Desire Different Podcast

Have you ever wondered if there was more science… more biology… behind the way you get turned on and how your body actually prepares for sex? In this episode, we explore exactly that. I’m opening the door into the physiology of women's arousal and some of the deeper reasons desire can feel incomplete, muted, or even blocked inside the body. This conversation also serves as your introduction to my...

In this episode, I’m talking about one of the most quietly carried experiences women have .... feeling more orgasmically responsive alone than during partnered sex. If you’ve ever wondered why your body opens faster solo, I break down the role of nervous system safety, pacing, performance pressure, and observation and why this dynamic is far more common than women admit. Nothing is wrong with your...

Of course for Valentine's Day, this one is juicy, in the most embodied, sexy way....and it's a take home one (like for tomorrow 😏) Inside this episode, I give an easy mindset shift that changes the way you perceive and feel pleasure! And no, I didn't need to release this episode earlier in the week for you to have more practice time 🤭 .... you can literally make this change overnight! Get in her...

In this episode I explore the transformative power of understanding how our bodies actually work from natural responses like sneezing, fever, and digestion… and of course, the pathways of pleasure and orgasm. When we lack body literacy, it often creates stress, fear, and disconnection. But when we begin to understand the body as responsive, intelligent, and protective, everything shifts.... includ...

A gentle conversation for women who are moving through life carrying more than they realize. In this episode, I hold space for the quiet emotional weight many women navigate .... the pressure to keep going, stay pleasant, and function …. even when something inside feels tired or off. (And of course, as I speak about us pushing through life, even when we're exhausted .... here I am, recording this...

Okay, so these myths?! Come on mayneeee....somebody is lying! I break down the myths about women’s pleasure and the misconceptions surrounding the woman's body and the g-spot. I challenge outdated beliefs that have shaped how women understand their own pleasure systems, and I speak to the natural intelligence and responsiveness built into the woman's body. I also share insights from my personal jo...

Quick Clarity Episode: I care so deeply about the work inside Becoming Orgasmic: A Pleasure Literacy Blueprint, I have to be very clear with all the questions coming in..... in this short clarity episode, I explain what this education around women’s pleasure and orgasm is....and what it is not! This education isn’t kink or performance. It’s about regular, grounded intimacy and learning how to work...

Men and women don’t experience pleasure the same way and that difference matters more than most people realize!! Like ACTUALLY!!!! In this episode, I break down how men and women's pleasure systems are wired differently, why sex is often built around the one that’s faster and easier, and what actually changes when women allow their pleasure system to lead. Here’s the part no one tells us women: no...

In this one, I explore the controversy in why even simple chats about the truth of women's pleasure and orgasm aren't more common....and how that disconnect contrasts with earlier cultures that honored women for their intuitive, sensual intelligence, even their pleasure intelligence, then it seems to have been erased or forgotten! This is a conversation about understanding, remembrance, and return...

In this episode, I share why I created this work and why so many women feel confused, disconnected, or pressured when it comes to pleasure. This is "my deal" for all the ladies that have been asking! 😉 I talk about what I was mistakenly taught and how that was damaging. I mention what most women are never taught, and how misunderstanding, not brokenness, shapes so many of our experiences with sex...

In this episode, I’m talking about something many women experience during sex but rarely feel safe naming: numbness. If you’ve ever wondered why you know you’re supposed to feel something….but your body just isn’t responding....this episode is for you!! And there's a SOLUTION! I explain why numbness during sex isn’t a personal failure, a libido problem, or a sign that something is “wrong” with you...

Society taught women that pleasure comes from harsh, aggressive conditions....that intensity equals success. That belief wasn’t chosen. It was inherited from a model that never explained how women's pleasure actually works! In this episode, we explore why one-and-done orgasms are a pleasure error for women....like climbing a mountain in terrible weather. Exhausting. Risky. Unnecessary. Orgasm...

Trying harder won’t bring you closer to orgasm. Thinking your way into pleasure doesn’t work either. In this one, I explain why willpower is the wrong access point for women's pleasure and orgasm....and how mental effort often creates tension, pressure, and shutdown in the body. Many women have been taught to focus, push, concentrate, or “get there” using the mind. But orgasm isn’t a mental ac...

In this episode, I share my personal pleasure story and the moment I realized I didn’t want anyone else telling me what kind of pleasure I was capable of. I was done with the zero orgasm bit! For years, I was handed explanations about women's pleasure that felt limiting, confusing, or disconnected from my actual body. Sex could feel good, but something was missing and I knew it wasn’t because...

Okay, THIS is where the initial error lives...in this episode I talk about the first structural error most women learn in their sex education....the assumption that our pleasure should behave like a man’s. When women are taught to model their bodies after a linear, goal-based orgasm pattern, pleasure becomes something to monitor and evaluate instead of embody! What often gets labeled as numbness,...

In this episode, I explore how performance-based sex education trained women to place their attention outside of their bodies and why that’s where disorientation begins. Because....the distraction is real! 😮‍💨 We were taught how sex should look and how to do it “right,” but not how to stay connected to what we’re feeling while it’s happening. I talk about what traditional sex education left out,...

EEEEKKKKKKKKK!!!!! 😆 This is episode 100 of Desire Different Podcast!!!!....which feels honestly a little WILD to say out loud! Okay, so Happy New Year! Happy 2026!!! So in this milestone episode ☺️ I reflect on how my work with women’s pleasure has evolved over time. Ya'll we have evolved honey! What started as teaching about pleasure/orgasm....turned into something much deeper: helping women or...

What happens when women stop trying to make pleasure happen??! In this episode, I explore what shifts when pressure and performance fall away and why forcing pleasure often disconnects us from it. We look at the difference between chasing sensation and allowing the body to respond naturally, and how receptivity and relaxation play a central role in women's pleasure systems. This conversation offer...

In this episode, we explore an important distinction many women were never taught: being physically aroused does not always mean being fully present or ready for a deeply satisfying sexual experience. Get in here.... I share why getting wet is only one small part of the conditions for great sex, and how pressure, effort, and performance can disconnect us from true pleasure. I also reflect on my ow...

Okay, in this one....I introduce a distinction most women were never given and once you see it, you’ll start noticing it everywhere in your sex life! Literally! We explore the difference between surface pleasure and deeper pleasure. And why stimulation and "short arousal" don’t always lead to fulfillment. Pleasure isn’t just a physical response, it’s an internal cascade. And when women don’t know...

In this episode, we explore one of the most common and most misunderstood challenges women face: difficulty reaching orgasm!! Bruhhhhhhhhh… I share why wanting orgasm is natural, not a sign that something is wrong with you, and how pressure, effort, and performance can actually shut down the body’s natural pleasure response. We talk about why pleasure unfolds more easily when you shift from trying...

In this episode, I explore the number one reason so many women struggle to feel pleasure and why it has nothing to do with being broken. (Because girl, you are not f***** broken!!!) 🧚🏽‍♀️ When the body is under chronic stress, emotional pressure, or constant demand, the nervous system shifts into survival mode. In this state, pleasure is basically "muted". This episode breaks down how survival m...

If you’ve ever thought “I hate sex,” this episode is for you. Many women don’t hate sex, they hate the pressure, expectation, and performance wrapped around it. When the body doesn’t feel safe, pleasure can’t open, no matter how much desire is there. This is a re-framing, not a how-to. Nothing is wrong with you, your body has been protecting you bbg! Ahhhh 🤣 , that means babygirl (I blame my seve...

This episode is a beautiful starting point for reconnecting to your orgasmic pleasure, as we continue our December Soft Reset Arc. I'll tell you all about why....people often ask me what changed in my pleasure story when I became more receptive to orgasm, and I tell them....when I stopped having sex the way a man taught me….and started becoming  literate  in my own pleasure….everything about my or...

In this episode we are sitting inside the start of our December soft reset arc...a month designed to bring you back into alignment before the new year begins! New alignment, new thought, clarity....all of the lady-like things that make us truly bling...."wait what?!" 🤭🤣 Okay so….this one is all about reclaiming yourself: your energy, your identity, your inner voice, your essence. Not by doing mo...