Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

I am joined by Meghan Freed, Managing Co-Partner of Freed Marcroft, a law firm in CT. Meghan shares her experience with the different types of legal support available to couples seeking divorce. She discusses the many benefits of mediation and the opportunities that come along with pursuing a partnership through a divorce. Meghan gives some wonderful mindset shifts during this episode, so tune in...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During this week's episode, Tami reminded those going through a divorce to stop and breathe, gather the information, and not rush to get to the settlement. This is the rest of your life that we’re talking about, your next chapter. Surround yourself with professionals,...

In today’s episode, Certified Divorce Lending Professional Tami Wollensak joins us to discuss how to handle the family home during a divorce. Tami talks about the difference between a certified divorce lending professional and a typical mortgage lender. She gives some excellent tips about budgeting and details to look at if you want to keep the family home after a divorce. There are several things...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. If you expect that you’re never going to feel bad and that life will be amazing once you change your mindset, you will be disappointed. These feelings are opportunities; they teach us what we like and don’t like. Learn to use your feelings to change your mindset, and...

Today is our monthly episode with Tracy Pleschourt, founder of Self-Made U. This week; we discuss feelings of shame, blame, guilt, and any other negative feelings we may experience through divorce. Tracy talks with us about the fact that there is no right amount of time to sit with those feelings, but there will come a point when you are ready to move on. She gives a great reminder that we must si...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During this week’s episode, Laurel shared the reminder to breathe through the moment and remember that this is just a point in time. She also wanted listeners to acknowledge that they are in a grief process when going through a divorce. Grief is not linear; we don’t...

Today I am joined by Clinical Psychotherapist, Laurel Sole. After going through her own traumatic divorce, Laurel decided to help provide others with the tools and support needed to work through and heal from the trauma. Laurel talks about her divorce and the trauma she experienced before getting married. It is possible to heal and to move forward with your life. Tune in today to hear great tips o...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Linda’s advice is to understand all the stories our mind tells us about finances and money. We have something like 85k thoughts a day, and the majority of them are negative. Live in the present moment and be aware of the thoughts going through our brain, whether they...

Today I am joined by financial coach, Linda Lingo. Linda empowers women to help them repair their relationships with finances and make money their best friend. Did you know by the time we are seven years old, our financial story is already created in our minds? Throughout this episode, Linda gives many mindset shifts that can help us to change our story to allow a better relationship with finances...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Kim Best wants us to remember that this situation is for now. Where you are is just for now, and it will get better. She also wants you to remember that as you go through the divorce process, it's easy to place blame on your soon-to-be ex-spouse; instead of assigning...

Today I am joined by Kim Best, a nurse turned divorce mediator in Tennessee. Kim walks us through how she got into mediation and what opportunities she sees through mediation. She focuses on the opportunity and the positive ways to handle conflict and divorce vs. feeling regret years later. Kim talks with us about how our difficult circumstances impact our legacy and some of the great examples she...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. When you go through something that feels hard, you can end the suffering a little quicker and look at it as a gift or an opportunity. When you go through something hard, ask yourself as soon as you can, “How can this be a gift in the future to me or someone close to me?”...

Today I am sharing some tools that can help you to view suffering differently. Shifting your focus during a difficult circumstance to look for the gifts or opportunities being shown to you instead of getting stuck in the situation can make a world of difference. I walk through three scenarios of realizing the amazing gifts I’ve received through challenging times. Tune in today to learn how to swit...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. The first step in changing your life is to decide that you want to get better. All wellness begins from the inside out, so if you are ready to change your worldview and your life, reach out to Keith or Sheila Hittner for an initial conversation, so they can steer you...

Today I am joined by Keith and Sheila Hittner from Our Healthy Homes. Keith talks with us about his experience with divorce and raising his five children with Sheila. He talks about the struggles that he went through and how he supported his children through difficult circumstances. Sheila discusses how she bonded with Keith’s children and what got her started on her Healthy Homes program. Togethe...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week’s guest Rosie Wilby suggests that when you are going through the thick of a breakup or a difficult circumstance, move your body. Physical activity, exercising, and self-care connect you with your body and the world. What a great way to feel at peace! Like w...

Today I am joined by award-winning U.K. comedian, author, and podcaster Rosie Wilby. Rosie delivers an empowering view of the unexpected joy of heartbreak. She offers the perspective of opportunities one can gain post-breakup and how society can begin to normalize that breakups can be positive and amicable. Rosie shares with us the idea behind her book, The Breakup Monologues, where she shares abo...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During this week's episode, Brian Burns talks about loneliness and the importance of connection. As humans, we are hardwired to seek connection, so it can be difficult when it isn’t easy to come by. When experiencing loneliness, Brain suggests reaching out to someone. Don...

Valentine’s Day can be tricky when you are single, especially after a divorce or breakup. Today, I have family therapist Brian Burns on the show to give some great tips about battling loneliness and knowing when you are ready to move on to a new relationship. We touch on the difference between grieving the loss of a loved one and experiencing heartbreak because of the end of a relationship. Lastly...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today I want you to remember that life is 50/50. It isn’t always going to be rainbows, sunshine, and sparkles; difficult circumstances will arise. However, reducing how much you suffer during those circumstances is possible. When you decide how to respond to a negati...

Each month I am joined by life coach and founder of Self-Made U, Tracy Pleschourt. This month we talk about worthiness and walk through a recent circumstance that made me second guess my own worthiness. Tracy talks about the best ways to shift your thinking and turn a negative situation into a positive one. Life will always come at us with difficulties. However, if you have the right tools in your...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today’s guest Janet left us with two pieces of advice. First, remember that you can only show up the best you can each day, so if you are struggling, give yourself a break, take a breath, and remember that tomorrow is another day. Secondly, understand that co-parenting is...

Today I am joined by divorce specialist Janet Price. After being a child of divorce and then going through a divorce of her own, Janet has some excellent tips on navigating a co-parenting relationship. During today’s episode, she talks about her experience through her divorce, her difficulties, and the healing that took place, which left her with a huge a-ha moment. Janet provides some excellent a...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Lisa Zeiderman’s number one tip is to become financially savvy. It is crucial that you understand your finances and that someone else isn’t doing it for you. If you need assistance walking through your finances, Savvy Ladies is an excellent free resource that pairs w...

Today I had the honor of talking with a high-conflict divorce attorney from NY, Lisa Zeiderman. During this episode, we discuss how Minnesota and New York divorce processes are similar and different. She discussed her divorce journey and how she and her ex-spouse could co-parent. She shares a story of a high-conflict divorce that she worked through and the lessons learned from that divorce. Tune i...