Desire on Fire

A couple of weeks ago, I told you that I'd invited a guy I'd met once to join me for a 7-day tantra retreat for couples.    I'd been wanting to go on another Tantra retreat for a while, and I felt so called to this retreat for couples, even though I'm not currently in a relationship. And then I felt pulled to invite Alex Waters, even though I barely knew him at all.    I know, I know: on the surfa...

My friend Kim Mellor is a total powerhouse. She's a manifestation queen, a coach, a podcaster, a changer of lives.    She was so used to harnessing her masculine side — the doer, the achiever, the get-er-done mentality. She had mastered mindset and business strategies for success.    But she said she always felt like something was missing. There was a part of her that was hidden away. Suffocated,...

We're often conditioned to see an intense "down" — time of loss, grief, anger, struggle, jealousy, betrayal, stuck-ness — as something we need to get past as quickly as possible so we can get back to having fun and experiencing pleasure.    Our culture says that feeling "up" is good and feeling "down" is bad, which can lead us to compulsive behaviors that momentarily make us feel good — even when...

One of the biggest struggles of the personal/spiritual growth community right now is the tendency to trip into spiritual bypassing.    The wounded parts of ourselves are too painful, so people default to nothing but "love and light!"    Adrian Ellison is here to disrupt that unhealthy tendency. She's a modern-day medicine woman out of Austin TX who understands that the Shadow is a critical part of...

Staying emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually intimate is challenging enough for any of us, at any time in life.    But add to that mix a newborn — with the sleep deprivation, body changes, constant outflow of energy and limited inflow, and the vulnerability of needing so many new things and making so many adjustments — and the dance of intimacy takes on many unexpected steps.    So h...

This is Aimee, and I recently had an experience that was exciting, expanding, and full of surprises of all kinds — my first time having sex with another woman.    This felt like a big deal for a number of reasons (which I share in this episode), so I invited my dear friend Kelley Bode back to the podcast to interview me and have a real, no-holds-barred convo about this encounter.    In this episod...

The incomparable Cait Scudder joined us in March, in her 3rd trimester with her second baby — and she is ALIVE with wisdom, clarity, and the real power of a woman who knows who she is and who is willing to hold and share the fullness of her true self.    In 2017, Cait was a scrappy solopreneur expat in Bali. She'd moved there to be with her now-husband Toby, trying to get a side hustle going, not...

If you've experienced the journey of pregnancy or have been curious about it, you've probably already noticed how fraught it can be. There are so many opinions, voices, and expectations out there about what to do, what not to do, what to eat, and how it all "should" be.    What if there's a way to step outside all those clamoring cultural voices and just tune inward?     As you know, our very own...

We love inviting aligned male energy into the Desire on Fire orbit!     Bryan Reeves is a former US Air Force Captain — a man's man in the eyes of the world who grew up with all the emotion-denying messages that young American boys and men grow up with.    After a debilitating heartbreak in his late 20s, he finally decided to undertake the huge journey back to himself. He learned how to break free...

You've heard us (Ellie and Aimee) talk a lot about the live Desire on Fire Experience — but what are the actual experiences of women who have attended?     In this episode, we dive into a conversation with Jeanette, Caitlin, and Rachelle — three amazing past Desire on Fire Experience attendees. These women all came to The Experience from very different places. They were in varying seasons of life,...

This week I had the opportunity to sit down with two dear friends who are both birth goddesses and amazing mothers, Sasha and Megan, and absorb their wisdom for empowered pregnancy, birth and postpartum. Sasha is a trained midwife, relationship and sexuality coach and postpartum guide and Megan is master certified intimacy and desire expert helping people to experience better love, sex and relatio...

In this episode we go all the way back to the beginning with special guest Ashae Sundara, a feminine leadership coach and artist, to how she first got started as an entrepreneur (hint: it's very different from what she's doing now!!). We get into the nitty-gritty of what she's moved through to create a massive empire impacting thousands of women, and become a 7+ figure mentor to female leaders. We...

This week we're chatting with one of our very own Pleasure Mastery graduates, Suzan Taylor! Suzan has been on an incredible journey from being overly independent to falling in love with herself and becoming the ultimate receiving queen.    Suzan bravely opens up about her battles with burnout, depression and low self-confidence and how a single swipe on a dating app and a yoni massage transported...

It's easy to get so focused on becoming the woman you want to be that you forget to look up at your surroundings! Today's episode is all about Feng Shui and will give you the permission you may need to upgrade your space from "home" to "sanctuary."   This week's guest is our new friend Patricia Lohan — Feng Shui expert, author, and master manifester. We learn a ton about the importance of our phys...

We had an unbelievably eye-opening experience this week with our friend Kyle Mercer— master coach, guru, and the creator and founder of Inquiry Method (a powerful coaching modality that he's currently teaching inside of our Desire on Fire Apprenticeship Program).    In this episode, Kyle guides us both through somatic techniques and practices LIVE, and offers us an opportunity to release our burde...

We are relishing in sisterhood this week with a warm, illuminating episode with my friends Sheree Savage, a feminine leadership coach, and Alee Reina Hoffman, a transformational coach, on our life-changing time together at the International School of Temple Arts, Level 1 Retreat.   I open up about how I faced my fear of rejection during the retreat, and the magic I've experienced from following my...

We are flipping the script this week by giving you the male perspective with our guest, Zach Watson, who Aimee's known for almost a decade. Zach is a husband, father, accountability coach, author and is currently killing the game on TikTok, where he advocates for dad's participation in pregnancy and fatherhood.   Tune into our honest conversation on marriage, masturbation, pregnancy, addiction, ch...

Birth is the ultimate surrender… and we don't just mean birthing babies. Birth can come in many different forms in our lives through businesses, relationships, opportunities, all of which we've experienced at different points in our journeys. But this week, we're especially focused on babies!   This episode is all about birthing babies, partners, and businesses as the two of us sit down and chat a...

Want to get inspired by a badass woman truly having it all?   Our guest on the @desireonfire podcast this week is successful tech executive and philanthropist Ilana Brown, who raised $11 million dollars during the pandemic for non-profit Frontline Foods, before landing in Bali with her partner and experiencing a radical shift.   Through their travels, she dove into the world of Tantra and has sinc...

This week we speak with a dear friend and client of ours, Audrey Castonguay. In her twenties, Audrey founded and built Wholesome Culture, a multimillion dollar apparel company, from the ground up. We have an honest conversation about her struggles with burnout and chronic pain, and what she had to face in order to heal and lead a life she truly desires.    We find out:   Why she let go of a multim...

Yes… we are manifesting cute guys in coffee shops in 2022! Grab your favorite drink and get comfy because this week it's just us and we're having a catch up! In this episode, Aimee shares an update on her recent dating escapades. We speak about coming face to face with fear of rejection when approaching men, working through feelings of shyness and hesitation, and finding ways to shake off paralysi...

Is our school system currently doing a good job of educating our children around sex? Is there a right or wrong time to discuss sex with our kids? It can definitely be an awkward topic that seems easier to avoid but we're here to tell you that these conversations are beyond essential to your child's sexual development. Today we are exploring what it really means to be sex positive parents with Dr...

Do you hold shame around your kinky desires? Do you fear you and your partner are incompatible lovers? Do you crave more adventure in the bedroom? This week we're joined by Jordan Bowditch, a professional edutainer and men's coach dedicated to inspire higher truths, and Alxa Bowditch, a sex and relationship coach and the founder of That Sex Group. We discuss Alexa's suffocating Catholic upbringing...

We spent the better part of the last year creating a unique framework to help you master your biggest blocks when it comes to sex, love and relationships.    The more you understand your limiting beliefs and sabotaging behaviors when it comes to intimacy, the easier it is to attract the truly nourishing and healthy connections you crave.    In this episode, we take you behind-the-scenes to share a...

Thriving in Marriage After Hitting Rock Bottom with Joy Harrington Marriage is not always sunshine and rainbows. In this episode, we dive into a taboo topic we've never covered on the podcast before: porn addiction. Joy Harrington — coach, multi-entrepreneur, wife and mom of two (with a third on the way!) opens up about her rock bottom moment, and how the lowest low in her marriage motivated her t...