Divorced Christian Woman

Three years since the divorce was finalized, and you're still grinding your teeth at night and apologizing for things that aren't your fault. What is going on? In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, Natalie Hoffman and Diana Swillinger tackle one of the most common and confusing questions from women who have finally gotten out: why doesn't leaving make it stop? Your brain knows t...

Today we get honest about the grief that shows up even when you know you made the right decision. In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, we’ll answer a real question from a Flying Higher member who's been circling back to her grief and wondering why she can't just move on. What we uncover might surprise you. It's not just about missing him. And it's definitely not something you c...

You finally have a Saturday to yourself. The kids are gone. The house is quiet. And somehow... you end up on your phone for three hours feeling guilty. Sound familiar? There is something happening in your brain that's worth understanding. In this episode, Natalie and Diana Swillinger dig into the science behind why divorced Christian women struggle to enjoy their own free time, and why the solutio...

What if failure isn't the problem -- it's the story you're telling yourself about it? In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, I take you through the first part of a class I teach inside Flying Higher. Let’s talk about the real reason failure stops us cold. It’s not the failure itself. It's the meaning we assign to it, the story we quietly tell ourselves about what it says about wh...

Today’s conversation is a kick in the pants AND a permission slip, all wrapped into one. 🔑 Key Takeaways: What if "I don't know who I am anymore" is actually the wrong question to be asking? Natalie and Diana reveal the reframe that changes everything. Your roles as wife, mom, church lady, and caretaker were never your identity. So what IS underneath all of that, and why does discovering it feel...

Most Christian women were never given permission to fully become themselves. Not as girls, not as wives, and not inside their churches. So when the marriage ends and the roles fall away, they're left with a terrifying blank page and a question they don't know how to answer: Who am I? In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, we get real about a psychological process called individua...

What if everything you've been told about financial devastation after divorce is wrong? This season finale brings you something different: real stories from real divorced Christian women who rebuilt their financial lives from the ground up. Grace shares how she went from budget deficit to financial peace while taking it one small step at a time. Jenny reveals how she built a six-figure business st...

What if everything you've been told about retirement is wrong—especially after divorce? In this episode, Natalie and Diana explore why the traditional retirement model might actually be keeping you stuck in fear and financial anxiety. You'll discover how retirement is just a cultural construct from 1889 that may not serve your post-divorce life at all—and what to do instead. 🔑 Key Takeaways: Why...

In Season 3, Episode 8 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, Natalie and Diana sit down with Diane Wallenta, a certified divorce lending specialist with 25 years in the mortgage industry. If you're confused about whether you can afford to buy, whether you're "too old" to get a mortgage, or whether you should just keep renting, this conversation is for you. You'll learn the truth about age limit...

Today we’re going to explore something you probably never expected to find after divorce: abundance. Not the kind with a big bank account. The kind that fills your soul. You'll hear about the shift that happens when you stop waiting for heaven and start creating it now. There's a perspective change that transforms your ex from villain to... something surprising. And you'll discover why one woman s...

Let’s talk about everyone’s favorite topic: death and disaster! Kidding. Kind of. In this episode, I sat down with Leah Hadley (who has so many professional credits after her name, that I’ll just let you scroll down to see all of them. Trust me. She’s qualified.) to tackle the post-divorce brain bender that is estate planning and insurance .  If you’ve ever wanted to scream into the void because y...

So, you want to start a business? In this episode, Diana and I share our not-so-glamorous but totally doable journeys of starting businesses from the ground up. We’ll help you get clear on whether building a business is even for you, how to start small, test your ideas and how to make peace with imperfection. You’ll walk away with tangible steps and permission to start messy. Key Takeaways: You do...

This week we’re going to tackle one of the most pressing questions divorced women face: What if you're rebuilding from nothing? What if you had to take on debt just to leave? And what if the shame around your financial situation feels heavier than the actual numbers? There's a two-word phrase that changes everything when it comes to managing your money. You'll discover unconventional ways women ha...

In this episode of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, I’m joined by Diana Swillinger and accredited financial counselor and tax genius Dee Carter.  Whether you’re DIY-ing your taxes or outsourcing to someone, this one’s for you. Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift...

"I'm not selling my house right now, so it doesn't matter what it's worth today." That one sentence changed everything about how I look at my INVESTMENT accounts. And if watching your investments go up and down makes you want to hide under the covers, you need to hear this analogy. Today we’re talking about investing after divorce by breaking down the three buckets every divorced woman needs to un...

Welcome to Season 3 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! This season we’re getting all up in your business (literally): the money business. And we’re kicking things off by asking: What’s your money mindset looking like after divorce? Is it cool, calm, and collected, or hiding in a closet stress-eating Oreos and ignoring the bill collectors? I invited my friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger...

So, you got divorced and your social life went up in flames. Welcome to the club, friend. Pull up a chair. In this season finale, I sit down with my friend Diana Swillinger (host of The Renew Your Mind Podcast) to talk about something every divorced woman eventually faces: the weird, wonderful, terrifying world of making new friends when you're a whole new person. We talk about the great scatterin...

What if the most important relationship you’ll ever have isn't the one with your ex, your pastor, or even your cat, but the one with yourself? (I know, scandalous.)  In this episode, I’m joined by three divorced Christian women, Barb, Diana, and Lisa , to unpack what it really looks like to reconnect with yourself after decades of religious programming and marital trauma. We Talk About: Rebuilding...

You've survived the marriage from Hades, signed the divorce papers, and maybe even had your ceremonial "burn the wedding dress" moment.  Your kids are grown, they have opinions (lots of them), and some of those opinions are... not in your favor. If you're wondering how to rebuild, repair, or even just exist in relationship with your adult children post-divorce without losing your mind (or your wil...

Why do your kids act like little angels at their dad’s house and then transform into rabid raccoons the moment they step foot into your kitchen? No, it’s not because you’re failing as a mom (although that voice in your head might say otherwise).  It’s because YOU are the safe one.  In this episode, we unpack all of it: the chaos, the trauma, the meltdowns, and the sacred role you play in raising k...

Ever wondered what happens to your church relationships when your marriage falls apart and you do the unthinkable (aka, choose not to be miserable for the rest of your life)? In this episode, I sat down with Diana, Stacey, and Marie, to talk about the real fallout that happens not just in marriage, but in the holy halls of church after divorce. What We Talked About: How divorce changes everything...

So you got divorced, and now you’re the scandal of the century in your tiny town (or tight church circle). You’re dodging judgmental glances in the grocery store and wondering if your prayer request just got broadcasted as Christian-sanctified gossip. Sound familiar?  In this episode, I team up with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger , to talk about how to take your power back when your...

Have you ever been talked over in a meeting, assigned work with no warning, or gotten that oh-so-lovely “Can you just help with this one little thing?” at 4:59 p.m.?   In this episode, I’m joined by Stacey, Diana, Marie, and Grace, all divorced Christian women who are navigating life post-divorce in the workplace. We’re diving deep into how to show up for yourself professionally without selling yo...

What if your deepest shame wasn’t actually yours to carry? If you’ve ever felt the cold shoulder from your Christian family after your divorce, or you’re still untangling the sticky spiderwebs of shame and silence from your upbringing, pull up a chair. This episode is for you . I sat down with friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, and together we unpacked how family of origin dynamics continu...

What if everything you believed about God was actually holding you hostage? In this episode, I sat down with my friends and fellow coaches Diana Swillinger, Stacey Wynn, and Marie Griffith to get real about what it looks like to rebuild your relationship with God after the spiritual ground beneath your feet crumbles. We’re talking about spiritual deconstruction, not as a slippery slope into heresy...