are not doing enough. Those who become preoccupied with moving the goal post and pushing back the finish li...

Send a text Yes, that's Impostor with an I...not an E.  If you are among the many people who struggle with perfectionism, love being an expert and despise being wrong, frequently have burnout, feel like your efforts are rarely ever enough, and feel that you're a failure if you don't get things right the first try...then this episode is for you!

Send a text If you repeat toxic cycles that perpetuate your own pain from being a fixer, a healer, or an overachiever, then this episode is for you! Much of what we know about self-harm ties into intentional bodily injury, however in reframing how we harm ourselves with mental and emotional patterns, this happens on a daily level subconsciously, consciously, or completely without our awareness. If...

Send a text If you have ever struggled with believing that flirtation automatically leads to pursuing someone, or if you have an ongoing belief that everyone you encounter absolutely has an unfaithful past, then this episode is for you! Come join the conversation of two licensed therapists providing insight on the internal contribution of infidelity.

Send a text We are all familiar with the concept of "trust issues" yet many of us struggle to resolve them. We often set the pattern for selecting people, places, and things that increase our susceptibility to a lack of trust which then encourages us to build a cycle of blaming others for why we don't know how to trust. If this sounds like you or someone you know, this episode is fo...

Send a text Have you ever wondered how you started taking on a majority of the relationship responsibilities? Or why it seems that you're typically saving people from themselves while they allow you to do it? We have all been taught the idea of "becoming one" in a relationship and that consistent sacrifice is required and thinking alike is mandatory. The reality is that two independ...

Send a text We keep hearing this question, "What do you bring to the table?" I challenge us all to unlearn that there's only one table. If you're trying to figure out if you're an asset, it's much deeper than an overall subjective assessment; it's what you offer in parts. We would benefit most from recognizing that we either offer assets of ourselves or offer lia...

Send a text Yup, you read that right! It is quite possible to live with similarities that are not positive and not even notice them until far after connecting with someone. We commonly attach negatively when we have unresolved trauma, unaddressed habits, or certain attachment styles.  It frequently leads to trauma bonding to convince people to fight for relationships that they are compatible negat...

Send a text Do you struggle to say no or feel like you disappoint others when you do? Is it hard to learn how to let people into your world without having them jump through hoops? Is it easier to please others than it is to show up for yourself? Then this episode is for you! Not only are setting boundaries essential, and defining what they are to signify their importance...being able to do it with...

Send a text How you spend time with yourself largely determines your capacity to take accountability. It's in the spaces where we sit in our thoughts and sort through the narratives that live rent-free in our heads that guide us toward making sense of the emotions that surface. I-statements are a powerful way to learn how to take ownership of your feelings without bringing someone else into t...

Send a text If you have ever asked this question, this episode is for you! "Good" is subjective and based on experiences, outlooks, and preferences.  When we evaluate if "good" men exist, we must examine whether we are asking if they are good TO us, good FOR us, or both. That combination also encompasses morality and value systems that usually measure basic decency. We need to...

Send a text Have you ever heard of Stockholm Syndrome? You might be unaware that forgiving certain people is attached to it. You could also be unaware that various traumas might be unforgivable, even when there is pressure to forgive everyone for everything. Most notably, especially during Black History Month, the Black population is often required to forgive situations that other populations expe...

Send a text Ever attended a PWI? Been told that you "talk White?" Assimilated beyond the point of codeswitching that your own racial identity has ever been unfamiliar? Then tune in to this episode! Honoring Black History Month as a Black female for others that look like me, sound like me, and serve as allies FOR me...the self-esteem of all involved has been impacted, and again...this epi...