Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

LISTENER'S QUESTION "I sought out your podcast a few days ago and have found it very helpful for the difficult situation my relationship is currently in. My partner lost his job a couple months ago due to downsizing at his company. Since then he's also lost a lot of confidence, reignited many insecurities, become extremely negative about everything related to job searching, been unmotivated. Meanw...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "After searching the web for answers and finding nothing closely related to the situation at hand in our family, I thought perhaps you could provide some great insight on the issue. I have four adult children, one son (32), 3 daughters (26, 25, 25). The issue is the following and involves only my daughters and their boyfriends; Ever since my daughters have begun dating as youn...

LASER COACHING SESSION WITH LISTENER In this episode, I offer live coaching to help a listener explore her struggles with developing the type of relationship that she ultimately desires. We talk about self-doubt, fear of intimacy, and relationship dreams. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear the conversation and examples to describe these points.) 5 TIPS FOR DEVELOP...

GUEST: CHRISTIANE PELMAS Christiane Pelmas has been in private practice as a psychotherapist since 1993. While most concerned with the connection between the human soul and the soul of The World, as inspired by the likes of Carl Jung, Marion Woodman, James Hillman and Clarissa Pinkola Estes, her work includes theory and practice from Ecopsychology, Somatics and Wilderness Therapy. She works with c...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "I have recently discovered your podcast and have listened to a couple episodes. I appreciate your insight in many relationship scenarios. I was hoping that you can dedicate an episode or part of an episode to long distance dating and how to sustain it. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year, and we live one state apart. We seem to have an issue with communic...

LASER COACHING SESSION WITH LISTENER In this episode, I offer live coaching to help a listener explore what happens for her when she experiences an opportunity for love and connection and she "shuts down." She shares about her desire for love and authentic relationship, as well as her fear of being "too much." Listen to the episode to hear her process and the take aways (that I am sure we can all...

Today, I am sharing with you the second part of my story, where I faced my fears. If you missed the first part of the story, please listen to  ERP 079: A Personal Sharing Of My Honoring The Darkness  first. Please listen to the episode to hear my story. I would love to hear your feedback. Please comment below. Thank you! MENTIONED: ERP 076: How To Deal With Upset In Your Relationship In A New Way...

When writing the show notes for last week's podcast episode,  "ERP 078: How To Honor The Darkness,"  I realized it might be helpful for me to share a more poignant example of a time in my life where I faced my shadow in a significant way. Please listen to the episode to hear my story. "Why do we choose partners so different from ourselves? It's not fate or chance or cliches like, "the heart wants...

ACKNOWLEDGING OUR SHADOW Last week, I took a yoga class, where the instructor talked about honoring our shadow. She spoke about the fact that we all have parts of ourselves that we don't want to acknowledge. We tend to focus our attention on positive aspirations, sensations, and feelings…like being happy, joyful, and in love. It is not as easy to look at our shadow. WHAT IS OUR SHADOW Put simply,...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "I'm a single mom of a 7 y.o. Boy? separated from dad 5 yrs..bf of 2 yrs is adoring, complimentary, caring….but drinks and only works 2 days a week. I work 35-38 hrs a wk. i am motivated, he is….not. I love him..he's a good person, although has been caught in multiple small lies….he wants US sooo bad and i KNOW he wants to be good and do right but seems to unknowingly play "vi...

LASER COACHING SESSION WITH LISTENER Please listen to the episode to hear the whole coaching session. MAIN POINTS 1. You can't change your partner. 2.   You CAN work with your partner , if they are willing. 3.  By having a different conversation (exploring a new way of dealing with conflict),  you will gather more information  (i.e. Is your partner interested, are they able, are they willing). 4....

Before listening to this episode, check out  ERP 074: How To Combat The Damage Of Stress In Your Relationship  – Part One. "Up to 98 percent of American adults report feeling some form of stress on a regular basis." writes Laura Newcomer in "Is Stress Hurting Your Relationship?" In  part one  to the podcast topic, I layout for you: What is stress? Damage of stress. Stress inventory. Stress curve....

WHAT IS STRESS? Definition of Stress by Merriam-Webster : Stress is "a physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation" and "tend to alter an existent equilibrium." DAMAGE OF STRESS Stress is a common part of our lives, yet it is easy for us to undermine its impact on our well-being and our relationships. In fact, many of us bec...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "I feel like I have a huge problem with my assertiveness. I am recently married and my wife and I are great together but sometimes our communication falls a little short. I would describe her as being very assertive, not scared to speak her mind or ask for what she wants, which I admire. Me on the other hand I am passive, I keep a lot of my feelings and thoughts to myself, and...

LISTENER'S QUESTION: "My wife and I have been struggling with our 19 year marriage. A year ago we started couples counseling and didn't have much success. We both did a little individual therapy and tried again with EFT couples counseling. The therapist told my wife she really needs to do more work individually to find out what is blocking her. From day one of couples counseling she stated that sh...

GUEST: Sarina Stone is an internationally renowned Medical Chi Kung (Qigong) instructor, Abdominal Massage expert, Natural Health Advocate and author of eight books. After two decades of study in northern Thailand with Tao Master, Mantak Chia, Ms. Stone has developed multiple self-help tools for stress relief, conscious manifestation, physical health and longevity. Known for her light-hearted appr...

GUEST: SARINA STONE Sarina Stone is an internationally renowned Medical Chi Kung (Qigong) instructor, Abdominal Massage expert, Natural Health Advocate and author of eight books. After two decades of study in northern Thailand with Tao Master, Mantak Chia, Ms. Stone has developed multiple self-help tools for stress relief, conscious manifestation, physical health and longevity. Known for her light...

Recently, I watched  The Psychology of Self-Motivation, by Scott Geller , which is a TEDx video. Usually, when I find a piece (article, video, qoute) that I like, I post it to my social media channels and then I move on. However, Scott's points stuck with me. I remember thinking to myself, "why am I continuing to think about this video so much?" It was a wonderful talk, but it didn't strike me as...

Kathryn Foster, Ph. D. is a psychologist in private practice in Ft Worth, Texas. With a masters degree in marriage family counseling and a Ph. D. in Psychology, she has practiced psychotherapy for 27 years. She is also the author of two novels of psychological interest-  Sessions: Memoirs of a Psychotherapist  and  Finding My Way . She has written two nonfiction companion books to The Naked Truth...

WHY DO WE BLAME THE PEOPLE WE LOVE? Most of the time, we are not trying to be mean or hurtful when we blame our partners. Underneath the blame are usually feelings of pain, discomfort, or insecurity, and we don't know how to deal with it. Here are two reasons why we blame in relationship: 1.   It is self-protection.  We want to protect our image, and we try to control how people view us. "It's not...

Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph. D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and contextual disruptor. She has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a seminar leader, training professionals from many fields in the core skills of conscious living: authenticity, response-ability and appreciation. She is the co-author o...

5 WAYS COMPLAINING IS DETRIMENTAL TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP Here are 5 Questions to help you identify if complaining is having a negative impact on your relationship: Be sure to listen to the episode to hear stories, examples, and more tips. 1. IS COMPLAINING HELPFUL? Complaining is often seen as synonymous with venting. When we don't know how to create change, it is easy to want to complain as a way o...

In last weeks episode,  How To Keep Your Relationship Strong (when she is more successful) – Part One , I discussed findings from several research studies that explore relationship dynamics between men and women when the female partner is more successful. I highly encourage you to check it out, so that you have a foundation for this weeks podcast episode. Also, I provided the first two ways to str...

Are men really attracted to successful women? Does a man feel threatened or emasculated when his female partner outperforms him? Is a marriage compromised when the woman is the breadwinner? In the episode, I discuss findings from several research studies that address these questions. Please see links below to access articles and blogs (under "Mentioned"). Here are some main points: Men are attract...

Can you simply have a friendship when you have romantic and/or sexual potential with someone?  Is it a good idea to stay friends with an ex-significant other?  Having a platonic friendship with someone with whom you have romantic potential, sexual attraction, or history with can be complicated for sure. However, it is not impossible. 4 KEYS TO DEVELOPING A HEALTHY FRIENDSHIP (WITH SOMEONE OTHER TH...