Divorce etc... hosted by the exEXPERTS (T.H. and Jessica)

Have you felt that your ex is trying to smear you during your divorce, whether it's to your kids, your friends or even to the lawyers and court? Dealing with a smear campaign is a highly emotional situation, but it happens far too often. In this episode, we speak to Matt Phifer all about this version of toxic abuse and how to handle it. This is a must-listen for anyone dealing with a high-conf...

Once you know you're getting divorced, you need to start watching what you say. Nowadays, so many things can be used against you, that you really want to be careful about your communications with everyone in your life. Your texts, your emails, even your social media posts - these are all things that you have to be aware of. And it's not just your messages to your ex...even communications y...

Feeling like you've lost your identity after getting divorced is so common because divorce often brings about feelings of "who am I?" now that you're no longer part of a married couple. From changing your name to going back into the corporate workforce, major changes are happening in many ways. Dr. Elizabeth Cohen - the Divorce Doctor - explains that there are ways to reset how y...

Money is a main concern in divorce, and there are many common pitfalls that occur that you can avoid if you know what they are. In this episode we speak to Sara Chevere, Financial Coach and Founder of Finance Babe, to learn what you need to know and how to prepare and protect yourself financially during your divorce. (Guest: Sara Chevere, Intuitive Financial Coach & Founder of Finance Babe) Em...

Who doesn't want to become better at Advanced Adulting? In this episode, one of our signature male exEXPERTS, Bradley Richardson, gives us the lowdown on what exactly "Advanced Adulting" is and means, and why is essential for everyone - both men and women. The concept is based on life lessons and learning from mistakes we've made, and how to move forward productively and positive...

When getting divorced, most people just don't know what they don't know. They also don't know what they need to know. In this episode, we speak to Family Law attorney Dennis Vetrano, who deals with a lot of high-conflict cases and tells it like it is. From when is the right time to start meeting with lawyers, to understanding that every time you're in court you are "on stage&q...

Divorce from a narcissist is one of the most challenging types of divorces a person can go through, and we know it's not always easy to talk about. Getting out of a toxic relationship that includes trauma and emotional abuse is extremely difficult, but with the right support, you can move on and find joy - and love! - again. In this episode we hear a first-hand account of divorcing and moving...

What do parenting apps do and how can they help divorced parents? And are there certain features you should be looking for if you want to use one, like GPS locator or the ability to upload photos and documents? In this episode we speak to Michael Daniels, Founder of the co-parenting app FAYR. Hear about what makes Fayr different than other apps out there, and why this might be the right choice for...

Father's Day should be a happy day for dads, but when you're divorced, there are a lot of emotions that may come along with it. Plus, wrangling the kids and trying to set up the day can sometimes end up leading to disappointment. We've all been there! But there are some ways you divorced dads can set yourself up for success, and we get some of the best ideas and tips from parenting coa...

When you think of getting divorced, you may not actually realize how many options you have for the kind of divorce you might want. Back in the day, litigation was the norm, and sometimes mediation was an alternative. But today, due to the fact that so many couples - and most lawyers - want to avoid litigation, you have a lot of choices. And the great news is, there is an organization whose whole m...

For everyone divorced with kids, talking to your children and trying to figure out how to approach the tough conversations are some of the hardest parts of the whole process. How to bring it up, what are the "right" things to say and what are the kids even thinking? As parents, we want to help our kids process without doing further damage or causing additional emotional stress. This in a...

Fears about money are one of the biggest concerns of divorce, and learning how to strategize for financial success can have an enormous impact on every part of your process. In this episode, we talk to a Certified Divorce Financial Advisor all about the best formula for successful negotiations and how to look at your own situation to determine whether or not you feel ok, and what changes you will...

The stress of divorce takes a toll not only on your mind, but on your body. That's why it is so important to prioritize your your own health and wellness and make sure that doesn't fall to the bottom of your to-do list. Easier said than done, we know, but this episode sheds light on 12 lifestyle factors and how these different pieces need to fit together to be balanced in order to move on...

Sometimes we have to just hear the straight truth, no matter how much it hurts. Why? Because being honest with ourselves, especially in a hard situation, is going to help us be prepared and get through it in the best way possible. But if you can get all of that with a few laughs along the way, even better. NY Times Bestselling Author Sarah Knight gives us an inside look at her newest book, how it...

Recovering from divorce can be a painful process, but it's important to know where to start and what steps to take to work through it. This episode with Divorce Recovery Coach Leah Marie gives you all the information you need to start - and end - with success. Hear how your recovery can lead you into a new path of opportunity! (Guest: Leah Marie, Divorce Recovery Coach - www.mindfullyready.com...

You can get stuck in any phase of the divorce process - even deciding "should you or shouldn't you" is a monumental decision. And once you do choose the divorce path, moving forward through the process can be very tricky in many ways. There are some things you can control while you're going through it, and that's what you'll learn in this episode. We talk about owning you...

It's hard to see our kids be disappointed, especially when it stems from their other parent letting them down. It's instinct to want to protect them from that hurt, which often comes in the form of covering for that other parent. It could be as simple as getting the birthday gift for the party they're invited to on your ex's weekend, or as big as making excuses when your ex doesn&#...

Have you thought about a "what if they don't" clause in your divorce agreement? Negotiating settlements are difficult by nature, and we're all concerned about making sure we get in all of the things the ex must do in order to abide by the terms. But one thing that can be extremely useful and important when divorcing a narcissist or difficult person is protecting yourself in any c...

Hearing that you may need a parent coordinator can sound scary, but it can actually help you in your divorce process. The skills and benefits a parent coordinator can offer can help you navigate the co-parenting situation and set you up for a successful future. Lawyer and LCSW Linda Schofel talks us through all of the ways this type of expert can be an asset for you in your divorce. (Guest: Linda...

Worries over money is often one of the biggest concerns in divorce - do I have enough, where will it comes from, can I afford my expenses and take care of my family? Very frequently, women aren't in the know about their financial situation and the thought of having to learn it all and take over your own finances is overwhelming. In this episode, Britt Baker - one of the co-founders of Dow Janes -...

Trying to organize your life for divorce is hard. You're likely dealing with trying to declutter and streamline your "things" while also trying to figure out how to handle your new life and even your calendar...organizing logistics of getting the kids where they have to be can clutter up your brain. It's all a lot, and if you're wondering where to start and how to get it all done productively, thi...

If your ex-spouse is deliberately trying to damage your relationship with your children, you may be a victim of parent alienation. It's important to understand what the signs are and how you cam handle it, in order to determine your best options going forward. Former divorce lawyer and Dear Divorce Coach, Cherie Morris, digs deep to give you the tips and information you need in this matter. (Guest...

If you think you can't afford your house, you might be wrong. There are Divorce Lending Professionals whose job is to show you alternative ways of financing and qualifying for a mortgage or loan, even if you're worried you can't qualify. In this episode, Emile Flowers explains when to speak to a CDLP (hint: immediately), exactly how the process works and why the service is absolutely free! If you...

Turns out, one of the first questions men ask themselves when getting divorced is "WTF do I do now?" This episode helps answer that, along with busting many of the myths around men and divorce. It's different for men and women, but many assumptions are made about how easy it can be for guys because they seem to move on so quickly. It's not true! And in this episode, the founder of WTF Divorce brea...

If you aren't sure what your money personality is, now is a good time to find out. Identifying your money personality will help you as you navigate your divorce budget and finances, which is imperative while you're going through the process and figuring out your next steps. Plus, knowing your money personality and spending traits will be helpful when you are looking for a new partner, because you...