Doing Divorce Different with Lesa Koski

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. In this episode, we hear from three different professionals on their tips for doing divorce differently. Think of divorce as a wonderful opportunity to shift gears in your life. Be true to yourself, and follow what you know is right. Take control of the things you ca...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. We asked both Heather and Terri what you could start doing now to move forward. They mentioned creating a vision board or creating short-term and long-term goals to get you started on what you envision your life looking like. Then work towards those goals. Heather an...

In today’s episode, we are joined by co-owners of Spruce Solutions, Heather Bender and Terri Link. Heather and Terri founded the organizing company together to help people tackle their tasks with less stress. They’ve joined us to discuss their different services and give some great examples of rooms they have helped clients re-organize. We also talk about how organizing your home can make a differ...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Elizabeth Neyens discusses how often we can feel like so much of life is out of our control. There is always something that we can control, so take the step forward by planning for the future and the possibilities that may rise. This gives the feeling of being prepar...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Estate Planning Attorney, Elizabeth Neyens. Elizabeth talks about the importance of Estate planning in general and after divorce. Estate plans cover everything from a home to financial planning for your children and animals! Elizabeth also talks about career planning and the significance of LLCs. Tune in today to learn more about estate planning and how to hand...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Dr. Adam Woods says his wish is that people be good to themselves and be true to themselves. His number one tip is to work on meditation. Remember that it is a process and takes practice. The more meditation is a part of your life, the better focused and relaxed you’...

In today’s episode, Psychiatrist Dr. Adam Woods is back for Part 2 of his five steps to well-being. During this episode, we cover steps #2 through #5 and dive into each step in detail. Dr. Adam provides many excellent resources for listeners to dive further into each step. He breaks these steps down and truly makes them feel achievable for anyone! Dr. Adam also discusses the pros and cons of medic...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. In this episode, we reflect on the story that we have created for ourselves. This story will be carried on by our spouses, friends, and family. If that is no longer the story that you want to be identified by, then create a new story for yourself. Settle into who you...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Psychiatrist Dr. Adam Woods to discuss the five steps to well-being. In this two-part episode, we learn about Dr. Adam’s background and how he came to be a Psychiatrist. We discuss the importance of adding self-care to a routine, especially amid a divorce, loss, or a significant life change. During this episode, we focus on step 1 of his 5 step process, which i...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. In this episode, we hear from three different professionals on their tips for doing divorce differently. The overall thoughts are really zoning in on yourself and what you can control. Feel your emotions and don’t make major decisions based on anger. Use the transfor...

On today's episode of Ten Minutes with Tracy, We discuss changing your divorce story. Tracy and Lesa talk about becoming better listeners and diving into the art of understanding. When going through mediation, marriage counseling, or divorce, there are many benefits to listening to the other person's perspective and not feeling like you have to respond. We also discuss the stories that we tell our...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Brian’s advice is to say something kind and supportive about your co-parent to your kids. Show your kids that you respect the other parent. Do not transfer your feelings onto your kids no matter how negative they may be. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Brian Burns, a certified mediator and parenting coach, to discuss divorce from a father's perspective. During this conversation, we discuss how men play a more active role in parenting post-divorce and the feelings and shifts experienced. Brian also discusses the steps fathers can take to build momentum to be a more hands-on parent. Tune in to today’s episode t...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week, Lesa discusses the importance of being self-aware when you listen. Becoming aware of how you listen when someone is sharing can help move a difficult conversation in the right direction. Finally, when someone tells you how they are feeling, believe them, e...

On today’s episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski is sharing how she helps her clients navigate difficult conversations throughout the divorce process. Throughout her experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, Lesa has learned six impactful steps to help her clients feel heard, feel understood, and to find common ground. Whether you’re experiencing divorce or want to learn how to co-pa...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week, Claire discusses the power of pausing and practicing mindful breathing instead of always thinking about the next thing and to-do list. Taking a quick moment to do a 5-5-5 breath (5 seconds of inhaling, 5 seconds holding your breath, and 5 seconds of exhali...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Claire Samuels, an attorney with a background in family law and divorce mediation. Claire talks to us about how she approaches divorce and mediation through the attitude of “Becoming Divorce” with her clients. She shares with us the fantastic curated community of expert services she provides to her clients, which helps give them all the contacts they may need o...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. In this episode, we hear from four different professionals on their tips for doing divorce differently. The overall thoughts are to not get stuck in this chapter of your life and find gratitude in the new life and opportunities that are opening up for you. You are in...

We are introducing Tuesdays with Tracy! This segment will happen on the first Tuesday of every month. We will discuss a topic from the last month and hone in on it.  Today we discuss inadequacy through a divorce and parents' struggles during this difficult time. Tracy talks about the importance of becoming aware of your feelings and knowing that you are in charge of your feelings. Ask yoursel...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Max discussed tips to use with judgments, as they are the source of all violence and are so prevalent when living with someone. He says instead of judging someone, say “I know this is a judgment and so not true about you, but I keep telling myself you are a ____”. Th...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Max Rivers, marriage mediator and author of Loving Conflict. Max’s practice focuses on nonviolent communication and helping couples hear what the other truly desires. Max talks about his teamwork method and getting to the root of couples' fights. We talk quite a bit about judgments and differences that couples run into and how to tackle those in a way that resp...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Joseph discusses the importance of co-parenting. He talks about how parents should shift to view each other as business partners who are working together to raise thriving children (child) and great members of society. Respect that each parent is doing what they thin...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Joseph Willmore, a Family Law Attorney in Southern California. Joseph discusses how family law is run in California and how he works with his clients to make sure they feel prepared and represented during the difficult time of divorce. We discuss quite a bit about co-parenting and how to shift the focus from emotions to what’s best for the children. Tune in to...

Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. We asked Stepanie what her opinion is to get someone on a road to a better place during and after divorce. She suggests getting yourself a blank journal and reading a book that inspires you. Tell your story and reveal your heart to yourself. She suggests two books to...

In today’s episode, we are joined by Stephanie Raffelock, an author on aging well and the creative surge that begins in midlife. Stephanie discusses the awakenings and transformation that come with getting older. We discuss what aging looks like in today’s society, where we live in a culture that values youth and beauty. We discuss how re-imagining and awakening go hand in hand with divorce. Steph...