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The "I don’t know how" lie is one of many stories that our brains like to offer us when we are facing a new opportunity or challenge because it just wants to protect us from feeling fear, inadequate, and discomfort.   When we hold tightly to that story, we simply stay stuck.  We simply don’t progress.  In a very real way we simply give up on ourselves and our potential.  Think about what...

When was the last time you laughed, I mean really laughed?  How do you feel being around people who help you laugh?    It's been said that laughter is the best medicine, and I believe that is true, especially in times of stress.  Laughter has the power to: Ease the tension and stress in any situation Show us another perspective Allows us to view ourselves in a more positive light Keep us from...

What comes up for you when you hear the word perfectionism? Is it a word that you can identify with at some level?  Maybe you have had thoughts like,  “This project I am working on isn’t good enough. Look at all those mistakes and flaws! It has to be perfect before I can finish it."      "I am afraid to try that thing because I don’t know if I am going to be any good at it, and I don’t w...

For years I longed for someone who would listen to me and really understand the challenges I was having with anxiety, overwhelm, and self-doubt.  Someone who knew what it felt like to worry constantly, spin in circles, and not be able to make even the simplist decisions.  Someone who would hear me and not make me feel like I was a crazy person.  I wanted relief from the control these emotions had...

When it comes to intentional thinking,  it reinforces the idea that all people are free to act and not be acted upon.  When we find ourselves in certain situations, our default reactive or unintentional thinking  may kick in.  Why does this happen?  Because we all have a human brain!  And with that reactive, unintentional thinking, we usually don't create the best results for ourselves; we do...

Today we will  talk about  the feeling of Overwhelm.  I think it is a fair thing to say that we have all experienced this feeling at times.  The feeling you get when you think that there is too much to do and not enough time to do it all.  Where you feel like you are constantly running faster and faster to finish, but there is always more to do.  Does this sound familar? We are going to discuss wh...

As our lives move faster and faster, making the time to be still  is vital to our mental, emotional, and spiritual health and well being.  There is such power in allowing oursleves to be still, even for a few minutes each day.  But if you're like me,  making time isn't always easy, and, you may have a lot of reasons that you think are valid, preventing you from this daily practice. In th...

2021 was a year for the books.   I heard so many say they couldn't wait to get this year over with, hoping for a better year ahead.  And sometimes I found myself wishing for the same thing.  But then I was able to sit down and really reflect on what 2021 has taught me.  In looking back, I have realized that 2021 had a lot to offer, and so in this episode I will several things that I learned,...

This new year has started out completely different than I had anticipated.  Two days ago I had had to make a conscious decision about what kind of experience I wanted to create for myself when plans suddenly changed for several members of my family.   It's been a crazy few days around here!  I have learned, once again, that when situations in life happen beyond our control, we have the abilit...

How often do you find yourself jumping to conclusions?  Making assumptions, even negative assumptions about a given situation?  We assume that the story we tell ourselves is absolutely true because we think we know.  But these are just stories we create, and most often these stories create a lot of drama and pain. Dr. David Burns, M.D, offers that jumping to conclusions is one of ten cognitive dis...

 Thirty years ago my world changed quite dramatically.  I was a 23 year old mom with three small children under the age of 3 (a toddler and identical twin boys).  To say I was overwhelmed and exhausted would be an understatement!  Now, at the age of 53, I have often wondered what I would want to share with that younger version of me.  What wisdom would I want to give her?  What would I want her to...

“I Should…” What feelings come up for you when you think this thought?  On the surface thinking “I should   ”   seem harmless, even useful.  But the truth is, for some people it is a sneaky triggering thought that only pretends to be helpful and can pack quite a punch.  For me, thinking “ I should …”,triggers feelings of guilt , anxiety, shame , self-criticism, comparison, and judgment .  I mistak...

Showing compassion for others may not seem very hard.  But showing compassion for ourselves?  That's a different story.  When you don't show up the way you want to, or when you make mistakes, how do you treat yourself?  Maybe it looks like judgement and criticism.  For years, that is exactly what it looked like for me, and, if I am being totally honest, sometimes it still does.  But what...

During our lives, we will face challenging circumstances, or trials.  We know that this is all part of our mortal experience, but it doesn't make them any less painful.   In today's episode I will share how those closest to me have held onto faith to carry them through.  We will disucss what faith is, and how, using bridge thoughts, we can develop that same faith in order to navigate thr...

The holiday season is beginning and with that comes celebrations with family and friends.  Although we  look forward to spending the holidays with those we love, sometimes drama can creep in.  In today's episode we will talk about some of the reasons drama might find its way into our family gatherings, and  then I will give you a few tools that I have learned and continue to use that help me...

No matter what the event, I like to have a plan.  It's not that I am in love with planning, but having a plan in place gives me peace of mind and keeps anxiety at bay.  I have always believed that when you are prepared you will not fear or panic.  My brain loves to spend a lot of energy and time trying to plan for EVERY possible thing that could go wrong.  That's what brains do.  They tr...

For as long as I can remember, anxiety has always been a constant companion of mine.    We hear this word everywhere, and some have even described it as the new “buzzword”.  Perhaps meaning that this word is used to describe all the emotions we feel, or, emotions we don’t want to feel.   The word anxiety has become almost an everyday term over the last two years. So, in a sense, it has become a ne...

Isn't it fascinating to watch little children as they explore the world around them?  Their natural curiosity helps them to understand the world around them.  They always want to know "why"?  All too often I found myself, as a young mom, not taking the time to really answer my children's "whys", especially when they went on and on and on with the never ending "wh...

So many times I just want to "fix" the challenges or problems of those I love.  It's hard to see them struggle!  So many times I just wish I can take those struggles or challenges away and make them feel better.  Even though I know that I can't do any of this, I discovered something even more.  I discovered that deep down the reason I want to fix their challenges is not just to...

When we stay focused  on what we have done or haven't done in our past, it will keep us stuck, preventing us from moving forward and reaching our potential, even our Divine potential.  We may have thoughts like, "this is how I have always been, I can't change", "I don't know how to do something new".  When we choose to keep these thoughts, we end up going around...

Setting goals for ourselves is essential for our growth and progress.  But setting a goal without making a plan doesn't get us to the destination we are aiming for. We need a road map in order for us to stay focused, and ultimately reach our goal.  In this episode I will discuss the 6 steps and tips of goal planning as well as what to do when unexpected obstacles get in the way of achieving y...

Our life is an adventure and we get to choose what we want to do.  Setting goals is something that we all do.  In this first part of a two part series, we will discuss why setting goals is important, the most important thing you need to do  when you decide to set a goal, and the first steps in creating that goal.  I will illustrate this by sharing a personal goal that my friend and I set together...

How do you define self-confidence?  Where does it come from?  This week we will be answering both of those questions, understanding that self-confidence is something that we can create.  So many of us want more self-confidence.  I know I did.  For years I struggled to feel self-confident, holding onto beliefs about myself with a death grip.  Maybe you have too. Join me as we explore what self-conf...

Receiving recognition for something we do feels great.  Our world thrives on external validation.  We see it everywhere: the workplace, on social media, in our schools, on TV.  Where we get in trouble is when we rely  on external validation to feel valued or worthy.  Our worth has nothing to do with external accolades or recognition.  In this episode I will share my own struggle with having my sel...

We have instructional manuals for so many things in our lives, from cars, to appliances, and even at work there are instructional manuals and expectations.  Although we might not realize it, we even have "manuals" or expectations for the people in our lives.  These expectations, or "manuals" usually cause us to feel frustrated because when the people in our lives don't mee...