Don't Tell the Kids

Hey mama. Have you ever looked up what your kid actually buys for lunch? Siobhan did, and she read the whole transaction history out loud. (Airheads were involved. So was Chick-fil-A. At school.) Then a harmless chat at football practice sends her spiraling. Is she the crunchy mom who sounds like a snob? Mel admits she used to be the most annoying person at the party after nutrition school. We als...

Hey mama —  This week we're talking about the painful process of getting everyone to school on time. One of us tried a gentler way to get her teenager out of bed this week. It did not go the way she planned. Now the carpool is idling in the driveway, her husband thinks it's no big deal, and she's the only one in the house sweating. Something's gotta give.  Then it wanders, like...

Hey mama — if you've ever read the book Signs , think we're capable of way more than we know, or asked for a sign and then talked yourself out of it — this one's for you. Mel spent the weekend in the woods of upstate New York learning how to connect with what Laura Lynne Jackson calls your team of light. She came home with a bent spoon, a dime stuck to a hotel wall, and the sign she...

Hey mama — this week we're asking each other the uncomfortable one: what's the thing you know you should change and just… haven't? For Siobhan, it's the closet she can't open. For Mel it's the coffee she has no intention of giving up. (We did fact-check Marie Kondo mid-episode. Turns out she's on our side now.) Somewhere in there we get into letting our kids stru...

Hey mama — if you've ever wondered if you're a good parent, this one's for you. We asked each other what we've gotten right and what we'd do over, and then we asked our kids. Nobody had a great answer. What we did have: a chore chart that's been "in progress" for over a year, a swearing rule that may absolutely backfire, and one uncomfortable realization abo...

Hey mama — we're back after a week off and so much has changed. New schools, new haircuts, and yes — Mel caved and got him a phone. (Siobhan is still holding the line. For now.) And then we take a hard left. Books, dragons, and a rabbit hole so far off the rails we had to Google a definition mid-episode. That's all we're saying. Grab your coffee, hide in your car, and don't tel...

You finally start the thing. The idea you've been carrying around for years, the one that felt like it came from somewhere bigger than you. And then you notice what it's costing — not in money, but in the small invisible things you used to do for your family without thinking twice. This week Mel opens up about the honest math of running a business while being the person everyone else lea...

Teenagers. That's it, that's the episode. Okay, not really — but this week we're deep in it. The boy who argues every single point until you want to lie down on the floor, versus the dad who says the exact same thing once and somehow it just... lands. (We have thoughts about this. None of them are fair.) We get into summer checklists and why 15 minutes of a math app apparently const...

Don't Tell the Kids... Self-Care Needs a Rebrand Okay so we finally did it — we brought in a friend who actually knows the science. Dr. Melissa Sonners is a doctor, nervous system regulation expert, and author of The Connection Code , and she came on to either validate our narratives or tell us we're crazy. (Spoiler: it's the first one.) We got into why we verbally process everythin...

Okay mama, pour the coffee and lock the bathroom door, because this week we're going THERE: kids and phones. Did you know teens are averaging 7+ hours of screen time a day — and that's not counting schoolwork? SEVEN. HOURS. We're breaking down what they're actually doing on there (spoiler: it's not knitting tutorials), why the algorithm is basically a stranger whispering i...

Hey mama — this week we’re catching up over coffee and getting real about what it actually takes to build something from scratch. Mel opens up about the messy behind-the-scenes of her supplement company — the two-year (and counting!) journey, the frustrating formulation delays, and why she started it in the first place: nobody told her that ten years on birth control was quietly depleting her nutr...

Before kids, we had a long list of things we’d never do — screens at dinner, leashes at the airport, Gatorade at baseball. Then we became moms. This week, Mal and Siobhan get honest about the quiet judgments we all make (and receive), from impatient dads on airplanes to the kindergartner with a brand-new iPhone. They dig into why we over-parent when strangers are watching, how moms and dads parent...

We're circling back to regretful parenting — but this time we actually did our homework. After friends kept telling us how huge this topic is on Reddit, we dove into the threads where parents say the things no one says out loud: the loss of self, the relentlessness, the boredom, the guilt, and the love that runs underneath all of it. We get honest about grieving the person you were before kid...

Don't tell the kids... but we stumbled onto something this week that we couldn't stop thinking about. There are these anonymous groups online — thousands of parents, pouring out the thing nobody says out loud: that sometimes, they regret it. Parenthood. All of it. And our first reaction was, how could you? How could you look at your child and feel that way? But the more we sat with it, t...

You know that feeling when something in your gut won't quiet down, even when every "expert" in the room is telling you you're overreacting? This week we go there. We start where we always do — somewhere completely random, this time Dirty Dancing and the back rooms where men used to go rent their, ahem, movies — and somehow end up on the stuff that actually keeps us up at night....

Okay, this one gets real. Mel and Siobhan start out somewhere lighter — Miami rain, cycle phases, sensual Sundays, and whether scheduling intimacy actually ruins the magic or just keeps it alive (jury's still out). And then Siobhan brings the question she came with: when you stay with someone after they cheat, does it ever stop coming up? Mel doesn't dodge. She talks about the years her...

This one starts in the most ordinary place — kids and chores, the boys negotiating their way out of dishes, the rotting calamari Giacomo left in his fishing bag for a week, and the word "disappointed" and whether we should even be using it on our kids. From there it turns into a real conversation about people-pleasing, alignment, and how the energy you carry shapes everyone around you —...

Buckle up, this one goes places. Mel and Siobhan start out talking about how Siobhan is never going to be the organized, 4 a.m.-journaling type — and how living next to someone that disciplined can quietly make you feel like you're doing life wrong (you're not). From there, it somehow turns into a conversation about who we become inside long relationships, the parts of ourselves that get...

If you've ever stood in the kitchen mentally running tomorrow's lunches, three carpools, and what's defrosting for dinner while your husband walks in and asks what you're thinking about... this one's for you. Siobhan and Mel get into the invisible mental load women carry and how differently our brains work from the men in our lives. It started because some guy on Instagram...

This episode, just like every other one, gets real. Siobhan and Mel sat down to talk about their moms — what they taught us about being women, what they didn't, and all the messy in-between stuff that we're still untangling as we raise our own kids. We get into it: the houses we grew up in (one filled with baked goods and zero visible conflict, the other with a mom who was amazing 20 day...

Okay mama, pour the coffee (or the wine, no judgment here) because this one's a ride. We're getting into ALL of it this week — like the fact that we're suddenly the moms holding the menu at arm's length and using our phones as little telescopes because nobody wants to admit they need readers yet. We're talking about the time a certain THC kombucha at a Miami get-together s...

This conversation started light… and then got real. Because once you actually think about consent today — not just the idea of it, but what it looks like with phones, Snapchat, alcohol, all of it… It’s not simple. It’s layered, it’s messy, and honestly… it’s a little scary when you’re raising boys in it. We didn’t solve anything — but we talked about it. Don’t tell the kids.

Okay… this is your warning: do NOT play this one in the car with your kids 😂 We went there. Like really went there. It started with a very innocent question—does your vagina get ruined after kids?—and somehow turned into a full-blown, no-filter conversation about sex after babies, peeing when you laugh, what no one tells you about birth, and the stuff we all secretly wonder but don’t say out loud...

This episode starts with our most embarrassing moments… and somehow spirals into everything we weren’t planning to say. It’s raw, it’s unfiltered, and yes — there are parts we maybe should’ve kept to ourselves. But that’s kind of the point. Real life, real stories, and the kind of honesty you usually save for your group chat. Press play, laugh with us (or at us), and feel a little less alone in th...