Employing Differences

"When we enter a collaborative space, and we bring a piece of ourselves, we bring some work that we've done, we bring ideas that we've done, we bring a vision or a plan or a mission, but we bring this piece that ours because we've done it, and it belongs to us, or ours because we hold it deeply in our hearts, or there's lots of ways that they're that it's mine. B...

"We're adopting sociocracy, we're working with agile, we're starting with consensus, something like that. We're saying we're going to be much more equal in our participation equal in our influence, equal in how we show up, and so we're not going to have that dominating leader role anymore. And yet there were skills and tasks and roles and needs that came as part...

"Failure is such a juicy topic and such an emotionally loaded word. I think what's interesting is that in a lot of the work that we do, we talk about wanting to be in a space where it's safe to fail, where we can learn from failure. I think in working with groups around that, we struggle sometimes working through people's relationship to the concept of failure. So we wanted to...

"It still is that fundamental problem of finding the source of the problem in relationships isn't the same as finding the solution. What we're pointing to here is that if you're looking for whose fault it is, you may sort of build up your ego, in some ways you may make some points in some kind of corporate cultures that we'd rather you weren't in, but maybe you are –...

"I love the way you phrased that: 'Would you be willing to share?' And that's not just words. It actually matters because you're asking someone to be vulnerable enough to sort of expose their woundedness – to expose this is the thing that hurt me, and that is a vulnerable thing. And sometimes they're going to say no. Sometimes it really is the case that all of your be...

"One of the challenges is recognizing when the thing that has helped us get to where we are isn't useful for the context that we're in anymore. It was useful and things have now changed, so we need to change what we're doing. It's a thing that would work for us in another situation and probably will work for us in another situation in the future –and it's stopped work...

"If you want to guarantee that people will reject this change that you're trying to make, the best thing you could do would be to require them, to pressure them, to sell them, to shame them. Those would be really good ways of engaging whatever it is that already is alive in them that says that they don't want to be part of this. Inviting them is useful, and also being ready for the...

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