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Day 7 of #NaPodPoMo, our 30 episodes in 30 days. Every day this month we’re sharing a tip from our book, 365 Tips to Avoid Divorce Court. Tip #204: “If you see something that needs to be done around the house, do it. Don’t wait for your partner to do something that you can do yourself.” Paul admits that after 37 years there’s little he wishes Ellyn would just take over. She’s the dish-washing cham...

Day 6 of #NaPodPoMo, our 30 episodes in 30 days. Every day this month we’re sharing a tip from our book, 365 Tips to Avoid Divorce Court. Tip #148: “Honesty is the best policy. If you are honest, you don’t have to remember the lie.” Paul and Ellyn admit they’ve tried every version of honesty, including omissions and half-truths. They talk about what changed when Paul stopped hiding things about hi...

Day 5 of #NaPodPoMo, our 30 episodes in 30 days. Every day this month we’re sharing a tip from our book, 365 Tips to Avoid Divorce Court. Tip #12: “You gotta let them know what you need succinctly and directly; mind-reading is a fairy tale.” Ellyn and Paul ask whether either of them ever expected the other to read their mind, and the answer is a quick “definitely.” Paul admits he expected a hot me...

Day 4 of #NaPodPoMo, our 30 episodes in 30 days, with a new tip from our book, 365 Tips to Avoid Divorce Court, every day this month. Ellyn and Paul continue their money conversation with Michael Collison, a retired software engineer who reached financial independence through systematic investing and careful budgeting. In this episode, Michael covers: How he got interested in investing, and what h...

Day 3 of #NaPodPoMo, our 30 episodes in 30 days. Every day this month we’re sharing a tip from our book, 365 Tips to Avoid Divorce Court. Tip #117: “Leaving a note sealed with a kiss in their lunch, on the bathroom mirror or on their coffee mug. Nothing special, just because you love them. It makes your mate feel warm and fuzzy.” Ellyn asks Paul for the best little surprise he’s ever received. He...

Day 2 of #NaPodPoMo, our 30 episodes in 30 days. Every day this month we’re sharing a tip from our book, 365 Tips to Avoid Divorce Court. Tip #84: “When you said, ‘I do,’ you didn’t sign up for the debate team. So pick your battles carefully.” Ellyn asks Paul which battle he’s glad they never fought. They talk about how they handled religion, including a childhood shaped by a Pentecostal minister...

Welcome to November on ESaysPSays: 30 episodes in 30 days for #NaPodPoMo, the 19th annual National Podcast Posting Month. Every day, we’re sharing a quick tip from our book, 365 Tips to Avoid Divorce Court, along with the final episodes of our season. Tip #1: “Paul and I began our relationship as friends. It’s the foundation we’ve always been able to fall back on during difficult times.” Ellyn ask...

📝 Show Notes: Episode 18, Part 2: Hard Conversations ESaysPSays | Your Biweekly Dose of Black Love Part 2 of our Mock Minute marathon picks up where Part 1 left off, with the two topics that don’t have easy answers. (Missed Part 1? Dolly Parton, career vs. relationship success, and the cell phone ban are waiting for you.) Content note: The first topic discusses the loss of children. Please take c...

ESaysPSays | Your Biweekly Dose of Black Love We’re back!! 365 Tips took over our lives for a minute, but we missed you — and we’re so grateful for how friends and family have been picking up the book. Thank you for the support. 💬 What’s covered: Remembering Dolly Parton — her generosity, her authenticity, and what her decades-long marriage taught us about staying true to yourself while loving so...

Back to Back Episode BONUS: To make up for the missed week, we are dropping another episode this week. Enjoy!! This Week - Financial Series Part 2: Debt, Investing & Building Wealth with Michael Collison ESaysPSays | Your Biweekly Dose of Black Love Michael Collison — retired software engineer turned certified financial coach — returns for round two, and this conversation goes deep. Ellyn and Mich...

This week, Ellyn and Paul step away from their usual relationship deep dive to celebrate the movies that have shaped how they see love, partnership, and commitment. Five films, five decades, one couple who's been watching (and debating) together for almost 40 years. 🎬 The Lineup: Claudine (1974) — Diahann Carroll and James Earl Jones star in this raw, honest look at love, single motherhood, and t...

This week, Ellyn and Paul sit down with financial planner Michael Collison for a refreshingly honest conversation about money — growing up with less, learning to budget the hard way, and why "I'll have more money someday" isn't actually the fix people think it is. In this episode: 👦🏾 Michael's early money story — growing up the son of a single mom in D.C., wanting Izod shirts he couldn't have, a...

Esays/Psays — Your Biweekly Dose of Black Love Apparently, while Ellyn and Paul have been busy staying married for 37 years, the dating world went ahead and invented a whole new language. This week they're breaking down the latest relationship buzzwords — and giving their very honest, very married take on each one. Spoiler: some of these are just old habits with new names. Buzzwords covered this e...

Money is one of the top reasons couples divorce — so why don't we talk about it more honestly? This week, Paul and Ellyn get real about finances in marriage. From the "ambush method" to shared goals and hard lessons learned, they share what's helped them navigate 37 years of financial ups and downs together. Plus, there is a question they had asked about open relationships. Listen to Paul's respon...

“It’s Our Anniversary” What happens when two young people in love try to figure out marriage, adulthood, family expectations, and real life all at the same time? In this anniversary episode of Esays/Psays, Paul and Ellyn reflect on their wedding journey, moving to Los Angeles, family chaos, early marriage expectations, grief, growth, and the realities of building a life together over 37 years. Fro...

Join us for another episode as we discuss strange global relationship traditions. We span the globe from Austria, Asia, Finland, Africa, and America. Take a listen and learn something new, and have a laugh. As mentioned in the episode, we are sponsored by our Esays/Psays Hoodie and Tee. Please see the link below. mockmediagroup.com buymeacoffee.com/mockmediagroup FB, IG and Youtube - @mockmediagro...

Unbelievable though it may be this example of Black Love had a moment where it didn't seem like we would be moving forward. It was around the time of our 13th year of wedded bliss. We just couldn't keep it together. And we were really petty with our disagreements. So take a listen in as we discuss how we got to the other side. We also pay tribute to our Uncle Pouncy who was a Tuskegee Airmen that...

Happy New Year!! Yes our episodes are a little off. We are working on getting in synch. However, it is never too late for a Happy New Year!! So listen in while Paul and Ellyn discuss 10 items on their bucket list as a couple that they would like to do in the future or have completed during their 36 years of marriage. And stay tuned for a feisty Mock Minute where Ellyn says she feels homeless in Am...

Two weeks ago, you heard Paul talk about his book Vignettes From A South Central Son, Part 1. If you missed that episode, go back and give it a listen—and be sure to grab a copy of the book. It’s a great story you won’t want to miss. This week, Paul and Ellyn are back and catching up after their extended break, sharing where they’ve been and what’s been going on. They also kick things off with a h...

Welcome to Part 2 of Season 2. We know you been waiting and we made sure our comeback episode is well worth it. In this episode Ellyn interviews her co-host, Paul about his great accomplishment of writing and publishing his first book. If you haven't read it please pick it up, Vignettes From A South Central Son, Part 1. It is on Amazon. You can also checkout his website and sign up for the newslet...

Ellyn and Paul define and discuss what marriage means to them.

Ellyn and Paul discuss the previous year and their goals for the current year.

Ellyn and Paul interview the Purpose Queen Dashana Jefferies. Dashana discusses her mental health journey and the steps she is taking to stay healthy. She is an author and serial entrepreneur. If you or someone you know is struggling please listen and learn some resources you can use. You can also reach out to her many social media platforms to learn more. IG - @Dashana_Breathes, TT - @Dashana_Bre...

Ellyn and Paul discuss meeting the in-laws. Something we can all relate to this time of year. Please enjoy!! #esayspsays #blacklovewins #cheersto35years #podcastle #podcastersoftiktok #podcasterofinstagram #podcastersofamazon #ezztees #etsyshop

Paul and Ellyn discuss how and when they knew that their youngest son was going to make it in life. #esayspsays #podcast #cheersto35years #podcastersofinstagram #ppodcastersoftiktok #podcastersofamazon #ezztees #tiktokover40 https://linktr.ee/esayspsays