Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

In today’s episode, we are joined by Brian Burns, a certified mediator and parenting coach, to discuss divorce from a father's perspective. During this conversation, we discuss how men play a more active role in parenting post-divorce and the feelings and shifts experienced. Brian also discusses the steps fathers can take to build momentum to be a more hands-on parent. Tune in to today’s episode t...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week, Lesa discusses the importance of being self-aware when you listen. Becoming aware of how you listen when someone is sharing can help move a difficult conversation in the right direction. Finally, when someone tells you how they are feeling, believe them, e...

On today’s episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski is sharing how she helps her clients navigate difficult conversations throughout the divorce process. Throughout her experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, Lesa has learned six impactful steps to help her clients feel heard, feel understood, and to find common ground. Whether you’re experiencing divorce or want to learn how to co-pa...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week, Claire discusses the power of pausing and practicing mindful breathing instead of always thinking about the next thing and to-do list. Taking a quick moment to do a 5-5-5 breath (5 seconds of inhaling, 5 seconds holding your breath, and 5 seconds of exhali...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Claire Samuels, an attorney with a background in family law and divorce mediation. Claire talks to us about how she approaches divorce and mediation through the attitude of “Becoming Divorce” with her clients. She shares with us the fantastic curated community of expert services she provides to her clients, which helps give them all the contacts they may need o...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. In this episode, we hear from four different professionals on their tips for doing divorce differently. The overall thoughts are to not get stuck in this chapter of your life and find gratitude in the new life and opportunities that are opening up for you. You are in...

We are introducing Tuesdays with Tracy! This segment will happen on the first Tuesday of every month. We will discuss a topic from the last month and hone in on it.  Today we discuss inadequacy through a divorce and parents' struggles during this difficult time. Tracy talks about the importance of becoming aware of your feelings and knowing that you are in charge of your feelings. Ask yoursel...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Max discussed tips to use with judgments, as they are the source of all violence and are so prevalent when living with someone. He says instead of judging someone, say “I know this is a judgment and so not true about you, but I keep telling myself you are a ____”. Th...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Max Rivers, marriage mediator and author of Loving Conflict. Max’s practice focuses on nonviolent communication and helping couples hear what the other truly desires. Max talks about his teamwork method and getting to the root of couples' fights. We talk quite a bit about judgments and differences that couples run into and how to tackle those in a way that resp...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Joseph discusses the importance of co-parenting. He talks about how parents should shift to view each other as business partners who are working together to raise thriving children (child) and great members of society. Respect that each parent is doing what they thin...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Joseph Willmore, a Family Law Attorney in Southern California. Joseph discusses how family law is run in California and how he works with his clients to make sure they feel prepared and represented during the difficult time of divorce. We discuss quite a bit about co-parenting and how to shift the focus from emotions to what’s best for the children. Tune in to...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. We asked Stepanie what her opinion is to get someone on a road to a better place during and after divorce. She suggests getting yourself a blank journal and reading a book that inspires you. Tell your story and reveal your heart to yourself. She suggests two books to...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Stephanie Raffelock, an author on aging well and the creative surge that begins in midlife. Stephanie discusses the awakenings and transformation that come with getting older. We discuss what aging looks like in today’s society, where we live in a culture that values youth and beauty. We discuss how re-imagining and awakening go hand in hand with divorce. Steph...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. We asked Shannon what her best tip is for taking a positive step forward that can be done today. She discusses intentionality, and how to move yourself forward. Divorce can be so demanding and chaotic, so deciding what you want to do today and being in touch with you...

In today’s episode, divorce and empowering life coach Shannon McGorry joins us to discuss how to change your mindset and take control in the chaos of divorce. Shannon discusses her three-step program to help women re-focus on themselves and take back control of their life amidst the challenges that come with divorce. She provides some excellent tips on how to work through triggers while in the thi...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week, Tracy Pleschourt asks listeners to set aside 10 minutes to identify their negative root beliefs that they have never considered to be untrue, and beliefs that they have identified themselves with. This may take you back 10, 20, or 30 years. Ask yourself, w...

Today we are joined by the Founder of Self-Made U, Tracy Pleschourt. Tracy is a life coach who helps men and women create Self-Made wealth and wellness. Tracy is also a child of divorce, a fact that defined her self worth for years. Tune in to learn how Tracy became a watcher of her thoughts, overcame her negative root beliefs, and why divorce is no longer a part of her identity. In this episode:...

This episode is for children of divorce and their parent's.  Bella Duncan is a delightful 23 year old who comes to us all the way from Australia.   Her parents divorced when she was just 3 years old.  She now shares her insights through blogging on her webiste: A Kid with Two Homes.  Today we focus on one specific blog about Decision-making. Think about all the decisions k...

Marital Mediation is on the rise and todays guest is an expert in this field.  As you know Court does not have to be the answer.  Marriage Mediation like  divorce mediation has conflict resolution at its core.  Most divorcing clients are arguing about: 1. Finances. 2. Parenting. 3. Communication. 4. Division of labor.  As Attorneys turned Mediators we help you understand y...

Betrayal is a different type of trauma for two reasons:  1.  It feels intentional, it is rejection which is different than if you lose someone you love.  2.  There are a collection of symptoms (physical and mental) and time does not heal them.   Today Dr Debi Silber the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute a holistic psychologist and author...

Survive and thrive through your divorce. Today’s guest, Ilyssa Panitz the red carpet journalist who became the only Divorce Journalist/Columnist committed to helping others navigate this major life transition:  covering every angle and exploring every topic when it comes to a divorce.   Today's episode contains a wealth of information available to you as you walk through the divorce proc...

Today attorney Michelle Kniess shares her knowledge of Spousal Maintenance/ Alimony in Minnesota and Wisconsin on Doing Divorce Different.  Whether you are working together with your spouse through the mediation process (or needing an attorney to advise) Spousal Maintenance is an important issue in many divorces.  Michelle says when clients come to her to learn about spousal maintenance...

Are you Divorced, over 40 and thinking about dating.  Daniel Herrold the Divorced Dad walks us through how he navigated dating and divorce with teens.  Daniel shares his authentic story and some feelings of shame about how he handled dating when his marriage ended.  In this episode he shares what he would have done different and what he did right.  This delightful conversation...

Happiness is an inside job.  In this episode Jen Medwin coaches us to empowerment through divorce and beyond.  Jen uses mnemonics (easy to remember words and phrases/I am sharing because I had to look it up)  in her new book Strategies and Tips from a Divorce Coach.  It is like having a divorce coach in your back pocket. She urges people going through divorce to pause and be aw...

Helping your kids through divorce is paramount to divorcing parents.  Author Despina Mavridou knows first hand.  Growing up in Greece, she was the child of a tumultuous divorce.  She shares her story of being alienated from her father for almost 29 years.  Despina's book, Mum, Dad Can you Hear Me? Addresses all the feelings she had going through divorce as a child.  She is...