Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse. National Domestic Violence Hotline for 24/7 Confidential Support: 800-799-7233 Today I am joined by Beverly Price, founder of Her Empowered Divorce. Beverly shares signs of abuse that people most often experience, the signs of abuse, as well as the fact that some people don’t even realize they are in an abusive relationship. Beverly is a big proponent of bringing a...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today, Lesa is reflecting on her conversation with Tami Wollensak, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®). Tami shared all of the things to consider about your mortgage when negotiating a divorce settlement. Whether you are considering keeping your home or selli...

Today we are joined by Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®), Tami Wollensak. Tami shares how she helps her clients before they sign their settlement agreement by creating different options for them and making them aware of what those options look like, allowing them to make a better informed decision, and ultimately have a better divorce. Tami also shares advice on what to look for when...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week on the podcast, Brian Burns joined me to talk about strategies to get through being away from your children after divorce. We talked about how to stay connected with your children while they are away at the other parents home and how to use that time as an oppor...

Today I am joined by Brian Burns, who has been on the show many times, and is just one of my favorite family therapists! He always has such great insight and tips to share with my listeners. For this episode, Brian is talking about how to parent beyond divorce and cope with seeing your children less. He gives wonderful tips about how to navigate a difficult co-parenting relationship, and how to ma...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Learning how to be in a parallel parenting relationship can make a huge difference in your children’s life. This saddle up segment talks about how to manage a parallel parenting situation, setting boundaries, and how to follow your parenting plan for your child's...

On this week's podcast I am joined by the hosts of Co-Parent Dilemmas, Diane Dierks and Rick Voyles. Diane and Rick discuss parallel parenting and how they mediate with parents going through a divorce. They give some amazing tips on how to set boundaries and work alongside your child’s other parent, while still maintaining how you want to support your child. Rick and Diane talk about why a par...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. When you are co-parenting, you are no longer parenting as a couple. Your marriage is over, but your relationship will go on forever because of the children that you share. So how should you communicate with your ex-spouse to keep as much peace as possible? Karen shar...

Today I am joined by consultant, mentor, and writer Karen Bonnell. She is author of The Co-Parenting Handbook , which helps parents work through the end of their relationship with their children in mind. Karen talks with us about teasing apart your marriage relationship into a co-parenting relationship. She gives great tips and strategies from her book and tells how to keep the focus on your child...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself running from uncomfortable feelings such as sadness? It may feel icky, but if you have the courage to dig into it, you’ll find confidence in your decisions and the circumstances you are experiencing. You can feel sadness AND joy. Tune in today to...

On today’s episode, I brought Tracy back to go more in depth regarding confidence, and then do some coaching with me about my sadness around becoming an empty nester. Tracy walks through the 4 C’s of confidence, and discusses how to work through each step to gain confidence for each circumstance you are facing. We then take 10 minutes to dive into what I am experiencing as I become an empty nester...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. How can you feel confident about getting divorced? Learn how to become aware of what you are feeling and how to know when you are confident in the decision you are making. Once you’ve made the decision, write down why so you can reflect on that information if you start ha...

Today, I have Tracy Pleschourt from Self Made U back on the podcast! We are talking about how to feel confident in your decisions. Tracy talks about how to know if you are ready to make a big decision in your life, and the best ways to really sit with that decision to ensure you are making it from the best place possible. She also explains our primitive and prodigy brains and how they can work aga...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Is divorce keeping you up at night? If so, take a minute to shift your mindset and accept that while things have changed, you now have the opportunity to reevaluate your financial values, understand your finances, and change anything you want about your money situation. L...

Today I am joined by Leah Hadley, the Founder and CEO of Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions. Leah is on the show to talk about financial preparation before, during, and after a divorce. She provides some incredible tips on how to set yourself up so you are knowledgeable about your finances as well as planning for the next steps. Leah provides a full list of items in this episode for you to co...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week I had marriage and family therapist, Brian Burns  on the show. He talks about being intentional and planning what you're going to say to your loved ones when going through a divorce. Whether you are telling your in-laws, friends, or even your adult children,...

Marriage and family therapist, Brian Burns, is back again! Today we are talking about how to tell your parents and loved ones that you are getting divorced. Brian has some fantastic advice about navigating family relationships during divorce and creating an intentional message that you and your spouse will share with loved ones. We also talk about maintaining relationships with your ex-family if d...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week, Lesa reflects on her conversation with forensic accountant Tracey Coenen. While a divorcing couple utilizing mediation may not need a forensic accountant per se, it is still a good idea to gain an understanding of your combined and individual finances. If you a...

Today I am joined by forensic accountant, Tracy Coenen. She provides some great information for anyone who wants to get a better handle with their finances and then discusses tips for those going through divorce. Tracy provides a list of red flags to look out for and tells the most common places your spouse may hide money. Then she talks about creating a spending plan and how to take control of yo...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During last week’s episode, financial advisor Jamie Lima talked about maintaining balance in your life. This includes going through your budget and dreaming up your future budget. He discussed the importance of finding a balance between saving to prepare for your future,...

Today I have financial advisor Jamie Lima on the show. Jamie was a child of divorce, went through a challenging divorce of his own, and now helps others understand their finances while facing divorce. During this episode, Jamie provides great advice and tips regarding the steps people should go through while preparing for a divorce. He discusses creating financial balance in your life. Jamie has s...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Going through a divorce creates a lot of stress, and this week’s guest, Gary Miles gives some great tips on getting through these times with gratitude. Tune in to learn how gratitude and acceptance can help you take control of circumstances. Like what you're hearing?...

Today I have attorney Gary Miles on the podcast. His mission in his practice is to provide practical tools to help his clients overcome obstacles freeing them to enjoy the success and freedom they crave. Throughout this episode he gives so many incredible tips for working through stressors while going through difficult times. He talks about the benefits of mediation, and how oftentimes the decisio...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. On this week’s podcast, Lesa reflects on her discussion with mediator and family therapist, Brian Burns. Lesa shares about the importance of accountability and humility during the divorce process. She also shares great tips on how to look at divorce as an opportunity for...

This week I have my favorite marriage and family therapist, Brian Burns, on the show to discuss how you know when it's time to divorce, how to tell your spouse that you want a divorce, as well as determining what’s next in the divorce process. The episode is packed full of great information for tackling this difficult time in your life, and leaves you feeling a sense of relief by laying out th...