Desire on Fire

We've got another incredible Inner Circle Q&A call for you today!    As so often happens, there is a common thread that winds its way through all these powerful shares today.    Whether it's being a caretaker for an ailing family member, dealing with old patterns in your family dynamics, navigating the fear and tenderness of a new relationship, or living in the tension of taking on bold new things...

In her "before doing the work" life, this is what Tanai Milgram said about herself: My whole life, I was so proud that no guy ever hurt me, that I was always the one to run away or catch the asshole before he hurt me.    She'd left a trail of dozens of broken hearts in her wake … but she felt more alone and angry than ever.    Like a lot of girls, Tanai grew up with the conditioning that it wasn't...

It's not every day you hear about someone getting her start in the world of sexual education by opening up a sex shop with her mom — but if there's one word to describe our guests today, it's definitely "unconventional."    Amy Baldwin is a Certified Sexuality Educator with a degree in Psychology and a minor in Human Sexuality from San Francisco State University. In 2008, she opened Pure Pleasure...

Today we're giving you another peek behind-the-scenes, into a call with some of our inner circle clients.    And there must be something in the air, because this call definitely seemed to have a theme: navigating unknowns, holding tension in the in-between, and nurturing connection in our existing relationships as we're changing.    Here's something that not a lot of people talk about in transform...

If you've ever felt yourself buying into the cultural idea that sexiness, play, and pleasure fizzle after a certain age … then stop everything you're doing and listen to this episode!    Today we're thrilled to have Tantra expert and international bestselling author Laurie Handlers on the show, and what an incredible conversation this is.    Laurie is full of fire — you can feel it. It's in her bo...

We're doing something we've never done on the podcast before!    We know that real sisterhood is medicine. The vulnerability, the intimacy, the no-BS reflections — this is the stuff that heals, expands, and empowers like nothing else.    The Inner Circle is a paid membership for women that have been working with us for years: graduates of our Pleasure Mastery Program, retreats, or leadership progr...

Today we're diving deep with the sexy, playful Shaft Uddin!    At Desire on Fire, we always say that healing one area of your life never stays in that one area.    That's why when you work on expanding your desire, pleasure, and connection in your sex life, you find yourself with more of all of that in the rest of your life, too.    You begin to see powerful shifts in your romantic relationships,...

We're back after a 2-month hiatus from podcasting, blogging, promo-ing, and social media … and we're feeling GREAT.    A lot has changed in those two months. Like a LOT.   For one, we (Aimee, Ellie, Rob, and Bear) left LA and are now all living together in Austin, TX. And that's just the tip of the massive change iceberg.    Throughout the last several months, we've been slowly passing through wha...

If you're an ambitious woman like our guest today (and like both Aimee and Ellie), you might know how easy it is to confuse your work with your worth .  It's so easy to get caught up in hustle and the masculine energy of go go go that we forget ourselves — our bodies, our desires, our wellbeing. The feminine path isn't just about appreciating our amazing bodies (though that's definitely part of it...

Have you ever wished there was a 5 Love Languages … but for sex?    You know: a way to know what nourishes you in the bedroom, what turns you on (and off), what turns your partner on (and off), what would lead to the most fulfilling, most satisfying sex you could possibly have.    That's what the Erotic Blueprints deliever!    When you know your erotic blueprint, you finally have a language to und...

Are you hiding your true personal style "in the closet"? What are you denying your true style desires — because you feel like they're too much, or not enough, or that your body isn't "right" enough yet to wear what you want to wear?    Celebrity stylist Elissa Williams (and stylist for Aimee and Ellie at the Desire on Fire Experience!) believes fashion is way more than just clothes and trends.   ...

We know many of you have been following Aimee's unconventional adventures with Alex over the last three months.    From the Tantra retreat that was their first date to the 10 days in Australia that was their second, nothing about Aimee and Alex's experience has been ordinary.    Their chemistry was palpable right off the bat, their connection felt real, and they definitely shared important things...

In our culture, we tend to think of "success" as linear, and we measure it by "more" — more money, more stuff, bigger numbers, more followers, more work.    But when we look at the natural world, we don't see linearity anywhere . It's ALL seasons and cycles. Rest + work. Growing + birthing. Sowing + harvest.    So … why do we insist on running our lives by a measurement that is SO out of sync with...

If you met Danielle, you'd see an absolutely gorgeous, vivacious woman. And if you spent any amount of time talking to her, you'd immediately notice her depth, her curiosity, and her natural healing energy.    But like so many of us, she's spent a lifetime dealing with the shadow of body insecurity — picking up on societal messages, mirroring her own mother's struggles, being steeped in beauty and...

One of the foundational values of the work we do, and the work we love guiding other women through, is radical honesty.    And both of us have realized recently that we need to reconnect with this value when it comes to our struggles trying to "make it happen" with the upcoming Desire on Fire Live event at the end of October.    Because here's the deal: it's been a hard, challenging, stressful yea...

In her early 20s, Elena Rossi spent 7 years dealing with chronic vaginal pain, yeast infections, and UTIs. She saw 22 doctors, tried all kinds of meds and creams — and nothing was working. The pain was actually getting worse .   In all her visits to doctors of all kinds, all the questions were about her body. No one ever asked her about her relationship, or the quality of sex with her then-boyfrie...

If you're a Projector (or you have Projectors in your life and you want to understand/support them better) — then today's episode is for you!    In this conversation, Ellie connects with Christen Hillmer, a coach and healer who is part of Desire on Fire community. She's a recent graduate of our Apprenticeship Program— and she also happens to be a Projector.    Here's why this conversation is so im...

Is it possible to truly, genuinely, passionately love your body … AND also want to change it?    Does desiring change mean you don't fully accept your body?    In a cultural movement that's all about cultivating self-love, it can actually feel weird and shameful to want to change our bodies — whether it's by losing weight, gaining weight, working out, cosmetic procedures, or plastic surgery.    Th...

In early 2020, Jamie King was a rising star — an overnight sensation in the biz marketing world, landing 6-figure months like it was nothing and living in the limelight.    She was also falling apart — stretched way too thin, trying to be everything to everyone, traveling all the time, doing constant hustle + grind when what she really desired was to be home with her kids.    So for her, the lockd...

Waiting for Bear's arrival involved months of preparation for Ellie and her husband Rob. They had a plan for a natural birth at home, including hiring a midwife and doula, taking special birthing classes, and creating a birthing plan (complete with playlists!).    Then … the birth happened. And Bear, it seems, definitely had some different ideas about how and when he wanted to arrive in this world...

Our culture often tells one story about how relationships are "supposed" to look. It can be hard for us to feel into possibilities beyond the traditional cultural understanding of monogamy.    Non-monogamy is often portrayed as selfish, or as one partner caving to the wishes of the other — like the trope of the woman who begrudgingly agrees to a threesome so her man won't leave her.    So it's und...

Almost no experience is so universal and so painful to women as shame about our bodies.    And for millions of women, the shame about our vulvas is one of the deepest wounds we feel.    Many of us have a moment where we felt that something was wrong or broken about our pussies:    we didn't look like the images we saw porn we internalized disparaging comments from boys or men around us growing up...

To hear Maci Shelden talk today, you might never imagine where she was in her early 20s: playing the part, hanging out and drinking with high school and college friends, always bending over backwards for everyone, trying so hard to get it right and be a good girl.    Underneath it all, she felt lonely and disconnected, like she was always pretending or putting on a show. She knew there had to be m...

If you're ready to seriously up your money-manifesting mojo, then you are going to LOVE today's episode with the incomparable and magnetic Gina Swire!   Gina is an internationally acclaimed self-love expert celebrated for her humorous and transformative speaking style and wildly popular self-love courses.    And she understands — and powerfully embodies — a truth that we hold dear at Desire on Fir...

Things at Desire on Fire have been in HUGE flux this year. Have you felt it, too?!   Ellie had her baby and took maternity leave. Aimee stepped into full-time management of the company while Ellie was away. Two new roles for both of them, both large and demanding in their own ways.   They've also been feeling into something new in this time: there are areas of day-to-day management of the company...