Essential Stepmom Podcast

Blended families don’t come with a rulebook—and most traditional parenting strategies fall apart when you’re navigating two households, high levels of conflict, and kids caught in the middle. In this episode, Tracy Poizner sits down with Nina Cuellar-Barry , a retired special education teacher and certified Human Design specialist, to explore a powerful framework that helps parents understand thei...

This episode began life as a livestream in my free Facebook community of 1400 members, The Essential Stepmom. If you're not already there, please join us! https://www.facebook.com/groups/theessentialstepmom If there are any top takeaways from this episode, it would be these: 1. You can arrange your household and family dynamics to make it more conducive to you getting the respect you want. 2....

Feelings of worthlessness seemingly arise for stepmoms from the daily realities of life - no established place inside the family dynamic, giving up much of your time and privacy within your home, not being appreciated for many of the things you do for the stepkids and not knowing how to address parenting issues with your partner. But what if you've unconsiously moved toward situations in life that...

Tammy Cohen, brand messaging consultant and founder of the Women Beyond the Table Business Network is the author of Text Messages To My Kids , a book brimming with inspiration for how you (or your partner) can begin, renew or truly uplevel your connection with kids - especially those who don't live with you or who are in a phase of life where they don't seem open to hearing from you. By go...

Dr. Jessica Higgins is the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, check it out here:  https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Dr. Jessica has a free resource available called "Shifting Criticism for Connected Communication" which you can access right here: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication Tracy Poizner also offers dad-specific advice for parentin...

If your partner is struggling to connect, or to re-connect with an alienated teenager, make sure he registers for LIONTAMER, my new 6-week intensive for dads. He'll learn to deftly guide his wandering teen back into their natural state of loving attachment and loyalty to him. Here's the link: https://essential-training.thrivecart.com/liontamer/ You can also learn more by emailing me at tracy@undel...

OK, this is a bit of a weird episode - it's actually the audio from a livestream video I did in my Spectacular Stepmom Facebook group. I'm talking about how to get better at knowing exactly when to say your peace and when to hold back - when to act and when to wait. This is all about the shadow and power archetypes, and about the real difference between logic and magic. I offer a unique style of c...

Legacy Mastermind is exclusively for the divorced dad who feels helpless against the ongoing high-conflict that's drawing his children away from him. In this program he will be coded to strike the tone of fatherhood and develop the magnetic quality that will draw his kids back into his orbit and keep them there forever. It starts this week, Feb. 17th. There's still time to join - apply by email to...

Join my Facebook group, The Spectacular Stepmom!  You can reach me any time at info@essentialstepmom.com.  Don't forget to check out the UnDeletable Dad podcast too! Here's a little free advice for you: 3 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL STEPMOMS! https://tracypoizner.lpages.co/3-secrets-of-successful-stepmoms

Just two more days left to register! Restorative Parenting for Divorced Dads begins Wednesday November 2.  By Christmas, you could become that dad who knows the trick to following through on what he says without using heavy-handed parenting tactics, how to get rules made that your kids will actually follow (it's true!) and to make sure that your kids really feel safe, loved and seen with you,...

Want to learn how to get through to kids who are being brainwashed about you? Sign up for my FREE 3-part workshop October 27-29, 2021 called Reversing Parental Alienation. Go to bit.ly/alienationstrategy to register and don't forget to join the private Facebook group just for this event! You can always reach me at info@essentialstepmom.com. Limited 1:1 coaching spots are still available.

Welcome to Episode 1 of the Undeletable Dad Podcast! You can find it on Anchor.fm/undeletabledad and very soon it will be found on all your favorite platforms. Here's the link to sign up for Restorative Parenting: bit.ly/dadcodes You can reach me at tracy@undeletabledad.com

Lori Sims runs the Nacho Kids Academy - sign up with this link and she'll send a portion of your fee right back here to support this podcast! Click here: https://nachokidsacademy.com/theessentialstepmom Sign up at bit.ly/tracysummit for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit!

"I thought David was a pretty good parent - until we got married!" Here's a link to the episode with Lori's husband David: https://anchor.fm/essentialstepmom/episodes/ESP-6-3-David-Sims---Pulling-it-out-of-the-fire-elkg5g I do a livestream video every Monday in my Facebook group The Spectacular Stepmom. Tomorrow's session  (Monday Sept 13) at 1pm EDT is called Bouncing Back From Stepmom Burno...

It's a Nacho Role-play with Lori Sims, the original Nacho Mama! You can learn more at nachokids.com. Sign up for the Ultimate Stepfamily Summit (Sept 15-17) at bit.ly/tracysummit Would you be so kind as to pop over to Apple podcasts and leave a quick review? If you screenshot it and send it to me at info@essentialstepmom.com, you can win a 60 minute coaching with me!

Here are some highlights of today's conversation with Seth Nelson: 1:10 - when Seth got divorced, the law required one parent was named the primary residential, the other was secondary. In the end, it’s all about your ego, it’s just a label. 5:25 - On frequency of visits, it's often better to have more visits for a shorter time, especially for younger kids. 7:25 - 95% of the time you have with you...

This is part 2 of my 3-part conversation with Florida-based family law attorney Seth Nelson. Listen at 2:20 to hear Seth describe the  the 3 worlds in which he lives as a divorce attorney, at 5:25 to learn about the many categories that courts consider (Factors A, B, C....all the way to Factor T!) and 10:10 to hear his take on why 60/40 might be better for you, even if you're getting the shor...

"Live your life, not your divorce!" Seth's podcast is called "How To Split A Toaster: A divorce podcast about saving your relationships". Here's a link to the show on Apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-split-a-toaster-a-divorce-podcast-about/id1527497405 You can contact Seth's office in Tampa, Florida via his website, https://nelsonkoster.com Sign up for The Ultimate Step...

Visit Anna's website at https://annadeacosta.com . The Ultimate Stepfamily Summit is happening from September 15-17. It's FREE! Sign up now at bit.ly/tracysummit to get my special bonus offer of lifetime access to my library of over 50 Livestream stepmom tutorial videos! You'll never be at a loss for something to listen to again!

Loyalty is one of the most misunderstood topics in the stepfamily world. I believe it's something much more fundamental than wondering which parent to believe, or visit, or like. This episode has been pulled from a live video I did a while back into my two Facebook groups - The Spectacular Stepmom and One For The Dads. If you'd like to belong to a positive, bash-free community, I invite you to joi...

Does my advice on stepfamily life conflict with what you're hearing from your counsellor or therapist? I'm not surprised, LOL! That's because they're not trained in the area of step-families and they still believe that all families follow the same kind of natural law.  Family Constellation Therapy was created by Bert Hellinger. My favourite book on this topic is by Jakob Schneider - it seems...

Want to know more about exactly how to make those boundaries you wish you had? Here are my top 5 tools for making better boundaries with your ex, your kids, even your spouse. I love hearing from you - let me know what you think about this, or just reach out to me any time at info@essentialstepmom.com If you're a divorced dad wanting to rescue your relationship with your kids, or to learn how to pa...

Everything comes down to boundaries. I'll break this apart and show you why yours aren't doing the job.  Do you know a divorced dad who wants to protect his relationship with his kids and maximize his ability to raise them the way he wants? Maybe he'd also like to keep his finances from getting shredded over the long haul of a high conflict "co-parenting" environment?  Invite him to book...

You can contact Dr. Sonia via her webiste, http://renewedbeliefs.com Her research paper about autism and stepfamilies can be accessed via Google Scholar or with this link: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0192513X20959109 p You can reach me on my private email at info@essentialstepmom.com. If your husband/boyfriend/partner is looking for help to get his high-conflict custody or parenti...

This is part two of my conversation with filmmaker Peter Maestrey about his journey through and past divorce. He shares how he dealt with other people telling him how to feel about his divorce and how he got on with creating the life he's always wanted. Peter's podcast is called Divorce - The First Six Months and you can find it through his website, https://divorcethefirstsix . You can reach me on...