Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for Women

For thousand of years, women's value in society is more seen as caretakers. We were trained to believe that our role should be what society dictates and expects us to be. These expectations prevent us from developing a relationship with our inner self, creating the mindset and fear that people might view us as selfish or self-centered when we put ourselves first before others and everything else....

Oftentimes, couples planning to divorce search for ways to end their marriage without having to go through litigation. Not all divorces have to go through the court. Divorce can be resolved through informal negotiations between you and your husband, attorney and mediator. Lori Brandon is a PACE Registered Paralegal through the National Federation of Paralegal Associations, a Minnesota Certified Pa...

Sex, divorce and money are the toughest topics people don't want to talk about. It's an emotional topic, that when combined together creates a mixture of both ecstasy, stress, anger, pleasure, pain, failure, guilt, shame, risk, lust, jealousy and love. Tiffany Yelverton is a sexual empowerment coach and founder of Entice Me and Sexy Survivors. A chief sexinista and a master of enticing others to e...

Divorce can make someone feel isolated and care less about their health which may lead to anxiety, depression, stress and traumatic experiences. Women who are going through divorce sometimes feel a mixture of stigma and shame causing them to lose confidence and self-esteem. Edie Starrett is a mother and an Ayurvedic and Yoga Practitioner/Therapist. She founded MonaV, a health and wellness company....

You are not a victim and divorce doesn't define you. You can choose to be happy, financially independent, healthy, and connected. It is up to you to shift your energy, focus, and attention on what will move you forward. Susan Haddorff a mother of five and the Senior Executive Sales Leader of Norwex USA. She is the prime example of how one can build a successful business while going through divorce...

Going through a career change or re-entering the job market as you are going through divorce can be overwhelming. There are a lot to consider, and a lot of things to do. It is difficult to judge what the first step should be. Sue Gresham "The LinkedIn Lady" is a consultant, coach, trainer, speaker, and job search mentor. She teaches business owners, entrepreneurs, job seekers and students how to u...

Self care is a topic that is currently receiving a lot of attention. But despite it being tha latest hot topic, most women still have a hard time giving themselves permission to take care of themselves. Self care is not selfish. It is crucial for our wellbeing and more so when we are going through divorce or any crisis. It allows us to  walk through the added responsibilities and stress more effec...

One of the biggest challenges while going through the divorce process is the amount of paperwork that women have to stay on top of. Women may feel caught in the chaos, overwhelm, uncertainty, and frustration with so many things going on. We need to have a system in place to stay organized so that we are empowered to make decisions that would impact our lives. Dave Rebro is a really great model for...

Going through divorce is a very powerful experience that shapes our characters. It is a time when we are tested to the core, challenged, and prepared for something greater. But divorce does not define us. Divorce is an event that we go through in life. Today's guest is Dori Pulse, the founder of Girl for God Ministries and author of Everything Changed When I Said 'I Do'. She has a bachelor's degre...

Today's episode with Nilda Campuzano is very refreshing and inspiring. We talk about the key elements in creating a thriving life weather you are contemplating divorce, going through it, or have gone through it. Nilda was a stay at home mom for 13 years before her divorce. She had a very trying time in the process - having children to consider, her family being in another country, and being away f...

Mental Illness is a very difficult but extremely important issue to talk about. And this is even more heightened when one is going through divorce. Shedding light on this issue is Shelly Smith, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, who talked about Mental Health & Wellness in Episode 8. In this episode, we discuss the different factors that can affect the divorce process when mental illness is...

Going through the divorce process and what comes after can be quite challenging. Having a dependable career and confidence in advocating yourself helps a lot in bringing normalcy and stability in this time. In this episode, Sara Reed shares her in-depth knowledge from an HR standpoint on how women can elevate themselves in the workforce. We talk about tips for women who are looking to re-enter the...

Budgeting. This is a powerful word. It creates fear and anxiety. It produces avoidance-type behaviors. It even impacts relationships. What are the costs of not budgeting? There are costs to our overall well-being. 1)     Health: Lack of sleep 2)     Quality of life: Financial-related stress 3)     Financial: Actual dollars & sense   Most of my clients come to meet without a budget. There was no fo...

The more women I speak with who have spouses that are too controlling, the more my concern grows for them.  These women are in a situation where the person they trusted the most are now the threat to their safety. The question is, how can they assure their own security? From mental tips like changing one's mindset, to practical advices like getting a new phone, Freddie Harris, Founder of Badger Kr...

The health component takes such a big impact in divorce. However, the mind component is just as significant. When women go through divorce, they are physically and mentally drained. How can women take care of themselves when it's the mind they have to nurse? What can women do when they feel overwhelmed? Should they run away from it? Should they stay in place or move forward? How would they deal wi...

When someone goes through divorce, there are so many aspects to assess, so many decisions to make. With all of the processes to go through, people tend to overlook their financial assets. Estate planning is one of the most vital financial assets to consider, but one that is usually left out. Why exactly is estate planning a significant asset to check? It's all about protecting your loved ones from...

One of the most overwhelming and intimidating aspects of a divorce is its financial aspect. Most women going through it find it difficult to manage their finances, along with all the other things to think about. How can they exactly prepare for it when they are in this situation? Today's guest, Michelle Gabor, MBA, CPA walks us through the process of taking charge of our assets. Talking finance do...

For someone who is going through divorce, it is not a cake walk. It's more like riding on a never-ending emotional rollercoaster. Emotions are all over the place and it may feel like you are in a pit. Women going through divorce are constantly seeking guidance and directions on how to manage their feelings, and on how to improve their self-compassion. Shelly Smith, a Licensed Therapist on Marriage...

We have always been told that people need 7-8 hours of sleep. However, forty percent of Americans are sleep-deprived. We understand the importance of sleep, but add stress with divorce? Then you get sleep deprivation. People would most likely just overlook this by thinking that they are just tired, but the effects of not having enough sleep should not just be shrugged off. A higher risk of experie...

For a divorced woman experiencing loss, and perhaps on her way to losing the confidence she once had, enlightenment is necessary. Throughout my conversation with Rebecca, I learned that we have our own identity, and that we are powerful. I was reminded that we are all significant and that our style matters. Our inner and outer beauty, indeed, needs an investment, and for it to grow, we need to tak...

Empowering yourself to make wise and informed choices regarding finances as you are going through divorce is one of the key factors as you are stepping into independence. Gaylene Stingl has over 25 years experience in providing business management, tax and financial consulting to individuals and small businesses. She is a Certified Public Accountant, Certified Valuation Analyst, and has a Masters...

There is a quote by Beverly Ingall that I want to share with you. "Turn down the volume of your negative inner voice and create a nurturing inner voice to take its place." Why is it that when we are already down in the dumps, we become our biggest critic? Why is it that when we make a mistake, instead of learning from it, we obsess over it? To help us go through a divorce, we must all be aware of...

One thing is for sure. Going through a divorce is overwhelming. It is a heavy, arduous thing to go through. And the question that floods our mind is, "What do I do now?" The first step I always tell my clients is to identify your strengths. When you do, you can use your strengths as leverage and tackle this situation in a more logical and empowered way. There are two key factors when seeking finan...

Let's be real. Contacting a divorce attorney may be hard enough, but asking the real questions may be harder. When a woman goes through a divorce, it's hard to stay focused on what to ask and what not to. To help our listeners, I have listed some essential questions to ask your attorney. What is your hourly rate? How much is the upfront retainer? How much do you bill? Do you exclusively practice f...

I have worked with a lot of clients throughout the years. But working with women has always been special for me. And women who are going through divorce need more support, especially when it comes to finances. Which is why I have given birth to this podcast. It is to be the go-to resource for increasing financial clarity for women going through divorce. With this podcast, I want to cover everythin...