Divorce in Plain English

There was a day when I stopped fighting my divorce. Not because I had won. Not because the process was over. Because the way I had been fighting was costing me more than I could afford to keep paying — financially, physically and in the quality of every decision I was making. What the sustained state of conflict does to your nervous system over time — and the cost that never appears on any solicit...

My mortgage sat at 8.8% for years during my divorce. Not because I was bad with money. Not because I had not tried to fix it. Because remortgaging required agreement from someone who had no intention of agreeing. Every month I watched money disappear that did not have to disappear. I was borrowing to cover bills. Working seven days a week. Visiting my doctor because the stress was affecting my hea...

Nobody asked how I was coping. They just expected me to keep going. And I did. In this episode of Divorce in Plain English, I talk openly about something I have never addressed directly before: the silence many men carry through divorce. I share my own experience of working seven days a week, carrying financial pressure alone, watching my mortgage jump to 8.8%, taking out loans to cover bills, and...

What divorce actually does to a person emotionally — and why the weight of it is so rarely talked about honestly How prolonged financial stress during proceedings affects you psychologically — and what happens when grief gets pushed down instead of processed What Dr Venus Olla wishes every person going through divorce knew about their own emotional response to it Vincent James is joined by Dr Venu...

I have answered questions about divorce finances for two seasons. In two days I ask the questions I could never answer myself — with Dr Venus Olla, Registered Psychotherapist with many years experience in trauma and grief. Dropping 1st June. This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financial advice....

In eight days the most personal and important episode of Divorce in Plain English drops. Dr Venus Olla — Registered Psychotherapist — joins Vincent James for a conversation about the emotional weight of divorce that most people carry completely alone. This content is based on personal experience of the financial remedy process in England and Wales. It is for information only — not legal or financi...

There was a moment in my divorce when I realized that nobody was coming to explain the process to me — and that if I did not start understanding it myself I was going to lose things I could not afford to lose. Why the fog of not understanding the financial remedy process costs you more than you realize — in money, in decisions and in your sense of control The moment Vincent stopped reacting and st...

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Form E is not just a form — it is the foundation of your entire divorce case. And most people do not realize that until they have already made mistakes they cannot take back. Why Form E is the most important document in the financial remedy process and what the court actually does with it The documents you must gather before you fill in a single word — and why starting without them causes costly d...

Season 2 Episode 2 - Grey Divorce: What No One Tells You About Splitting Later in Life | Divorce in Plain English Nobody prepares you for what it means to rebuild your financial life in your fifties or sixties — when everything you planned together suddenly has to be divided. Why the pension — not the house — is almost always the most important asset in a grey divorce What most people miss about t...

Season 2, Episode 1. Divorcing a Narcissist: What It Means for Your Finances When you are divorcing a narcissist the financial process does not just feel difficult — it is designed to feel impossible. And that is not an accident. Why narcissists rarely cooperate with financial disclosure and what the court can do about it How money is used as a control mechanism during the marriage — and how that...

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If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear. What Happens After Your Financial Settlement Is Agreed? | Divorce in Plain English Reaching a financial settlement feels like the finish line — but there are impo...

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear. The Emotional Toll of the Financial Remedy Process | Divorce in Plain English Nobody prepares you for how emotionally draining the financial side of divorce can b...

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If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear. How Are Pensions Handled in a UK Divorce? | Divorce in Plain English Pensions are often the most valuable asset in a divorce and the most overlooked — here is wha...

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If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear. Where Do I Start With Divorce in England and Wales? | Divorce in Plain English Knowing where to begin when your marriage is ending financially is one of the harde...

If this is resonating, please follow the podcast — it takes 3 seconds and you will never miss an episode. And if you know someone going through a divorce right now, please share this with them. It might be exactly what they need to hear. If you are facing divorce in England and Wales and do not know where to turn, this is the place to start. Who Vincent James is and why he created this podcast fro...