Discovering Our Scars

What is prayer? Where, how, and why do people do it? Is prayer about changing God’s mind? Are prayer and meditation the same thing? Steph and Beth tackle all of these questions and more. Beth shares why she doesn’t pray in the bathroom, but Steph gives her a new perspective that leaves her re-thinking her position. Steph and Beth talk about pre-written prayers that are meaningful to them, like the...

9/11 was a touchstone moment. It defined our country for a time, and in some ways it defines the world for Steph’s generation. In this Episode, Steph and Beth have an honest conversation about how 9/11 challenged and changed some of their perceptions, while also stirring up their patriotism. Steph reads an excerpt from her book where she talks about what it was like to have a brother in the Air Fo...

Steph and Beth have their very first guest! Steph’s mom, Vicki, stops by to discuss why she and Steph are not friends. They have an amazing relationship built on mutual respect, dialogue, and having fun together, but they are NOT friends. Even now that they are colleagues and business partners, they still aren’t friends. Beth shares why she takes the same approach with her kids—choosing motherhood...

According to Myers-Briggs, Steph is an ISTJ. Beth is an ESFJ. What’s it like when an introvert and an extrovert try to create together? How does the introvert make sure she’s heard? How does the extrovert make sure she’s listening? These personality tendencies can be overcome, but how? In this episode, we explore how extroverts and introverts both gain energy and how they can do that without dimin...

Steph and Beth both used social media long before they were creating online content. This episode is a conversation about how they stay emotionally healthy in the midst of a push to share more and more online. Beth shares why she loves Twitter, and Steph shares why she prefers Instagram. They talk about how their online interactions have changed as social media has changed, and as their work has b...

What does it feel like to be depressed? What do you do if someone you care about is depressed? Can a person be depressed without being suicidal? Steph and Beth talk about this and more on this episode of Discovering Our Scars. Steph shares about being diagnosed with depression at age 14. Beth shares about a time she correctly predicted she would be incorrectly diagnosed as bipolar. They both talk...

How often does someone else tell you what you “should” do? Whether it’s said with the best of intentions or as a passive-aggressive ploy, Steph and Beth have had enough of it. They explore some of the “shoulds” friends, family, and society have laid on them. From career choices, to family choices, to how they live and spend their free time, they’ve both received a lot of “shoulds” and even been gu...

Steph and Beth are both Christians, though one prefers to call herself a Christ-follower. One goes to church weekly, one is comfortable not attending church regularly. They set out to discuss some of the most common clichés about Christians and end up talking about what irks them most about other Christians. The cliché Christian isn’t just a problem for those outside Christianity! Steph and Beth f...

What is the difference between anger and rage? Steph and Beth have both struggled with anger and rage. In this episode they explore what it was like at its worst. They discuss how rage manifested itself as anger plus a destructive action or behavior. Steph took it out on herself and Beth took it out on her kids. This episode’s honest conversation also leads them to discover an important link in th...

Beth thought she was having surgery to remove an ovary covered in cysts. After an initial scare, she had been pain free for months. Her bloodwork showed she was cancer free and her doctors reassured her the surgery was almost routine. Ovarian cysts are a common problem for women, there was nothing to be worried about. But during the surgery, the surgeon suspected the problem was more serious. With...

In 2006, Steph found herself somewhere she never expected to be—a mental hospital. Steph had been using Non-Suicidal Self-Injury as a coping mechanism for a couple of years, but when a roommate issue escalated, her coping mechanism did too. All of the frustration Steph felt about the ways her roommate repeatedly disrespected her space and her wishes poured out in a cutting session that left her ar...

In episode 1, Steph and Beth take the first step—they introduce themselves! But as you’ll hear in this episode, taking things one step at a time is a great tool for getting things done. Beth and Steph talk about how they first became friends and share about the big pivots they’ve made in their lives in the time since they first met. How did Steph go from Lead Creative with Apple to working at a ch...