Enlightening Motherhood

Does your child sometimes seem to make a big deal out of something that you think is simple? They might be "making mountains out of molehills" or overreacting. In this episode, Emily delves into why your child is making such a big deal out of something that is seemingly small, and some golden advice on how you can react to it.

Ashley dives into perfectionism in children: what it looks like, the difference between growth mindset perfectionism and fixed mindset perfectionism, things that encourage perfectionism in children, how we can help our children notice and learn from their mistakes, what we can say to our kids who struggle with perfectionism and lots of great takeaways you can use to support your child to help them...

We're all going to face unpleasant situations. Want some thoughts that might help you navigate them a little better? Join Emily in this episode as she shares a simple, yet powerful, formula that might help you re-gain control of your thoughts. ~ ~ ~ Sign up for bite-sized motivation delivered to your inbox every Monday! Visit http://enlighteningmotherhood.com to sign up.

We receive an amazing power when we allow ourselves to forgive others. Emily discusses the benefits that 4 specific types of forgiveness will benefit mothers in particular. 

Ashley interviews Natalie Bogle, host of the Become Anchored Podcast and creator of the Anchor Planner. Natalie shares her experience with her nuerodiverse children and how she prioritizes self-care as a busy mom of seven who works part time in addition to managing her Anchor Planner Business. 

Emily discusses emotional control. Who is controlling your emotions? Who do you want to be controlling them? How can you get there? A short but strong episode in helping you feel the way you want to feel.

Emily interviews Chelsea Bea, creator of the podcast Beyond the Picket Fence. Chelsea and Emily talk about how being authentic and vulnerable can both be a blessing to others, and to yourself. Specifically, as you get to know others and who they *really* are, you are more easily able to replace negative judgements or other negative thoughts with compassion. You can connect Chelsea on Instagram @be...

Ashley talks about the science behind positive affirmations: how they can rewire the brain and what benefits they provide. She applies positive affirmations to parenting and also shares several ways we can teach our children to utilize positive affirmations.

Emily shares 13 ways that our imperfections/weaknesses can actually be blessings to us. So often mothers tie their worth to the sum of their perfections. Maybe by focusing on how imperfections can actually bless us, and externalizing them along with our perfections, we can come to love ourselves deeper and truer for who we are, not what we do. ~ ~ ~  Interested in delving deeper? Check out enlight...

Dr. John J. Ivers, author of the book "For Deep Thinkers Only:  How Culture Manipulates Your Reality" and professor of international studies at Brigham Young University-Idaho, joins us for today's episode as he discusses thoughts and teachings on how culture manipulates our view of reality and of ourselves.  He provides many insightful perspectives, such as: -3 realms to our human existence -Parad...

Ashley dives into Dr. Russell Barkley's research about ADHD, including some aspects that are often not associated with ADHD that have been crucial to understand in her parenting. She shares ten helpful tools that you can use right away to support your child and gives you assurance that ADHD is due to a neurological disorder and is not the result of "bad or permissive parenting." Don't miss this ep...

Emily continues to share her takeaways and opinions from the book Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. This episode includes the last several chapters, focusing particularly on sibling conflict and when brothers and sisters fight with each other. Also, if you haven't already listened to them, I highly recommend you check out Ep12 - Collaborative Solutions[...]  and Ep14 -  A...

Emily explains her takeaways and ideas from the book Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. This episode includes the first several chapters, including: -How to help children handle negative emotions, particularly towards their sibling -Ideas on how to avoid rivalry caused by comparisons -Giving to our children according to their need (and letting go of guilt!) -Why we should...

What a treat to have Ally Hayward, creator of Silently Surviving Souls, join Emily for an interview on this episode. Ally gets real about what life is like for her with mental illness, and is an advocate for others who are also going through (often unknown) trials. In this episode, she gives enlightenment about: Why she is open about having depression and anxiety What she would say to someone who...

Ashley talks about what anxiety looks like in children, the categories anxiety symptoms fall into, tips for helping anxious kids, how accommodating anxious kids can be harmful, safety vs catastrophic language and more.

Emily describes why mindset is so important, and how consciously modifying thoughts that aren't serving us can help us to better show up the way we *really* want to. * * * Interested in private, 1:1 coaching with Emily? Send me an email at enlighteningmotherhood@gmail.com, follower me on Facebook/Instagram @enlighteningmotherhood, and/or check out my website! http://enlighteningmotherhood.com

Emily gets real in sharing some of the greatest challenges she has come up against as a mother, both with foster and biological children. Motherhood is wonderful but definitely comes with some challenges. We don't need to face them alone! Sometimes we really need someone who "gets" the extreme behavior our children are facing, or help to get through deep burnout and overwhelm. I want to be that su...

Ashley and Emily discuss their takeaways from Chapters 8-12 of The Explosive Child by Ross Greene.

Emily interviews her good friend, Sierra, who is open about her diagnosis of depression and anxiety, how it affects her motherhood, and what she would want others to know. (We also give a good plug on how being authentically imperfect can bless you!)

Ashley and Emily discuss takeaways, thoughts, and real life examples of Chapters 5-7 of The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. We talk about different ways of handling children's challenging behavior, what it might look like if they are in the heat of the moment versus when we are able to be proactive and talk with them when everyone is calm. Plan B is a newer way to approach solutions for situations...

Ashley shares takeaways from Sarah Boyd's Your Sensitive Child Masterclass. Find more resources and support for parenting Highly Sensitive Children at www.resilientlittlehearts.com

Emily delves into ideas about how giving sincere praise to others *might* really help them out, but how it *will* benefit the one giving the praise. Questions? Comments? Episode requests? Email us! UpliftInspireLove@gmail.com  

Emily shares the life hacks that she's learned with the laundry to change it from something overwhelming to something that's a small and simple part of her daily routine.

Ashley & Emily discuss their takeaways in Chapters 3-4 from Ross Greene's The Explosive Child. Lagging Skills (aka Pathways) are abilities that children don't have (yet) and Unsolved Problems (aka triggers) are scenarios in which challenging behavior is likely to occur. Explosions or other unwanted behavior is often predictable, which makes it solvable! Identifying the lagging skills and triggers...

Emily gives advice that has helped her to decrease the amount that she yells at her children (though the same principles apply to yelling at other people, too!). She explains some potential triggers, helpful thought work, and potential alternatives. This includes tips that may help people that may loose their temper more often than they like or otherwise have emotional disregulation that they woul...