Divorced but not dead, yet.

In this week's episode I discuss the steps I took to co-parent with my ex while also healing from the pain of the divorce. I realized that emotionally disconnecting, establishing boundaries, effectively communicating, expressing my feelings in healthy ways and separating who he was as my spouse from who he was as a parent helped us have a respectful and productive co-parenting relationship. It too...

In this week’s episode we discuss the need to not only evolve and grow mentally and emotionally, but physically as well. During the divorce process we spend a lot of time on our mental and emotional health. Once you’ve gone through your internal revolution, it’s time for your external renaissance ! Let’s start exercising, update our wardrobe and hair, and don’t forget to take care of those lady pa...

In this week’s episode I share my experience of coping with the fact that I would have to share custody of my child once I filed for divorce. As a working mom, I worried about the moments I would miss with my child once I went back to work. I never thought about missing moments because I would get divorced and have to share custody. The thought of missing even more time with my child left me full...

In this weeks episode I share how facing my fears of failure and rejection, by taking chances, allowed me to accomplish things I never thought I could. During my divorce I struggled most with feeling rejected and like a failure. The person I loved no longer wanted me and I couldn’t keep my family together. Through therapy and self reflection I finally understood that it’s not one persons responsib...

On this week’s episode we discuss the pros and cons of “Situationships.” After jumping into the dating pond after divorce, I realized I wasn’t ready for the responsibility of a serious relationship. I wasn’t ready to share my space , introduce my child, fully open my heart, and I was enjoying the freedom that came with being single. I also knew that I wanted companionship without the added pressur...

This week’s episode was inspired by the movie “Waiting to Exhale.” I share my experience in finally “Exhaling” and letting out all the pain and anger I had been holding in for so long. Going through the divorce process will test your character and your patience. There will be moments that you step outside of yourself and maybe behave in ways you never have. Whether it’s yelling your truth and stan...

On this week’s episode I share my journey to and through getting dickmatized! Sex after divorce can be both scary and exciting. On my journey I fell hard and fast into the dicksand. After going so many years without having sex, once I started again I lost my sense of self and my focus. Feeling wanted and desired after the feelings of rejection that a divorce brings can be addicting. Creating that...

In this week’s episode I discuss establishing a relationship with my ex, post divorce. I know the idea of building a relationship with your Ex after fighting to get out of one seems crazy! I get it! Despite my own personal feelings, I decided that the best thing for our child and our family was to have a cordial and respectful relationship. It took some time and there were alot of bumps along the...

In this week’s episode, I share how having strong and supportive women in my life, during my divorce process, helped me come out stronger on the other side. I’ve learned that asking for help or allowing people that love you to be there for you, during hard times, does not mean that you’re weak. Going through divorce takes a lot out of you physically, emotionally and mentally. My Strong female frie...

“How did I not see it?” There’s going to come a time during your process when the blinders come off. When they come off what you see will be very different from your view through your rose colored glasses. I ignored a lot of red flags during my relationship. Once I started reflecting on all the signs that I missed, I initially felt alot of shame . If I’m going to be honest, I felt stupid! What I’v...

Divorce can be an opportunity to create the life you’ve always wanted. I plan to use this summer to kick off my ‘Hot Mom Summer’ and I encourage you to do the same. Let’s take this opportunity to live outside our comfort zones and live out loud! Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Yes, you read it correctly! On this week’s episode we discuss how going through my divorce caused me to experience vaginal depression. I know it’s TMI but like I always say, “We are friends now!” Lol. I felt the need to share this part of my journey because I don’t feel like I hear it talked about enough. What I’ve learned is that even though going through the stress and emotions of divorce can le...

In this week’s episode, I share my journey to rebuilding my confidence and discovering my self worth. Living through a bad relationship and going through a divorce really affects your confidence and challenges your self worth. I’ve learned that getting rid of negative self talk and replacing it with positive affirmations really helped change the way I felt about myself. Grab a piece of paper or so...

Join me in this week's episode as I share my journey from filing for divorce to my first date. The million-dollar question is, 'How long should I wait to start dating?' The truth is, there is no one-size-fits-all answer. What's important is to make sure you're emotionally ready and have moved on from your ex. Ensure you have your own place and that the terms of your divorce are settled. Lastly, fo...

In this week’s episode, I share what it felt like to find out my ex-husband is engaged! As you can imagine, I went through a roller coaster of emotions. The truth of the matter is, men tend to move on very quickly after divorce, so brace yourself. What I found to help me is keeping a list and checking it twice. Lol. My therapist recommended that I make a list of all the things that brought me hurt...

On this week’s episode, I share my struggle to stay present and accept the present. When contemplating divorce sometimes it’s easier to reminisce about the past or have false hope for the future, instead of accepting your present truth. I spent years running from my truth. I’ve learned the sooner you face it the sooner you can begin to heal. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https:/...

As moms we juggle a lot of responsibilities and it’s rare that we get an opportunity to take a vacation, without our children. In this week’s episode I will share my struggle to enjoy the opportunity I have to take a much needed break. When going through a divorce you already loose time with your children and the thought of taking extra time away can come with a lot of guilt. Add that with separat...

On this week’s episode, I will share what it was like to experience my first Mother’s Day, post divorce. Mother’s Day as a single or divorced mom can be hard. It’s a reminder that there is no longer a designated partner to show you appreciation on that day. It can bring up a lot of feelings of loss and hurt. I’ve learned to honor those feelings and hold space for them. Also, don’t put pressure on...

In this episode I will share my experience of negotiating spousal support during the divorce process. I realized that my inability to speak up for myself, my people pleasing ways, pride, and emotional exhaustion heavily influenced the decisions I made. I hope that you will learn from my mistakes and know that whatever support you get from your ex, financially, should not be attached to shame or fe...

On this week’s episode, I discuss the financial fear that comes with getting divorced. With some planning and budgeting you can alleviate some of that fear and start your new chapter financially, post divorce. It’s not easy, but I’ve learned that it pushes you to become very resourceful. Whether it’s starting a new career, starting a new business or selling pictures of your feet on Only Fans (no j...

In this episode I discuss my journey from fear to freedom. Sometimes we need a little push to get over our fears. For me, my first push came from becoming a mother. My second push involved me naked in public minus my wig! I’ve learned that change and growth can come out of necessity or sheer embarrassment . Follow me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igs...

In this week’s episode, I share the beautiful lessons I’ve learned while going through the brutal divorce process. Show Notes: “Girl, Stop Apologizing” by Rachel Hollis Folllow me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this episode I’m sharing my journey to making one of the hardest decisions of my life. The choice to end my marriage and file for Divorce. Follow me on Instagram and let’s go through this journey together . (Link below) https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Welcome to the Divorced but not dead, yet Podcast! My name is Alicia Topps. Join me on my journey to and through divorce. Together let’s laugh, cry, scream, heal, and grow as we navigate the next chapter of our lives. Grab a cup of coffee, a glass of wine, a therapist (lol) and let’s get through this together. Let’s build our community! You can follow me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet. (Link bel...