Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

Today I am joined by therapist, Johanna Lynn. We discuss the form of therapy she does, which explores epigenetics and unresolved family trauma in order to understand how it affects generations to come. She walks me through how to uncover where my unresolved anxiety may be coming from and how to put a stop to passing that down to my grandchildren. Johanna then discusses what self-regulation is and...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. There are things you need to think about when you’re going through divorce when it comes to estate planning. This includes your power of attorney and health care directive, which really should be updated, if necessary, during the divorce in case anything happens to you du...

Today I am joined by Attorney Melissa Miroslavich, who helps with estate planning during and after a divorce. Melissa provides so many incredible nuggets during this episode, and even I have a bunch of takeaways and things to implement into the work I do with couples. She discusses the important documents for estate planning and breaks down what each of them are. Melissa talks about how divorce ca...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Feeling confident that there is a way to support yourself and your children after divorce and years of being a stay at home mom can feel so refreshing. Take a look at what you are passionate about and decide if there is something you can do to take that passion to the nex...

Today I am honored to share my new friend Traci Simkins with you all! Traci helps stay at home moms going through divorce turn their passion into a small service based business. She helps them uncover what they are good at and create a way to make a livable wage to support themselves and their children. Traci provides some great examples of how she helps women uncover this (as well as providing a...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. The way you end one thing, sets you up, sets the stage, and it's the way you begin the next thing. While it takes two willing people to do a divorce collaboratively, it also takes effort on each individual to be working on themselves. There will be stress that comes a...

Today I am honored to have a fellow mediator, Rosemarie Ferrante on the show. Rosemarie walks us through the emotional and financial prep work that is necessary to have a smooth legal divorce process. She talks about her own experience going through a divorce and how she supports her own clients with the tools they need to create a solid co-parenting relationship. Rosemarie clarifies the differenc...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week Karen McMahon from Journey Beyond Divorce, shared with us how to be a boundary setting badass! Not only did she give some incredible tips, but she also talked about how respecting your boundaries and identifying your triggers can help you work on your emoti...

Karen McMahon, from Journey Beyond Divorce, is back for part 2. Karen teaches us all how to be a boundary badass! She shares what to do if your co-parent isn’t respecting your boundaries and paying attention to triggers that you are experiencing. She discusses parallel co-parenting and the logistical complexities of co-parenting. It is so refreshing to hear what Karen has to say, and learning how...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. On this week's episode we talked about dealing with triggers and how to love yourself enough to give empathy. If you are feeling triggered, notice the feeling, take a deep breath, and realize that you do not have to react to it at that moment. You can walk away,...

Today is part 1 of a 2 part episode with Karen McMahon, the founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. During this episode we discuss managing triggers while dealing with a high conflict co-parenting relationship. Karen discusses how to set boundaries and alleviate obstacles that may get in the way. She explains emotional energy and how to uplevel the energy you are projecting in order to benefit yourself...

Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse. If you or someone you know is suffering from domestic abuse, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for 24/7 Confidential Support: 800-799-7233 Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Understanding what an abusive relationship looks like can be truly life changing fo...

Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse. National Domestic Violence Hotline for 24/7 Confidential Support: 800-799-7233 Today I am joined by Beverly Price, founder of Her Empowered Divorce. Beverly shares signs of abuse that people most often experience, the signs of abuse, as well as the fact that some people don’t even realize they are in an abusive relationship. Beverly is a big proponent of bringing a...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today, Lesa is reflecting on her conversation with Tami Wollensak, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®). Tami shared all of the things to consider about your mortgage when negotiating a divorce settlement. Whether you are considering keeping your home or selli...

Today we are joined by Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®), Tami Wollensak. Tami shares how she helps her clients before they sign their settlement agreement by creating different options for them and making them aware of what those options look like, allowing them to make a better informed decision, and ultimately have a better divorce. Tami also shares advice on what to look for when...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week on the podcast, Brian Burns joined me to talk about strategies to get through being away from your children after divorce. We talked about how to stay connected with your children while they are away at the other parents home and how to use that time as an oppor...

Today I am joined by Brian Burns, who has been on the show many times, and is just one of my favorite family therapists! He always has such great insight and tips to share with my listeners. For this episode, Brian is talking about how to parent beyond divorce and cope with seeing your children less. He gives wonderful tips about how to navigate a difficult co-parenting relationship, and how to ma...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Learning how to be in a parallel parenting relationship can make a huge difference in your children’s life. This saddle up segment talks about how to manage a parallel parenting situation, setting boundaries, and how to follow your parenting plan for your child's...

On this week's podcast I am joined by the hosts of Co-Parent Dilemmas, Diane Dierks and Rick Voyles. Diane and Rick discuss parallel parenting and how they mediate with parents going through a divorce. They give some amazing tips on how to set boundaries and work alongside your child’s other parent, while still maintaining how you want to support your child. Rick and Diane talk about why a par...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. When you are co-parenting, you are no longer parenting as a couple. Your marriage is over, but your relationship will go on forever because of the children that you share. So how should you communicate with your ex-spouse to keep as much peace as possible? Karen shar...

Today I am joined by consultant, mentor, and writer Karen Bonnell. She is author of The Co-Parenting Handbook , which helps parents work through the end of their relationship with their children in mind. Karen talks with us about teasing apart your marriage relationship into a co-parenting relationship. She gives great tips and strategies from her book and tells how to keep the focus on your child...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself running from uncomfortable feelings such as sadness? It may feel icky, but if you have the courage to dig into it, you’ll find confidence in your decisions and the circumstances you are experiencing. You can feel sadness AND joy. Tune in today to...

On today’s episode, I brought Tracy back to go more in depth regarding confidence, and then do some coaching with me about my sadness around becoming an empty nester. Tracy walks through the 4 C’s of confidence, and discusses how to work through each step to gain confidence for each circumstance you are facing. We then take 10 minutes to dive into what I am experiencing as I become an empty nester...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. How can you feel confident about getting divorced? Learn how to become aware of what you are feeling and how to know when you are confident in the decision you are making. Once you’ve made the decision, write down why so you can reflect on that information if you start ha...

Today, I have Tracy Pleschourt from Self Made U back on the podcast! We are talking about how to feel confident in your decisions. Tracy talks about how to know if you are ready to make a big decision in your life, and the best ways to really sit with that decision to ensure you are making it from the best place possible. She also explains our primitive and prodigy brains and how they can work aga...