Disability After Dark

In this first episode of 2018, we look at how gym culture and the pursuit of the gym cut body we all want so we can have "better sex" aligns with (or totes doesn't) with disability culture. I share some of my experiences at the gym as a queer cripple, we can giggle at how inaccessible some of the workouts for better sex actually are, and I suggest that fucking a cripple might even be a b...

This episode is another throwback episode where I detail how my relationship with my biological father greatly impacted my intimate relationships as a disabled man later in life. I discuss how my father turned me into a "clingosaurus cripple". I also talk with Danny Kodmur about what being clingy as a disabled person means for him.

In this episode, I talk about what being sick, sexy and disabled means for me. I share my experience trying to navigate being sick, disabled and sexy with C-Diff and when I was recently hospitalized. I share how sickness and disability contributed to my sex drive. I also talk to some other disabled people to find out how being sick and disabled plays a role in their lives.

In this episode, I wanted to share part of my coming out story with you! I thought that rather than simply giving you my views on the experience, that I'd interview my Mom, and learn from her what my coming out as queer and disabled meant for her. We talk about her experiences having a disabled son, her understanding of disability, my coming out and so much more.

In this episode, I explore the links between kissing and disability. We look at how people view kissing and disability; some of the challenges of kissing when disabled; I read comments left by my Facebook group about kissing and disability, and I talk to my friends Claire AH about kissing after a stroke; I also talk to Natalie Rose about what it's like kissing her disabled husband.

In this episode, I interviewed one of the sexiest people I have ever had the pleasure of talking to on the show. My friend Addison (a go-go dancing smoke show of hotness from Vancouver) sat down with me to talk about the connections between HIV-positive status and disability, and I was pleasantly surprised that he really considered the question, and asked his community what they thought. Our conve...

In this episode, I talk about my experience on a Canadian TV show called 1Girl5Gays on MTV Canada and Logo from 2013-14 in the shows 5th season. I was the only visibly disabled person on that program, and I talk about what that meant for me and disabled representation on Queer TV. Here's a link to hilarious photos of me on the show and my show bio

In this episode, I talk with JoEllen Notte; well known researcher, mental health advocate and writer about the linkages between sex, depression and disability. We talk about how she manages her depression, whether or not she believes depression is a disability, and so much more. You can find out more about JoEllen's work at: www.redheadbedhead.com

This was a tough episode to record. In light of all the sexual assault stories coming out, I felt it was necessary to talk about how disabled people deal with consent, sexual harassment and sexual assault. In this episode, I share some moments of things that happened to me. It wasn't easy sharing this stuff, but I felt it was important. This isn't an episode you should enjoy, but you should give p...

In this episode, I talk about what it has been like for me working in the industry as a queer cripple, and what that has meant for me. We talk about the beginnings of my writings, professional ableism as a Queer Cripple, I share the pitfalls of being a profesional Queer Cripple speaker and more.

This episode is a hilarious re-telling of my first (and hopefully not last) threesome as a Queer Cripple. I share what I wanted the threesome to be, the reality of it, and what I learned from it for my next one. Throughout the story, I touch on internalized ableism, sexual ableism, some funny moments and more. Enjoy!

In this episode, I sit down with Queerty contributor Josh Galassi. He writes a lot about his experiences being queer and disabled. We chat about coming out as disabled on apps, privilege, asking your lovers what they thought of you and your disability, and so much more.

In this episode, I take a look at sex, disability and the law. We talk briefly about The Ugly Laws, Eugenics, and discuss two cases that examine consent, sex, disability and the law. Through these cases I explore how the courts and our legal systems have a lot of work to do in understanding disability, and suggest perhaps that the courts would rather rely on ableist prejudices than looking at thin...

In this episode, I talk candidly about my relationship to porn as a queer cripple, and how I came to learn about it in my youth. In this first part of a miniseries I am calling "PwD: Porn While Disabled", I share why I think disability and porn are totally important, potentially problematic, and uncover why I myself might want to embark in the industry.

In this episode, I chat with "Dating Coach on Wheels" [ www.datingcoachonwheels.com ], Amin Lakhani about his experiences with sex, disability, tight clothes, jerking off, bow ties and muscular dystrophy. This is definitely one of my fave episodes so far! Enjoy!

In ths episode, I take a look at some flirting advice from the book "The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability ". I talk about how I feel about some of this advice and whether or not I believe the advice holds up in the real-life disabled flirting scenarios... p.s. I dont think the advice does. I talk about my feelings around "Be Yourself" and "Be Bold" advice as a...

This episode had me riled up and angry about the way the media ran stories from parents of children with disabilities without the children's consent. I focus on 2 stories here about two parents who consider hiring sex workers for their sons to experience sex. I had lots of things to say about that (mostly angry things), and I also touch on disability activists Carly Findlay and Kim Sauder's though...

For this episode, I got to sit down with disabled activist Alex Haagaard. We talked about the intersectionality found on the autism spectrum w/ respect to sexuality. This was a really important interview that touched on disability and sexuality in a new way for me, and I'm excited to share that with you!

In this episode, I talk to Eva who is a young, non-disabled sex educator, making sex education available via her Youtube Channel "What's My Body Doing". pre Link here:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpmgFWyoBQ00FjQBUOgMfAgsub_confirmation=1 /pre <><> We talk about the need for better sex education around disabilities, discover that even seasoned sex educators are afraid to t...

In this episode, we talk about butt stuff...but not in the way you might be expecting. I sat down with Kelly Bracken who reached out to the showing wanting to share her experiences with an ileostomy bag and how this has affected her sexual confidence. The interview is fun, honest and touches on a topic that so many of us are afraid to go near. Luckily, Kelly knows how to stay sexy when shit happen...

In this episode, I talk about my gimpy genitals; the way I have come to understand my sexual organs and my body through my relationship to disability is thoroughly, and hilariously explored.

This episode delves into the reality of touch and disability. We talk about how touch influences our sexuality as disabled people. I share my thoughts on how touch as a disabled man, and how this has played a role in my sex life, and I talk about what touch really means to me as a queer crippled man.

People have been asking me to do an episode on BDSM, kink and disability for awhile now. Well, it's here. I sat down with Master Severyn Kain, a BDSM Master and Alternative Lifestyle Presenter to talk about the intersectionality of kink and crippledness. Our conversation takes many awesome avenues; I make him speechless and he turns me on, as we explore a discussion of disability in kink, limits,...

In this episode, I sit down with Youtuber Davey Wavey ( www.daveywavey.tv ). We talk about body image, boys, sex and disability. I am pretty much still pinching myself that he agreed to do it with me. It was a really funny, sexy, flirty show that made me crush on Davey and his work even more than I did before.

In this super special episode, I share a project that I have been working on with the National Film Board of Canada around my work in sexuality, disability and queerness; a documentary short called Picture This. I talk with Producer Lea Marin and Director Jari Osborne about the importance of a film like this, the ins and outs of producing this project, and I share what it was like to be the subjec...