Disability After Dark

Episode Notes CONTENT WARNING This episode will contain discussions of abuse against a disabled person, and the emotional after effects of that incident. If you find discussions like that triggering, I fully understand why you might not want to listen to this episode. In this episode, I chronicle the experience I had when I was abused by my care staff and trapped naked in my bed. We talk about the...

Episode Notes In this week's episode, we sit down with musician and artist Brett Gleason as he shares his stories of coming out as having Bipolar Disorder. We explore whether or not Brett considers BPD to be a disability or not, what it was like coming out to his therapist, why his BPD makes him a "really good napper" and how his BPD plays a role in his relationships + a whole lot more. Enjoy! You...

Episode Notes Notes go here On this episode of The Handicast, Heather and I sit down with the CEO and Founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, Cindy Gallop as we talk about her journey into creating a platform where people could create real world sex videos. Of course, we also talk about the importance of representation, the need for #MakeDisabledLoveNotPorn and so much more. We were thrilled to have Cindy joi...

Episode Notes In this episode, I sit down with John and Teri, a couple with Spinal Cord Injury (SCI). We explore their experiences with sex and spinal cord injury, autonomic dysreflexia, raising a son as a disabled couple and a whole lot more. It was a really interesting conversation to also explore the similarities and differences between congenital disabilities and acquired disabilities. Enjoy!...

Episode Notes In Part 20 of Quarantine and Chill, I explain that I have been tested for Covid-19, 3 times. I explain how that happened, but I also share some of things about quarantine as a disabled person that have been hard like no access to sex, the inaccessibility of my accessible apartment, how a mask falling off and being unable to put it back on independently is a real thing, my attendant c...

Episode Notes In Episode 201, I do another in my series "What's Your Condition?" This time I look at Ehler's Danlos Syndrome. We look at the way it is understood online, what people with it refer to themselves as Zebras, and we also explore the history and behind it, as it is one of the oldest bruising and bleeding disorders ever. We discuss what cool celebrities have it, and we talk about how EDS...

Episode Notes In this Part 19 of Quarantine & Chill, I revisit my friend and sex educator Anne Hodder-Shipp as we get into the sh*t of things talking about her experiences with motility issues, poop, fear, shame, and how all those things play out during the pandemic. I loved being able to talk shit with her, and discuss my own issues with poo during the pandemic. Enjoy! You can follow Anne on...

Episode Notes For the 200th episode, I thought it might be fun to rewind a little bit and go back and listen to the very first episode of Disability After Dark with you, but with some added commentary from me today. Find out how I actually recorded the first episode, why I retract my previous thoughts about access, listen to awkward transitions about candy & assholes, and listen again as I exp...

Episode Notes In Q & C Part 18, I invite past guest Sara Camps on the show to talk about their experience with multiple disabilities during the pandemic. We also explore their work with an Independent Living Center in Indiana, and how those services have been affected by Coronavirus. Sara also highlights some work they've done as a contact tracer and how that can help and/or hinder the fight a...

Episode Notes In episode 199, I sit down with disabled content creator and porn performer Go Ask Alex. We talk about their experiences with bowel disease and living with an ostomy. We talk about Go Ask Alex's journey in accepting their disabled identity as a porn performer and sex worker, and also just as a human. We unpack what it's like to be a content creator who has to manage their energy, and...

Episode Notes In this episode, I sit down with porn star and escort Jack Dixon as we explore his experiences with disabled clients both good and bad, we consider what a scene with me might be like, and also what might happen if he became a wheelchair user. All this and a whole lot more in this episode. Enjoy! You can follow Jack on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jackdixon_xx/ Buy a #Dis...

Episode Notes In episode 4 of The Handicast, Heather and I sit down with the Chief Operating Officer at Handi Jess Tarpey, as we delve more into the book we're putting together on sex and disability as part of the Handi brand. Jess shares with us what kind of content we're looking at for the book, how we're curating responses and she also shares with us what this experience has taught her about se...

Episode Notes In this episode, I invite my friend Kate Wolovsky back on the show to talk about her experiences with Multiple Sclerosis, EDS and other disabilities during the pandemic. We also explore the pain of having to end friendships because they don't respect the seriousness of social distancing + more. Enjoy! You can follow Kate's work with Disabled Duo at www.disabledduo.com If you want to...

Episode Notes In this episode, I sit down with my friend Kim Acquaviva who is a Professor at the University of Virginia School of Nursing. I talk with Kim about her relationship with her late wife Kathy Brandt, and we discuss what it was like for Kim to deal with a spouse who was sick; how their intimacy changed, how their relationship was affected and more. The convo around care-giving illness an...

Episode Notes In this part 16 of Quarantine & Chill, I invite my best friend Kristen back on the show to talk about her experiences doing her personal care on her own, and why she chose to stop seeing her personal support workers during the pandemic + a whole lot more and some laughs too! You can follow Kristen on Twitter at www.twitter.com/kdub155 If you want to be a part of a Quarantine &amp...

Episode Notes Hi friends! In Episode 196, we sit down with a new friend, Katie Pennick. She shares with us why the social model of disability is so important, we chat her experiences of dating in London as a wheelchair user, and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Katie Pennick on Twitter here: https://twitter.com/KatiePennick You can also follow her podcast about transit, disability and more...

Episode Notes In this episode I sit down with Jazz who is queer, non-binary and has multiple disabilities, as we discuss the impact Covid19 has had on them living in rural British Columbia, Canada. They share how their experiences with hip dysplasia, sleep apnea, osteoarthritis and other disabilities have been affected during this time, and what might happen if they were hospitalized. We also expl...

Episode Notes In another episode of "What Would Happen if You Became Disabled Tomorrow?" we sit down with my friend Kris Robin to talk about how their experience as a Gender Non-Conforming person might change if they used a wheelchair. How would they use the washroom, how would their job as a teacher, and their volunteerism look and feel differently. We also explore how their relationships might l...

Episode Notes In Episode 3 of the Handicast we sit down with our new friend and collaborator Katy Venables from the UK, as we talk about her experiences with masturbation and EDS. She shares how certain meds for her disabilities make it hard for her to cum, what pain can feel like and a whole lot more. We also tease that we are working on a book at Handi! Enjoy this one! You can follow Katy on Ins...

Episode Notes In this episode of Quarantine & Chill, I sit down with Maria Morrero as we talk about her experiences with invisible illnesses like PTSD and PNES, as well as her experiences as a black woman trying to access medical care. We also have loads of laughs. It was really fun to sit with her and talk about her experiences during COVID19. Enjoy! You can reach out to Maria by e-mail at: m...

Episode Notes In this episode, I take a look at the history of the word Cripple. Where did the word come from? What were its roots in language? How was it used to describe someone, and when was it first used as a slur in the English language. We also discuss use of the word "Crip" and the importance there, as well as take a look into some of the people like Nancy Mairs who have reclaimed the word...

In Part 13 of Quarantine & Chill, I sit down with Felicia MacCay and talk about their experiences with work, productivity, POTS and EDS during the pandemic. We also chat about their experiences using a port system to get medication, and the difficulty they may have getting key medical supplies. A lot to unpack in this one. Enjoy! You can follow Felicia at: @ForThe. GirlWhoWaited If you want to...

In this episode, I sit down with Certified Sex Educator and Pleasure Advocate Elle Chase as I help to answer some questions she has as an educator about sex and disability. I loved being able to chat with Elle and give her the tools to make her sex education classes that much more inclusive. I hope you enjoy this one. You can follow Elle Chase on all socials at @TheElleChase or at her website www....

In episode 2 of The Handicast, Heather and I sit down with the founder of an accelerator program we're a part of called Remarkable out of Sydney Australia, Pete Horsley. Pete explains to us all about Remarkable, and how they are working to ensure that disability tech startups, like Handi and other projects that help disabled people get to market. Pete also shares with us his personal connection to...

Episode Notes In Part 12 of Quarantine & Chill, I sit down with motivational and inspirational speaker Marco Pasqua, as we talk about how Covid-19 has played a role in his work as a speaker, but also we take a deep dive into his views on being a person with a disability versus disabled person, why positivity has helped him through, and more of his thoughts about the pandemic and disability. Yo...