Dont Make Me Call Her

How the f#ck do these people keep finding me? This week on DMMCH, we're getting into the two schools of clap back: the Ginja-Ninja full Chinatown way — blunt, immediate, and leaving zero room for interpretation — versus Jason's "chill like a monk" way of dealing with idiots. As much as we want to spread kindness, some people do deserve a reminder of how to behave better. This week I'm digging into...

People get offended by everything these days—and we’re over it. In today’s episode of  DMMCH , we’re discussing why direct communication is being labeled as "rude" and how to find the middle ground when the world feels like it’s becoming increasingly fragile. We’re talking about the cultural clash of directness, the struggle of being "too blunt" in a "soft" society, a...

Let’s be real: our communication skills have hit rock bottom. We are currently living through the Great Email/Text/DM Apocalypse, where we’re expected to be available 24/7, yet somehow, nobody actually knows how to have a conversation anymore. In this episode, we’re calling out the digital madness. We’re breaking down the massive generational gap—from the Gen X “I’ll get to it when I get to it” co...

Don't let your age define you people! As a huge Lewis Hamilton fan for many years, I’m so thrilled to celebrate his first Formula One Grand Prix win with the world's most iconic team, Scuderia Ferrari. At 41, driving for Ferrari in his second season, Lewis just gave the middle finger to every cynic who said he was "washed up." If the 2025 season was a dumpster fire, Spain was the glorious and EPIC...

If you aren’t being called a “diva” or “difficult” at least once a week, are you even doing it right? This week on DMMCH, we’re weaponising the ‘Asian Discount.’ We’re moving past the supermarket haggling and looking at the real reason we do it: because you deserve what you’re asking for, and the world is counting on you to be too embarrassed to demand it. We’re peeling back the layers on why wome...

EP 9. Welcome to the cultural interrogation room. This episode, we are unpacking the endless cycle of family grilling. Why does reaching a certain age mean your aunties get a free pass to ask about your uterus, your bank account, and your relationship status? We dive into the heavy pressure to stay quiet just to 'keep the peace,' and share actual, practical ways to reject the traditional n...

We’ve all done it. You keep holding the door open for someone just because you have ten to thirty years of history together or because you share the same last name. But let’s get real: a long timeline or a bloodline isn’t a lifetime pass to wreck your mental health. It’s time to start issuing some "Access Denied" notices. In this episode, Jason and I are talking about how to spot the ult...

If you work in the creative industry or the freelance world, grab a matcha latte and sit down. This week, Jason and I are pulling back the curtain on the absolute circus of chasing what you’re actually worth. We’re breaking down the ultimate "Dos and Don’ts" of setting your rates, and exposing the oldest client trick in the book: the classic  "we just don't have the budget"...

If you want to know how Grace Lam claps back this one is for you. Apparently, the "sweet primary school" era has a much shorter shelf life than it used to. One minute you’re dealing with lost lunchboxes, and the next, the social dynamics have shifted into a low-budget teen drama—about three years ahead of schedule. In this episode, Jason and I discuss the "Year 7 Pivot." We’re...

Why are we all so terrified of a little chat? In this episode, we’re diving into the awkward, sweaty-palmed world of  confrontation . Most people would rather move to a different country than tell a friend they owe them money or tell a colleague their "reply all" habit is bloody annoying. We explore why everyone has become so sensitive and why "refusing to talk things out" is a...

Episode 4: What happens when your nervous system is pushed to the absolute limit? In this episode of  Don't Make Me Call Her , things get real—and a little terrifying. Jason and I are opening up about a high-stress incident involving an intruder trying to break into our home and how our bodies instinctively took over. We’re breaking down the "Fight or Flight" response, but through two very differe...

Ever said "Yes" to something while your soul was screaming "No"? We’ve all been there—that sinking feeling in your stomach the moment the words leave your mouth, followed by a week of self-loathing. In this episode of  Don't Make Me Call Her , we’re getting comfortable with the most powerful two-letter word in the language. You’d think that with age and experience, saying n...

Episode 2: The Art of the Ginja Ninja—Handling Anger & The Combat Zone How do you handle the heat when the temper flares? In this episode of  Don't Make Me Call Her , the "Ginja Ninja Master" herself sits down with her most mature student, Jason, to dissect the rawest of human emotions:  Anger . We’re diving deep into the generational shift of rage—comparing the "Boomer-styl...

After an 11-month 'sabbatical' spent wrestling with the endless life admin of moving from Perth to Melbourne, Grace and Jason are finally back behind the mic. In this season opener, Grace addresses the baffling rumour that she should become a life coach. (Honestly, are you lot quite alright? WhoTF wants my Chinatown advice?) Apparently, the world is crying out for some "G-Ninja x Bruc...

Herrooo my beloved (and possibly imaginary) listeners! It's time for another episode of 'Don't Make Me Call Her,' where we delve into the truly important things in life: Pet Peeves. This week, Jason and I are taking you on a whirlwind tour of our most memorable experiences living in Hong Kong and Australia. Picture this: phone-addicted pedestrians moving at a snail pace, nail clipping on public tr...

Birthday brain fog is real peeps! This week on 'Don't Make Me Call Her,' I'm turning 52 and struggling to form coherent sentences thanks to perimenopause. Plus, I'm unleashing my annual rant about the 'Happy Birthday' song – you know, the one that makes me want to hide under a table? (Yes, I gagged a waitress once. It's a long story.) I'm also celebrating Anthon...

Oscars madness! For this second episode, we're dissecting Hollywood's biggest and most self absorbed night, the Academy Awards. Frankly, I'm shocked no one mentioned a certain President's tiny hands. Missed opportunity! Timothée Chalamet's yellow suit: genius or a crime against fashion? Is Mick Jagger the new Bob Dylan? Plus, the Australian TV delay: are we living in the Stone...

Back for more, are we? "Don't Make Me Call Her" returns for a second series, because apparently, I haven't scared enough people off yet. This new series, I'm dragging my husband, Jason, along for the ride as we attempt to decipher the mysteries of biracial marriage. Think cultural differences, relationship squabbles, and in this first episode my burning question for Aussies:...

Gong Hei Fat Choy, everyone! It's Chinese New Year, Year of the Snake! I go full-on superstition mode—because obviously, the fate of your entire year depends on whether you wash your hair on the first day (spoiler: DON’T). In this last episode of this first series, Jason and I break down all the CNY dos and don’ts that sound completely mental to non-Chinese folk. No taking out the bins (unless you...

Sir Lewis Hamilton at Ferrari? If you didn't know...WTF have you been? Yes I am talking Formula One again! This week the 7 time world champion, made his debut test drive for Scuderia Ferrari and the internet imploded. Lewis dropped a Godfather-esque pic from Ferrari HQ in Maranello, Italy and the Tifosi went nuts! To dissect this historic F1 moment, I've dialed up my F1 mate Brad Coleman. We'll be...

The perks of having globe-trotting friends? Lotza stories to share! This episode, I’m dialing up my ‘baby-faced’ little bro, Daniel Kong. Originally from Brunei but now living in London, he’s a former journalist/writer who worked for Monocle magazine, Lane Crawford, and the South China Morning Post. We met in Hong Kong and became fast friends. For episode 8, we dive into our childhood shenanigans,...

Our Wedding Anniversary Special Episode: As you can imagine, I’m not your typical wife who makes a big deal about anniversaries or gives a toss about birthdays—it’s just not my style (blame it on the perimenopause brain fog). Fun fact: neither of us can even remember our marriage proposal. Was it at a French restaurant in Sydney (my version), or was it in the hotel swimming pool in Melbourne (Jaso...

This week on Don’t Make Me Call Her, I spill all the festive tea about my Christmas family vacation in Melbourne, Australia! Think cool wine bars, wicked restaurants, and neighborhood gems you need to visit. We also made a cultural pit stop at Yayoi Kusama's massive exhibition—yes, the one with the polka dots that’s lighting up everyone’s Insta feed. But that’s not all, I took on the unofficial ro...

In this episode, I’m catching up with my old friend Pascal Anson—artist, product designer and the man who made British Airways planes look mega cool for the London Olympics. Pascal also hosted a popular BBC show- The Big Paint Challenge. After 30 years of friendship, we share our weird lingo that only we understand. We talk about the blissfully clueless freedom of our 20s, by the way never dye you...

Start your engines, F1 fans! I’m finally unleashing my love for Formula One on my podcast! It’s no secret I’m Sir Lewis Hamilton’s #1 fan—meeting him at a Gucci dinner in Hong Kong, hosted by Wendi Murdoch, was hands down the highlight of my life! (Sorry Jason). This episode is a game changer - it’s my very first video episode! Watch as I make the ultimate switch, swapping my Mercedes hat for Ferr...