DOUBLE TAKE: Navigating Life's Second Act

We like to think completing treatment is the finish line, but Tanya learned it's just the beginning. In part two of her story on Double Take, she opens up about what coming home really looked like — the transition no one prepared her for, the toll on her own nervous system, and the parts of herself she discovered needed healing too. She also shares what she wishes someone had told her at the start...

This one is personal. In this episode, Tanya opens up about one of the hardest seasons of her life — walking alongside her daughter through a mental health crisis, and discovering that everything she thought it meant to be a good mom was getting in the way. From uprooting her life and moving to Portland, to sitting outside a coffee shop and finally surrendering the one thing she'd been gripping th...

This Mother's Day, Tanya and Tami are having the conversation every mom needs to hear. How becoming a mom is one of life's greatest gifts — and how it can also mean quietly losing yourself along the way. From helicopter parenting to hiding behind your kids to avoid the hard stuff in your marriage, they get honest about identity, codependency, and what it might look like to finally come home to you...

We're a month into 49 — the last year before half a century — and things are already moving. Tanya's watching her daughter launch into adulthood. Tami's navigating a spring without baseball for the first time in years. And somehow we ended up in the deep end: what we're done carrying into the second half — anticipatory anxiety, playing small, fawning, and the roles we never actually signed up for....

What if your vacation is actually revealing something you've been too busy to see? Tanya and Tami get honest about the invisible weight of managing everyone else's experience — and how it quietly keeps us from ever really arriving, no matter where we go. They dig into where that pattern comes from, why it's so hard to put down, and what it might look like to finally just be somewhere instead of or...

What in your life still needs wintering? What parts of you are asking for rest, even as everything around you says to push forward? In this episode, we explore the concept of "wintering"—those in-between spaces that deserve more than just powering through. We share our own experiences with difficult seasons and examine the signs that we're pushing too hard instead of allowing ourselves the rest an...

In this heartfelt continuation, Tami shares the hardest parts of co-parenting after divorce—from answering tough questions to introducing new partners, and why forgiveness isn't a one-time decision but a daily practice. She reveals the moment she knew her marriage was over and offers her best advice for those in the overwhelming early stages. This episode gets real about the emotional work of crea...

Her marriage ended, her family didn't. In this deeply personal conversation, Tami shares her co-parenting journey - the broken moments, the unexpected gifts, and how one unshakable thread kept them whole through it all. She shares the counterintuitive truths she discovered along the way and the wisdom that transformed her approach to motherhood. Raw, real, and full of hard-won insight (Part 1 of 2...

The holidays hit differently in midlife—especially when juggling aging parents, teenagers, and shifting energy levels.  We discuss honoring your energy, navigating family expectations, and why choosing what truly matters might be the most generous gift you give this year. Hear our journey of releasing traditions, creating new rituals that fill our cups, and how we've set boundaries in our own live...

Ever feel like you should know what you need by now—but don't? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore why so many of us in midlife lose touch with our own truth—and how the patterns that once protected us (taught us to stay quiet, play small, and tune out that inner voice) now keep us stuck. You'll learn why saying "I don't know (yet)" can be one of the most freeing things you do—and a simp...

Scrolling mindlessly again? Pouring that third glass of wine? Going through the motions without really feeling much of anything? Yeah, we've all been there. In this episode, we're getting real about the difference between numbing and nourishing—and why knowing the difference might be one of the most important things we figure out in midlife. We talk about what it actually means to "numb out" versu...

Ever notice how your teenager's eye roll can instantly transport you back to feeling 15 again? When parenting teenagers triggers our own childhood wounds, we're called to heal alongside our kids. In this vulnerable episode, we explore reparenting ourselves while raising our children—recognizing inherited patterns, choosing different responses in tough moments, and breaking generational cycles. We...

September has always felt like the real New Year - that back-to-school energy whispering "fresh start" even decades past carrying a backpack. This week, we're exploring why September hits different and how to harness that energy without burning out. We're tackling the guilt of saying no, the exhaustion of saying yes to everything, and how to find your middle ground. From work demands to social inv...

No plan, no script, no filter—just two sisters taking on whatever random questions the internet throws at us. Childhood favorites? Check. Annoying habits? Oh yes. Rebellious stories? You bet. It's messy, funny, real, and unexpectedly revealing. Buckle up for a spontaneous ride through laughter, honesty, and the sister truths we didn't see coming.

Does your mind ever jump straight to the worst-case scenario the moment something feels uncertain? We get it—and you're definitely not alone. In this episode, we're talking about catastrophizing, that sneaky mental habit that turns small worries into full-blown disasters before anything has actually happened. We dig into how anxiety hijacks your nervous system, creating those exhausting cycles of...

What happens when the dreams that once drove you no longer fit who you're becoming? In this episode, we explore one of midlife's most complex challenges: grieving the loss of ambition as we knew it. We dive into the tender process of listening to what we actually need right now, rather than what we think we should want. We examine how to release old versions of ourselves without judgment, choosing...

We've all said 'we should get together!' and then... crickets. In this episode, we tackle why making friends as adults feels so challenging and the friendship myths that keep us stuck. From believing everyone else's life is a constant party (thanks, social media) to thinking we need a massive friend group, we're calling out the lies that sabotage our social lives. We'll explore the three types of...

As we transition into summer, many of us feel the pull of shifting rhythms and changing routines. In this episode, we explore navigating the beautiful chaos that summer brings to our lives and families. We discuss what draws us to summer—longer evenings, outdoor adventures, and permission to slow down—while acknowledging it's not always the carefree paradise we imagine. From disrupted bedtimes to...

Losing a parent changes everything. Whether they were your hero, your complicated relationship, or somewhere in between, their absence leaves a unique void that touches every corner of your life. In this episode, the twins share what they are learning about grief – the messy, non-linear reality of it. They engage in a very real and raw conversation about the impending loss of their dad. They discu...

Join us as we explore the ever changing energy dynamics of midlife. This episode examines the physical, emotional, and mental energy shifts that occur as we cross this significant threshold—changes many experience but few discuss openly. We share personal stories and practical strategies for navigating everything from unexplained fatigue to the subtle energetic exchanges that shape our relationshi...

Ever felt like life's pulling at loose threads you didn't even know were there? This week, I'm reading Brené Brown's essay 'The Midlife Unraveling' – and trust me, it hits different when you read it aloud. Brown nails that moment when we just can't fake it anymore, when all our neat little boxes start falling apart. It's not about having a crisis – it's about finally getting real with yourself. I...

In this episode, the twins get candid about reclaiming fun in midlife. They explore how our relationship with "fun" transforms through different life stages—from carefree youth to the demands of parenthood to this current chapter where we have some more freedom but struggle to use it. They distinguish between numbing out and true embodied enjoyment, challenging both real and self-imposed barriers...

Questioning your career path? You're not alone. In this episode, the sisters tackle that midlife moment when professionals question everything they've built. Through personal stories, they explore what triggers career doubt—from achievement plateaus to shifting values—and examine the complex relationship between career and identity. Their twin perspective offers unique insights on how professional...

Join the twins in this candid episode as they unpack the things that simply don't work anymore in midlife. From physical realities (goodbye late nights and trusted digestive systems) to emotional shifts (farewell people-pleasing and comparison), they share their "big misses" with refreshing honesty. They offer both laughs and comfort in knowing you're not alone in discovering what truly matters in...

Join us this week as we pull back the curtain on one of life's most fascinating relationships – being twins! In this episode, we explore the realities and unexpected complexities of sharing our DNA but living distinct lives. From the classic "twin telepathy" questions to the deeper challenge of establishing individual identities in midlife, we get candid about our unique bond and how it's evolved...