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Weathering the Seasons of Child Custody - Episode 273 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we are struggling in our child custody and co-parenting situation, it often feels like the struggle will go on forever. But the only thing in life that is constant is change. And, like everything else, your child custody and co-parenting is a constantly evolving situation. Want to know what to expe...

Breaking Up With Narcissism - Episode 272 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we are in a relationship with a Narcissist, we actually become addicted to this type of toxic relationship. Our body goes through chemical changes that are similar to addicts. In this episode, I'll talk about how to stop the addictive cycle and break up with narcissism once and for all. To find out how I can s...

Does Grey Rocking a Narcissist Really Work? - Episode 271 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. "Grey Rock" is a common technique for handling a narcissist. This technique has a lot of useful points such as disengaging, minimizing contact, and not reacting. However, the Court wants you to cooperate and support the other parent. So, how do you manage both? How do you have good boundaries that i...

Presenting Evidence in Child Custody Court - Episode 270 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. One of the most effective ways to present your evidence in Court is by telling the "story" of your case. Most people mistake this for lots of details and background but as they say, less is more. You have a handful of tools and limited time to help the Judge understand your situation well enough to m...

3 Tips for Success in Child Custody Court - Episode 269 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Almost everyone is nervous when speaking in Court, even attorneys. Whether you're representing yourself or you have an attorney, it's important to take steps to help you feel comfortable in the courtroom and successfully present your information to the Judge. Tune in as I share 3 time-tested strategie...

What Is Your Biggest Failure? - Episode 268 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Failures in life happen to everyone and they can teach us some of our greatest life lessons. If you feel like you failed in your relationship, in your co-parenting, or even in your parenting, this episode is for you. Learning to take your failures and turn them to lessons can help you create a greater vision and...

Narcissists Never Change – Episode 267 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we deal with high-conflict personalities, we frequently think that if we choose the right words or the right logic to deal with them that it will change their behavior. Or, we hope that as they mature and learn lessons throughout life that they will become easier to deal with. However, the chances of narcissistic...

Reducing Conflict With A Narcissist – Episode 266 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Reducing conflict is difficult to do with a co-parent but it becomes even more difficult when you are dealing with someone who has a high-conflict personality like a narcissist. In this episode, I'm going to share 5 tips that will help you to reduce conflict and increase peace with your narcissistic co-pare...

Why Did You Choose A Narcissist? – Episode 265 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Understanding why you chose a narcissistic partner is the key to not repeating the mistake! We are often looking to the other person to validate us, to shore up our insecurities or to make us feel better about ourselves. But as the relationship wears on, we often find ourselves with a person who is suddenly fe...

When Your Narcissistic Ex Lies In Court – Episode 264 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Lies from the ex is without a doubt the most common complaint we hear from clients during the court process. Why does this happen and is there anything you can do about it? The solutions are often counter intuitive but there are steps you can take to help you rebut the lies. In this episode, I'll give y...

Understanding Discovery – Interrogatories, Subpoenas, Documents – Episode 263 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Discovery is one of the most complex issues to understand in any divorce or child custody case. What is it? How do you respond to it? I'll help shed some light on this topic so you can understand the basics and navigate how to respond to it. To find out how I can support you in a...

An Attorney for the Child in Custody Cases – Episode 262 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In child custody cases, the child will sometimes be assigned their own attorney. The attorney is called different things in different states but your biggest questions have less to do with the name and more to do with how to deal with this expert in your case. Sometimes, we want to know how to get an...

Defending Yourself Against Your Co-Parent – Episode 261 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Do you live in defense mode and constantly wonder what you're co-parent is trying to pull next? Or maybe you have constant stress and anxiety from dealing with them. Or you get that knot in the pit of your stomach every time you get a new message from them. And yet, you have to co-parent. In this epis...

4 Tips for Negotiating With A Narcissist – Episode 260 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Negotiating with your ex is always tough but all the more when you are dealing with a high-conflict personality like a narcissist. There are always extra rules of "dos" and "don'ts" in these high conflict situations. Learning the top four will help put you on a path to successful negotiation of your ca...

Child Custody Trials – Episode 259 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Having a court trial on any aspect of your case is stressful but child custody tends to produce lots of anxiety because it impacts your children. This episode is going to give you a big picture view of what to expect from the process. I will also share some resources on where you can find additional information specific t...

3 Ways to Get More Parenting Time – Episode 258 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. If you want to get more parenting time with your kids, you have to start by understanding what the Court wants from you. If you aren't doing your part, you most likely won't succeed in getting more time. In this episode, I'll give you 3 strategies to help increase your chances of getting more parenting time....

Your Co-Parenting Campaign Strategy – Episode 257 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. So often we are looking for the one trick or shortcut that will solve our problem. But if life was as easy as one trick or one shortcut, everyone would have success in every aspect of their lives. Each area of your life requires a strategy and disciplined follow through. Are you succeeding in your co-parent...

When You Resent Your Co-Parent – Episode 256 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Do you feel like you are doing everything to try and help your co-parent in order to make things better for your child? If so, I'm guessing your co-parent isn't exactly grateful for your help. These types of situations can lead to feelings of resentment, much like they did during the relationship. You do all you...

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist is Exhausting – Episode 255 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Is your narcissistic co-parent controlling your life? Do you feel constantly exhausted and emotionally drained? Many parents feel this way when they are dealing with a narcissistic co-parent. It can become all consuming and steal your joy. Join me in this episode to learn what you can do to elimina...

9 Rules of the Child Custody Game – Episode 254 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Could you win a game if you didn't know the rules? Probably not unless it was sheer luck. Yet, people frequently head into child custody court without being educated on how the process works. And while custody isn't a "game" in the sense of being fun, it is a "game" in that there are rules, and you need an ef...

You Can't Afford to Screw It Up – Episode 253 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When is the best time to have a map? Before you enter the woods. And yet, I am contacted by people every day that have gotten a outcome in Court that they are unhappy with and now want to know how to fix it. In that situation, you're now fighting an uphill battle. You can accomplish much greater outcomes if you...

Is Your Co-Parenting Causing Stress For Your Child? – Episode 252 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many times parents unintentionally put their children in the middle in their co-parenting relationship. It's easy to consider things from your own viewpoint and make parenting decisions that you feel are best for your child. But in co-parenting situations the child's perspective is an additi...

5 Secrets to Influence Your Judge – Episode 251 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Influencing your Judge is one of the most important skills you can learn for your court case. In order to have the strongest influence possible you have to understand how your Judge views the case, what information is important and relevant, and what information is not relevant. Giving your Judge too much inf...

The Struggle is Real in Child Custody – Episode 250 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you are struggle with child custody and co-parenting issues, it can be exhausting. When your children are young and living at home, parenting them is central to your life. So, when this core piece of your life is connected to constant negativity and harassment from your co-parent, it can begin to suc...

Trapping the Narcissist in Child Custody – Episode 249 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The first thing most clients say once they see a court document from their ex is "this is full of lies". How can you expose the lies without looking like you are crazy or being in attack mode against your ex? If you take head on approach to this situation, it usually backfires. You need to make a "Judo...