Enneagram with JB: A Podcast About Enneagram Personalities

Most of us were never actually taught how to apologize. We learned by watching the adults around us, and for many of us, conflict was either avoided altogether or escalated without meaningful repair. So it's no wonder so many of us enter adulthood, marriage, parenting, and friendships without knowing how to repair after we've hurt someone. In this episode, Courtney and I have an honest c...

Most of us were taught what to do with our thoughts. Few of us were taught what to do with our emotions. In this episode, Courtney Bareman and I explore why certain emotions feel uncomfortable, overwhelming, or even inaccessible. Together, we'll unpack how family systems, personality patterns, and protective strategies shape our relationship with emotions and why avoiding what we feel often c...

What happens when life doesn’t go according to plan, but somehow still becomes exactly what it needed to be? In this deeply personal episode, I sit down with my husband, Stephen Brewster, to talk about becoming — not through a straight line, but through risk, pivots, disappointment, growth, counseling, faith and learning to trust the next step before you can see the whole picture. Stephen shares h...

What does it actually look like to become yourself? In this conversation, I sit down with Enneagram educator and author Abbey Howe to explore the real, often messy process of growth. From building a platform through storytelling and humor, to navigating identity shifts in motherhood, to learning how to move from awareness into real transformation, this episode goes deeper than surface-level Enneag...

This is part two of a two-part conversation with licensed mental health counselor Rob Goetsch. This episode explores a different kind of stress; the kind that comes from your relationships, not just your to-do list. This is attachment stress, and it activates your nervous system quickly, making your Enneagram patterns feel louder, faster, and harder to shift.  When stress hits, your body responds...

This is part one of a two-part conversation with licensed mental health counselor Rob Goetsch. This episode explores a different kind of stress; the kind that comes from your relationships, not just your to-do list. This is attachment stress, and it activates your nervous system quickly, making your Enneagram patterns feel louder, faster, and harder to shift.  When stress hits, your body responds...

Jackie: On the web | On Instagram // Courtney: On the web | On Instagram In this episode, I sit down with my friend Courtney to have an honest, unfiltered conversation about what it really looks like to let go of control and begin allowing yourself to be seen. Courtney is an Enneagram 8—strong, decisive, and deeply protective. But like so many 8s, that strength didn’t come out of nowhere. It was b...

In this episode, I'm sharing a personal and honest look at what it means to let go of patterns that once served a purpose, but are now holding you back. Through the lens of the Enneagram and lifespan development, this conversation explores how our identities are shaped over time through protection, adaptation, and meaning-making. What once helped us feel safe, loved, or accepted can quietly b...

In this deeply personal and powerful conversation, Jackie sits down with Ro Elliot to explore a journey of healing, identity, and transformation that didn’t fully begin until age 58. Ro is an Enneagram coach passionate about helping women—especially in midlife transitions—rediscover who they are beyond the roles they’ve carried.  Ro shares her story of growing up with deep insecurity, navigating d...

Jackie: On the web | On Instagram Most of us think our struggles in relationships come down to communication, personality, or conflict styles. But what if the real issue is safety? In this episode, we’re talking about psychological safety—what it is, why it matters, and how your nervous system shapes the way you show up in your relationships. Because when safety is missing, you don’t just respond...

Jackie: On the web | On Instagram // Courtney: On the web | On Instagram Growth is not about becoming someone else. It’s about becoming a less defended version of yourself. In this direct and honest conversation, Courtney and I unpack why your comfort zone exists — and why it feels so destabilizing to step outside of it. Because your comfort zone isn’t random. It was built around your core fear. P...

Jackie: On the web | On Instagram  // Courtney: On the web | On Instagram Being wrong is not a logic problem. It’s an ego problem. In this candid and honest conversation, Courtney and I unpack what actually happens in the moment you realize you misread the situation, overreacted, or got it wrong. Because your Enneagram type does not disappear in that moment. It doubles down. Being wrong threatens...

Adult love is powerful — and often misunderstood. In this conversation, Rob Goetsch and I unpack what’s really happening beneath romantic connection. Because lasting love isn’t just chemistry. It’s attachment systems, emotional regulation, nervous system responses, trauma history, communication patterns, and the ongoing work of repair. Romantic relationships activate our earliest attachment wiring...

Jackie: On the web | On Instagram Courtney: On the web | On Instagram Workplace conflict rarely stays “professional” in the body. What looks like a communication issue on the surface often activates deeper nervous-system needs around safety, respect, belonging, control, and value. In this episode, Courtney Bareman and I explore how conflict shows up at work through the Enneagram and why small mome...

Jackie: On the web | On Instagram Courtney: On the web | On Instagram Friendship can be one of the most meaningful—and most misunderstood—relationships in adult life. While often treated as “less serious” than romantic relationships, friendship activates the same attachment systems in the nervous system and can surface deep needs around safety, trust, belonging, and repair. In this episode, Courtn...

Secure attachment isn’t built by getting it right all the time. It’s built by coming back when you don’t. In this episode of Enneagram with JB, I'll explore why repair—not perfection—is the foundation of secure attachment, and how repair needs to change as your child’s nervous system develops. Using the Enneagram as a compassionate map (not a label or excuse), this episode walks through what...

January often comes with pressure to reset, reinvent, or get it together—but that expectation ignores something essential: your season of life. In this episode, Jackie is joined by Rob Goetsch, as they explore how balance looks different across the lifespan and why your Enneagram patterns may feel louder, heavier, or more tender in January, depending on your age, capacity, and nervous system state...

January often carries pressure to reset, reinvent, or finally “get it together.” But that expectation ignores something essential: your nervous system and your season of life. In this relaunch episode of Enneagram with JB, Jackie reframes January through an Enneagram, lifespan, and nervous-system lens. Rather than pushing for change, this conversation invites understanding—why patterns feel louder...

This week I'm talking with my daughter, Ashlyn. Join us as discuss how Enneagram awareness can positively impact our approach to dating. Jackie's Instagram // Enneagram with JB

Today I'm talking with two very special guests: My sister Jennifer, an Enneagram 4,  and my brother Rob, an Enneagram 6. Join us as we talk about growing up as siblings who experienced life, and our family household, in very different ways. Jackie's Instagram // Enneagram with JB

Have you ever found yourself saying (or hearing), “Why do you always do that?” That frustration often comes from our Enneagram stance, the automatic way we move through the world. In this week’s episode Courtney and I talk about how stances shape our relationships, what’s happening in the brain when they get triggered, and how slowing down, practicing attunement, and building trust can change ever...

The Enneagram is an incredible tool for helping us better understand ourselves and others. But sometimes we can focus more on the "others" than ourselves. Join Courtney and me as we discuss how each type can best utilize the Enneagram to foster true self-awareness and growth. Jackie's Instagram // Enneagram with JB Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching

You were made to live deeply loved—even in the midst of emotional pain, worry, or conflict. But too often when we're overwhelmed or hurting, we end up hiding our hurts and hopes, settling for shallow relationships. What's missing? Empathy. Join me as I talk with Bill and Kristi Gaultiere about their new book, Deeply Loved , as they unpack what empathy looks like in real time. Jackie&apos...

Today I'm joined by a very special guest, my daughter Ashlyn, who is an Enneagram Six. Join us as talk college life and adjusting to new settings, situations and seasons — something we can all relate to.  Jackie's Instagram // Enneagram with JB

This week Courtney Bareman and I discuss the value of emotional regulation through the lens of the Enneagram.   Jackie's Instagram // Enneagram with JB Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching