Divorce etc... hosted by the exEXPERTS (T.H. and Jessica)

We've said it before and we'll say it again, dating after divorce can be scary! You may feel insecure, you may not feel ready to actually experience intimacy with someone else yet - or you may be more than ready to get out there and get back in the game! No matter which way you're feeling, internationally renowned relationship expert Susan Winter has got lots of advice. From what your (and their)...

Understanding the difference between a true narcissist vs an asshole is an important distinction - it came have a profound impact on almost every aspect of your divorce, as well as how you can manage the process. There are personality traits that people can exhibit which may make it easy to consider them a narcissist, but in actuality, stats show less than 5% of people really have Narcissistic Per...

Do you think you're divorcing (or did divorce) a narcissist? You may think the telltale signs were on display: doesn't seem to care about anyone but themselves; they're full of themselves; they're only really concerned about their own happiness and how things affect them. Professionals may agree these are narcissistic tendencies, but there is a lot more when it comes to a person being an actual na...

Don't you want to know what judges are really thinking when deciding on matters of divorce in family court? Are there insider secrets to know that can help or hurt you during your hearings? In this episode, T.H. and Jess talk to the Honorable Ronny Siegal, a retired Superior Court judge, who opens up about what you really need to know if you're going to be in a courtroom at all during your divorce...

As if divorce wasn't challenging enough, going through it all while helping a child with special needs can add an extra layer of stress and difficulty. T.H. and exEXPERT Rebecca Stern recently spoke about their personal experiences with their sons to the group "Other Parents Like Us". This event was so impactful and informative, and we are airing this episode to help even more parents dealing with...

Divorce is a time of negotiation over many things in your life, and a common time to reevaluate your place at work, or even find a new job. Trying to determine how much money you should make can be challenging, but it's imperative that you first understand your value and what you're "worth" so that you aren't underselling yourself. This episode answers all of your questions about how to figure out...

You've heard experts say you should talk to yourself the way you talk to your best friend - but do you? Or do you have an inner voice that makes you feel bad about being divorced and "failing" at marriage, and makes you feel like a bad parent or that you just aren't good enough in so many other ways? In this episode, 10-time Emmy winner and author, Valerie Gordon, explains the most important skill...

Getting divorced is hard enough, but if you have a child that has special needs and requires special services, that can make everything significantly harder. What if you and your ex don't agree on what's necessary? What if you're not even on the same page about what is going on with your child and whether they're even considered special needs? Working with a parent advocate can be one of the best...

"Do I need a lawyer?" is a common question for many people when faced with the reality that they're getting divorced. There are common perceptions that you'll save a ton of money and a judge may even feel bad for you because you are the underdog, but if you don't get a lawyer, then you have to be prepared and understand the letter of the law. The harsh reality is that not having a lawyer may hurt...

Infidelity is far too common in many marriages, but it's all about how you own up to it and take responsibility that allows people to move on productively, and often find themselves in a better place than before. In this episode, Jessica speaks to divorce coach Cindy Stibbard, whose own personal experience with cheating - both her own and her ex husband's - led her to a successful practice helping...

The idea of do-it-yourself divorce may seem sketchy, but it's actually a real option if your divorce is going to be straightforward and amicable. Yes, there are documents involved and you may need some light legal guidance, but the new DIY process offered by Hello Divorce has simplified divorce for thousands of people across the country. Erin Levine, divorce lawyer and founder of Hello Divorce exp...

In every divorce, someone is moving out, and in many cases the family home is being sold. Even before you meet with lawyers, you should have a real estate professional value your home so you know what it's worth in your negotiations, and there are a number of other important things to know and do from the very beginning of your process. In this episode, Christie's International Real Estate Agent,...

Every divorce is challenging, but if your ex is truly a narcissist, you will have a lot of extra stress on your plate. This powerful episode drills down on what exactly a narcissist is, how to tell if your spouse is actually a narcissist and the best tactics and strategies to navigate the process. You will have to handle your situation differently than many others, but this conversation with exper...

Whether you call it spousal support, alimony or something else, this is a huge part of the discussion of every divorce. How do you know what you're entitled to? How much and for how long? In this episode, T.H. and Jess sit down with family law attorney Jennifer Armstrong and dig deep into the concept of spousal support - how it works and how to handle it in your divorce negotiation. If you're thin...

The cost of divorce can be extreme, especially if you and your soon-to-be-ex are in an acrimonious situation. Most lawyers charge a retainer fee up front, which can be hard to pay if you don't have access to money at the moment. In this episode, Jess and T.H. talk to attorney Nicole Noonan from New Chapter Capital all about the novel idea of divorce funding. This genius concept is a game-changer f...

The enormity of divorce can feel like you're climbing a mountain, and in the cases of T.H. and Daniel Herrold, one of the founders of Divorced Over Forty, they can actually make that comparison as they both climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro in the wake of their divorces! Daniel opens up in this episode and tells T.H. and Jessica his side of going through divorce, how he came to do the climb and how he almos...

Are you wondering if the recovery from divorce for women is different than men? Sometimes women think men deal with it all so much easier - they seem to start dating and getting into relationships sooner, and often don't seem to shoulder the same guilt or shame as women. But guess what? We found out it's all a facade! Listen to this fascinating conversation with a nationally recognized relationshi...

Looking for the secret to co-parenting peacefully? Part of it is both parents needing to want to learn the best ways to parent together, and the other part is actually working together and instituting those strategies. The Parent Team has developed a super successful methodology to co-parenting and some cities around the country even require parents to learn their tips and techniques! Listen to th...

This episode is going to give you an entirely new way of thinking and managing your mindset about divorce through neuro-linguistic programming! Who doesn’t have at least some negative thoughts when going through - or after going through - a divorce? It doesn’t matter if you’re the one that initiated or not, there are bound to be some less-than-positive feelings about the fact that your marriage di...

Exes and authors of the popular book “Our Happy Divorce” sit down with Jess and T.H. to talk (and laugh) about how they went from unhappily married to very happily divorced! This real and raw interview offers a lot of insight into some very common problems during marriage, and how Ben and Nikki were able to work through the anger and discontent to now live as a new “family” that includes their new...

It’s natural to feel overwhelmed and as if things are out of your control as you’re getting divorced. Figuring out what you actually can control and manage isn’t easy, but there are some areas that you absolutely can manage. From the influences around you to the new division of household responsibilities to setting the actual tone of interactions and communications between your lawyers. This episo...

Dealing with divorce doesn't always look like a series of success or victories, but in reality each day offers new opportunities for advancement and even triumph. But if you get sucked into a deep spiral, you may not even know that these accomplishments are happening. It's like taking "before" pictures and then "progress" pictures along the way - you only see the progress if you're paying attentio...

We know that money causes some of the biggest fears around divorce - where is it, where will it be coming from, how do I make it last, how will I maintain my life? Knowing how to handle your situation is critically important, and Michelle Smith is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and creator of the Wife2CFO program that will teach you to become the financial badass you need to be! Listen to t...

We all have hindsight about what we wish we knew about divorce - and ourselves - once things are finalized and we've moved on. Some lessons are realizations we have right away, and some are things we learn over time, even years later. Lucy del Gaudio is a female warrior, literally, because was in the military, and also because she has moved on past her divorce with an inspiring mindset and belief...

If you own a home when getting divorced, there are specific things you need to know in order to decide whether one of you should keep it or if you should sell it and split the proceeds. Additionally, there are things to be aware of if you plan to buy a new property when getting divorced or once it's finalized. It's so important to have a reL estate attorney that understands your situation and can...