Deconstructing Gaslighting™

Do you like to connect with the people you’re allowing to speak into your life? Like, maybe, people whose podcast you listen to? LOL. The more we get a sense of who someone is, how they live their lives, what’s important to them, the struggles they have, etc – the more we connect with them. The more we connect with them, the more we trust them – and trust is not an easy thing to come by when it’s...

Sarah speaks to white women that consider themselves conservative Christians , who are struggling because of the internal conflict that is raging – because of the abuse of power they are witnessing. Unless people can see, and then confront the gaslighting that they have experienced, they won’t be able to see past the bullshit, and then do the wrestling they need to do in order to get out of that c...

Divorce… an experience that most often involves mediation, attorneys, judges… potentially court… and the whole process can be filled with gaslighting! In today’s episode, Sarah talks with Kim Hansen Petroni , who specializes in helping women through this very specific journey that some of us have to go through. Listen in as she shares her story, and we discuss how to navigate this difficult proces...

Are you trying to navigate dating as you are healing from gaslighting, trauma, betrayal, divorce, etc.? OR, maybe the thought of entering the dating world again scares the shit out of you! In today’s episode, Sarah brings on a dear friend who is currently navigating that scene. They discuss the things she’s learned about herself, others, AND how to navigate the shit show that dating can often end...

Have you ever found yourself in the situation with your intimate partner where you feel like you’re not experiencing the type of connection and intimacy you were expecting… in fact, you get to the point where you are basically begging for intimacy, only to be told that either you want too much, OR, that you’re at fault in some way that they are withholding?  There’s a term for that, and in to...

However you identify, can you relate to the principles in these song lyrics? I'm just a girl in the world - That's all that you'll let me be…(You know the words!)… No Doubt, Just a Girl. In today’s episode, Sarah and her guest Lauren talk about how a vacation at the beach with her family of origin brought some childhood gaslighting to the surface. You won’t want to miss the real-time “A-ha” moment...

In today’s special episode, Sarah decided to go solo and take on the topic of gaslighting in politics. If you have a topic like todays, or perhaps a question or situation that you’d like Sarah to unpack in an episode, please head over to sarahmoralescoaching.com and submit your question/topic! Word of the day: Diversion: Collins English Dictionary defines diversion as an action or event that attra...

Have you ever felt like you’re constantly putting out fires in your relationship while the other person stands and watches? How does this happen, and what part does gaslighting play in this dynamic?  Sarah unpacks that in today’s episode as she and her guest discuss how this played out in his intimate partnership. Sarah is on mission to help as many people as she can find clarity, peace, and...

Have you ever had the experience of struggling with a label that someone has put on you?  Here’s a few for you: co-dependent; too much; too sensitive; intimidating; bitchy; too needy… or maybe, sometimes you’ve found labels to be helpful… here are a few: survivor; creative, empathetic.  How do labels and gaslighting connect?  How do I know if I’m carrying around labels that are a re...

Does your gaslighter HAVE to also be a narcissist in order for you to be experiencing gaslighting? Is it an automatic connection, OR, are there other possibilities?  Can people gaslight, and NOT be a narcissist… is it possible that they may not even be high in narcissistic tendencies?  In today’s episode, Sarah unpacks her copyrighted Gaslighting Scale to help answer these oh-so-importan...

Most of us have some sort of understanding of what trauma is.  And also, far too many of us understand betrayal… but did you know that there is this whole thing called betrayal trauma? For those who have experienced it, finding those two words together is a game changer. In today’s episode, Sarah and her guest will discuss how gaslighting is pretty much ALWAYS a part of the betrayal trauma ex...

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to have a coaching session?  Or to get a gaslighting specialist take the situation you’re dealing with, unpack it for you in the moment, and help you identify that elusive, “Why does this keep happening?” or “Why can’t I seem to break the hold this has on me?” Today Sarah has a brave soul who volunteered to share her story in a little bit of a different f...

Does trying to name what IS and ISN’T gaslighting feel difficult and confusing? When you read the various definitions, and then try to apply it to your situation, do you feel lost or unsure of how to relate it back to your experience? In today’s episode, Sarah shares her definition of gaslighting, and points out a few key things that will help you have a better grasp on what gaslighting is, and wh...

In Sarah’s first full episode, she shared with y’all the story of her journey to healing and becoming a gaslighting specialist.  Today, she wanted to share the story of her transformation; of stepping fully into her power and magic as she invites you to join her new community. Click HERE to read more about the Deconstructing Gaslighting™ Seekers Community! Today’s guests are Annie and Lauren,...

Do you ever feel like there’s an imbalance in your relationship… like you’re not able (or allowed) to show up in the way you want to? In today’s episode, Sarah deconstruct how the Mr. or Mrs. Perfect role can gaslight you into settling for less than you deserve. At the time of this recording, Sarah’s about to launch a new format for her workshop that is going to make it so much more accessible!&nb...

Have you ever felt in your relationship like you go from, “I can do no wrong” to “I can’t do a damn thing right”?  There are a number of reasons why you may experience this.  In today’s episode, Sarah deconstructs how gaslighting plays a part in one such reason: the experience of “Hoovering”. At the time of this recording, Sarah’s in the middle of launching some exciting new things.&nbsp...

Have you ever found yourself questioning the ideas, opinions, or beliefs of those around you - whether that be your family, your church, your community, or even society at large – but not feel it’s OKAY to question them?  In today’s episode, Sarah deconstructs how that could be due to gaslighting.  Our guest today is the Queen of Intimacy, Jenni Rochelle! ( jennirochelle.com ; Instagram:...

Did you know that we can unknowingly gaslight OURSELVES?  Why do we do that?  How might that show up in our lives?  In today’s episode, Sarah and her guest will deconstruct one of the ways people gaslight themselves, as we talk about an example from her life. If you’re learning from the things Sarah is doing in this podcast, Sarah would like to invite you to attend her FREE workshop...

Have you ever found yourself playing the “If/then” game?  Like, “If I could only (do this better), then they wouldn’t get so upset with me”?  That can be due to experiencing gaslighting, and Sarah is here to deconstruct that for you so that you don’t fall into it anymore! If you’re listening for the first time, Sarah works with people in a variety of ways to understand gaslighting, shift...

Narcissism. Manipulation. Toxic behavior. Dark Triad. Gaslighting… all buzz words – do you ever wonder if there’s a difference, and if so, what IS the difference?  In today’s episode Sarah deconstruct her guest, Nicole’s FOO in a way that will address these questions.  If you’d like to learn more about these types of things, you are invited to attend Sarah’s FREE workshop. Read all...

Are all people who gaslight also narcissists? Have you ever wondered if it’s not that one-dimensional?  In today’s episode, Sarah deconstructs her guest’s experience in a way that will help answer these questions. My guest today is Cat Etherington. Cat is a certified professional life coach and integrative counselling practitioner. She currently serves as Director of Recovery f...

Have you ever had someone just completely ignore you, or cut off communication with you, for seemingly no reason?  And when that happened, were you like today’s guest, Haley – did you ask yourself what YOU did wrong to cause that response?  Today Sarah unpacks the pattern of Haley’s relationship with her ex to explain why we often put up with this type of behavior for FAR TOO LONG! ...

“How do I heal from gaslighting?” In today’s episode, Sarah and her guest Emily talk about the journey of connecting with her knowing, and how that translates to being able to stand her ground in the face of a gaslighting attempt.  Do you want to learn how to stand your ground, too? Check out the 12-week program Sarah created specifically for this reason! (There’s also an option for a 1:...

Have you ever said, “I used to be (so confident; more fun; more relaxed, etc)?”. In today’s episode, Sarah deconstructs how the gaslighting tactic of UNDERMINING is often the culprit for this experience as she unpacks the main dynamics in her guest Kayla’s relationship with her ex.  Word of the day: Undermine – when it comes to gaslighting, undermining is a technique often used to cause the o...

Have you ever felt like you’re the one to blame for all the problems in the relationship?  Why is that?  What is that called? In today’s episode, Sarah deconstructs a gaslighting experience, highlighting the D.A.R.V.O. method.  Join Sarah and her guest, Lauren, as they talk about Lauren’s relationship with her ex.  They’ll get specific about a trip to the mountains, and how tha...