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5 Mistakes that Will Hurt Your Child Custody Case – Episode 248 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you make mistakes that hurt your court case, you end up with an uphill battle in trying to recover. The best time to have a map is before you enter the forest. Likewise, the best time to learn how to handle your case is before you actually go to Court. The last thing you want to do is lea...

Anxiety and Stress in Child Custody – Episode 247 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Anxiety and stress are two of the most common complaints I hear from co-parents dealing with a high-conflict ex. The day-to-day interaction with a difficult co-parent can leave you feeling exhausted and drained. If you have that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach every time you receive a communication...

Getting the Upper Hand in Child Custody – Episode 246 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Do you feel like your co-parent has had the "emotional upper hand" through your entire relationship? And now that dynamic has continued throughout your co-parenting even though you are no longer in a relationship? This is a very common feeling when we've been involved with a high-conflict personality su...

What is a Child Custody Evaluation – Episode 245 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. What is child custody evaluation? A custody evaluation can be one of the most nerve wracking experiences of any child custody case. Many parents have no idea what to expect or how to succeed in this arena. And once you mess it up, there are no do overs! In this episode, I'll walk you through a high-level vie...

Child Custody is a Mental Game – Episode 244 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. What is an attorney's biggest fear? And when they handle a case, what weapons do they use to help them prepare for the mental warfare of Court? As the client or a self-represented party, what are the strongest tools you have to help you win your case? Whether you're goal is to leverage your attorney and give the...

Perspective with Thomas' Ex Wife – Episode 243 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. This week I'm joined by Special Guest, Emillie, who is Thomas' Ex Wife. We discussed the history of her divorce and subsequent co-parenting with Thomas and me over the past 17 years. Sometimes, when you're having conflict with your ex, the skill of being able to shift your perspective and look at things from t...

Pulling Your Fat Out of the Fire – Episode 242 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you hit a peak of frustration in your divorce or child custody case, you may decide it's time to retain an attorney or file a motion with the Court to help you resolve the issues. But, what if there were steps you could take to help you keep from getting to that point. What if you could deal with your co-...

A Love Story – Episode 240 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. This week I'm sharing a bit about mine and Thomas' personal life. I'll share a couple of funny stories from our early days and talk about he progression of our life and our business. Even when life seems hard and unfair, there is joy to be found if we can focus on what's possible for us. For more information, please visit www.div...

The Tragic Ending – Episode 239 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Life is nothing if not constant change. This episode is our most personal yet. On May 1, 2023 the world lost the most beautiful soul known as Thomas D. Ferreira. Join me (Tammy) for my first solo episode. The pain is raw and real right now but I'm here and we'll push through together. If you'd like to support our family thro...

REPLAY:  Are You Ready For Your Court-Sponsored Child Custody Mediation? - In Episode 91, of the Divorce University Online Podcast, we talk about child custody mediation that is conducted by the Court, not a private mediator. Whether your Court system keeps the mediation private or has the mediator report to the Judge, there are certain things you should do and say and certain things you should no...

Appeals – Episode 238 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. People are commonly unhappy with their court results, and we get asked lots of questions about appeals. Appeals are extremely complex, very time consuming, and if you have an attorney, very expensive. If you don't have an attorney, you'll be paying in the form of your own time. And yet, appeals have an extremely high denial rate. Why...

On a Scale of 1-10, How Jerky Is Your Ex? – Episode 237 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We all feel like our ex is the worst but when you start hearing the stories of what other people deal with, you often find yourself grateful that your ex isn't worse. We get asked "How bad is my ex compared to what you see?" on almost a daily basis. So, in this episode, we'll share some of our more ex...

Matching Your Attorney with Your Goals – Episode 236 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When someone is searching for an attorney to handle their divorce and/or child custody case, it is common for that person to be in somewhat of an emotional crisis given the breakdown of their family. Often we rely on friends and family for a referral. But even if the attorney was a good choice for your f...

Ex Parte/Emergency Child Custody Hearings: To File or Not to File – Episode 235 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The decision on when and if to file for an emergency hearings in child custody cases is a difficult decision not only for parents, but for attorneys as well. In this episode, we'll talk about the reality of the statistics and how to evaluate whether or not it's appropriate for...

Mediation with a High Conflict Ex – Episode 234 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We frequently get asked if mediation will work with a high-conflict personality such as a narcissist or borderline. In fact, most of the time, it works better than the Court process. In this episode, we'll share strategies on how to negotiate with a high conflict person and tips to help ensure you get the bes...

Move Away and Relocation Requests in Child Custody – Episode 233 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Move away (also called Relocation in some states) requests are complicated. In this episode we'll discuss the factors the court considers and what you can do to strengthen your case, whether you're the parent that wants to move or the parent who wants to stop the move. Join us for a deep dive...

Killer Strategies for Custody Motions – Episode 232 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we think of child custody motions we tend to think of preparing our documents and declaration as well as presenting in Court or communicating with our attorney on what to expect. But crafting a winning motion starts far in advance of actually filing the motion. You need to build your case through lon...

Child Custody: Bonding vs. Discipline – Episode 231 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Co-parenting situations often make parents feel as if they are in a competition with the other parent for their child's affection. We see parents try to deal with this in a number of ways, some over discipline, some talk to the child about the other parent, and others don't discipline at all. And yet, all...

Happiness: Your Moral Obligation to Your Children – Episode 230 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. During divorce and child custody issues, many parents worry about their children's happiness. But we often forget about our own happiness. Your happiness, or lack thereof, is a continuous daily example for your kids. So, it's important to be the best example you can be. Going through a negativ...

Co-Parent Communication: Mom vs. Dad – Episode 229 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Communication with your co-parent is a struggle for many people after a divorce or break up. Not only do we come at things differently as a mother or father, but we also must consider how the Court views our communication. In this episode, we'll share the top mistakes people make and how you can modify you...

Are You Addicted to Drama? – Episode 228 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The patterns that occur during relationships often continue long after the break up. Most people tend to focus on the other person and what the other person is "doing to them". But the other person and their behaviors are out of our control. So, how do you stop the patterns of emotional abuse, attacks, manipulation,...

Are You Relying on Your Children for Your Happiness? – Episode 227 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you experience a divorce or breakup and have to start sharing your children between two households, it can be devastating. Suddenly, yourself home alone with no idea what to do. Don't get us wrong, the quiet can be nice, the extra time for sleep is a bonus and the chance to do things y...

Make a Clean Break – Episode 226 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We've all heard the cliché, "Make a Clean Break". But this can prove to be sage advice especially in romantic relationships. It can prove hard to do especially when you're trying to co-parent with the person that you're trying to make a clean break from. So, how do you accomplish both? For more information, please visit www...

Parallel Parenting with a High Conflict Ex – Episode 225 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The concept of Parallel Parenting was based on observing young children at play. Young children do not tend to have interactive play, they tend to play the same game or toy side by side. When you apply this to the model of parenting for high-conflict parents, "side by side" parenting reduces conflict...