Divorce Your Story Podcast

Over 6 million men suffer from depression per year, their suicide rate is four times higher than women and they're more likely to turn to substance abuse as a coping mechanism for mental health issues. These statistics raises a question: "Are men misunderstood?" The notion that men are exempt from pain, emotions, or empathy beyond themselves has shaped a distorted view and narrative...

Summer is here, and the school year is coming to a close. For dynamics where the parents are no longer together, children maybe spending more time with the non-custodial parent. During this time, there's a lot of mixed emotions for the custodial parent, including concerns for their children's well-being, the challenge of co-parenting, and feelings of loneliness while the kids are away. Whi...

Welcome to the newly updated "Divorce Your Story" podcast, named after my book! This title aligns perfectly with our podcast's mission: to help you break free from any limiting narratives in your mind and emotions in your heart that are holding you back from thriving in your next chapter. Join me as I discuss the reasons behind the new name and share three universal lessons that can...

When you find yourself consistently engaging with individuals who appear to be closed off, distant and emotionally disconnected, it's imperative to reflect and get clear on what this means for you. While it may be much easier to label them as "emotionally unavailable" and move on to someone else, it's crucial to recognize that if this pattern persists, there's likely somethin...

The topic of "Dating" is widely discussed, with much advice on how, when, and whom to date. Following divorce, you frequently get asked "When are you doing to date again?" that brings much pressure to just "put yourself back out there" however, is that the best approach? It's important to recognized that re-entering the dating scene post divorce is different. This...

Navigating the divorce process can significantly affect your mental health. The legal proceedings, financial changes, shifts in living situations, custody and co-parenting arrangements, lifestyle adjustments, and changes in social circles can all contribute to persistent stress and impact a person's quality of life for a period of time. This can trigger anxiety, depression, and potentially har...

Motherhood is a multifaceted journey that encompasses a variety of roles, experiences, and emotions. Striking a balance between family, work, and personal needs can be quite demanding. So, what happens when divorce is added to the mix? For mothers facing this change, their children's well-being and their ability to parent effectively in this new situation become major concerns. Worries about n...

It's natural to want something better for your life, but what happens when you're faced with the challenge of pursuing it? Do you make excuses for why you can't achieve it? Do you focus on what's wrong out of fear for yourself? Do you convince yourself not to try? Do you withdraw as a means of self-protection? Do you resist embracing change? Do you revert to familiar patterns? Foll...

"Moving On" can be much harder than it sounds, specifically when dissolving a partnership of 31 years. The process to disentangle yourself can be emotionally and logistically challenging, compounded by the weight of shared history and intertwined lives. After spending the majority of your adult life with someone, picking up the pieces and creating a new one can seem dauting, overwhelming...

When you hear things such as: You need to heal OR You need to do your inner work You could be left to wonder "What does that mean?", "What does that look like for me?" And when you're unsure on what it means, it becomes ignored due to the lack of understanding on why this is necessary and how it can enhance your quality of life. Although everyone's journey of doing thei...

As women, no matter the role or position you're called to fill...we celebrate you! From our mothers, our sisters, our leaders, our educators, those in healthcare, to entrepreneurship, athletics, politics, etc...your significance is acknowledged! The month of March is dedicated to honoring the bravery and contributions of women, spanning from the past to the present, who have paved the way for...

Women are known for wearing multiple hats. From motherhood, marriage, working, taking care of the home, and being there for others selflessly. However, what gets lost in all of those roles is herself. When an life-altering event such as divorce takes place, the need to advocate for your well-being takes more of a back seat. The default setting shifts to autopilot, and survival mode becomes the new...

What often goes unnoticed is the significance of sharing core values when making the decision to get married. While people are frequently advised on various aspects, such as societal expectations, fear of loneliness, or the notion that one's identity is solely defined by relationship status, the crucial factor of alignment in values tends to be overlooked. These misleading influences can lead...

One of the most challenging yet essential pieces of wisdom when navigating life after a marriage or relationship is envisioning a brighter future for yourself and your children. Divorces and breakups reshape the trajectory of your life, disrupting carefully laid plans. However, it is crucial to recognize that these changes, though difficult, offer opportunities for personal growth and the creation...

The perception of "being single" is frequently clouded by misconceptions, including judgment, pity, and the misguided belief that there must be something wrong with an individual in this status. Society commonly presents being in a relationship as the ultimate accomplishment to validate one's significance in the world.  This is a poor representation of many individuals who are single...

Valentine's Day can pose challenges for those who have gone through a divorce or breakup.  It can be a reminder of the memories you've shared, a shift in your relationship status, to even feelings of perceived failure accompanied by emotions of disappointment, sadness and loneliness. In this week's podcast episode,  join me as I discuss five helpful tips on managing Valentine's Day...

Research reveals that a significant 70% of divorces are instigated by women. While common discussions often attribute this trend to notions of women not needing a partner or seeking independence, the underlying data suggests a more nuanced reality. The decision for women to end their marriages is complex and varies from person to person, yet there are shared reasons that resonate across the spectr...

Contrary to what many may believe, your divorce is a big deal. It's not about dwelling in shame, guilt, or a sense of failure, but rather acknowledging the profound impact it can have on various aspects of your life. Some downplay its significance while other remain in so much criticism that there's no room to identify what steps can be taken next. It's pivotal to navigate this phase w...

2024 is here and although January is known for new beginnings, it's also the closing of many marriages/relationships. Yet, what often goes unnoticed is the crucial importance of actively progressing forward and leaving the past behind. The dissolution of a marriage or relationship can significantly impact your psychological well-being, potentially influencing your self-perception, emotional st...

The holiday season after divorce can bring much added stress and overwhelm for both parents and children. Moving away from established traditions towards new arrangements can trigger a range of emotions including loneliness, sadness and anxiety. A primary concern for parents remains centered on safeguarding their children's welfare. Providing reassurance, emphasizing emotional stability, and p...

The attitude that a person should just be grateful even in difficult times can become burdensome due to the current conditions that they're in. When a person is "forcing" themselves to just be grateful it strips away the genuineness of it's authentic purpose. Does this indicate to not be grateful? of course not! However, in displaying gratitude even in seasons of difficulty, the...

Feeling worn out? Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually drained? Divorces or breakups often usher in a level of exhaustion that leaves you functioning on autopilot, unable to fully engage with life and struggling with hope for the future. You might experience a sense of emptiness, your thoughts and emotions scattered, grappling with uncertainty about what lies ahead. This...

Experiencing a sense of failure and the belief that you've disappointed your loved ones is a common emotional response during a divorce. However, when these feelings become a lasting, permanent emotional state, it can develop a unhealthy self-perception about an individual resulting in self-sabotage, fear, a loss of trust, and even a pervasive pessimistic outlook. Persisting in this state of p...

Reentering the dating scene is a familiar concept for those going through the divorce process. Yet, putting yourself out there encompasses more than just meeting new people; it's fundamentally about your internal state. The process of divorce inevitably transforms you but the key question is how it transforms you? Despite the societal and cultural emphasis on dating, when considering post-divo...

There are just certain types of relationships that should be avoided at all costs! When you decide to "entertain" someone, you're giving them your time, energy and other resources which overtime results in constant investing of  a relationship. It's important to be mindful and considerate of who gets that level of access to you because the person that you choose to entertain impa...