Decoding Narcissism, Manipulation And Toxic Ideas, with Frederik Ribersson

Narcissists will take advantage of any trait we possess. And when we view a trait as "positive", we are even more vulnerable to them taking advantage of us.  Watch on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/w5rotcE5cvQ Once we understand which traits are common to "empaths", we can observe how narcissists take advantage of this, as it makes people easier to manipulate. I came across this picture of "1...

Let's examine 6 ways we can tell if someone is toxic (for us) but observing how we are reacting unconsciously to them.  Instead of debating how and why someone is toxic or is a narcissist, how about we observe how our body reacts? It is possible that our body is telling us EVERYTHING we need to know about the situation - and whether or not it is working out for us. In this video, I share 3 sy...

We know that narcissists are *like* vampires, but what if they actually literally were vampires (minus their ability to turn into bats - although we don't really know what they do when we are not looking...)? Maybe, if we knew that they sucked away our energy, drained our focus and life, and ultimately attempted to turn US into undead, maybe then we would be more careful around vampires? I mean na...

Hoovering might just be a blessing in disguise. Here's a simple technique to fight it effectively.

Be it with narcissists (or other people), this common mistake makes us more vulnerable to being easily manipulated.  But once we're aware of it, it's much easier to avoid making it - even though it may be uncomfortable. But what is the alternative? More pain and manipulation?

Note: the dialogue is intended to provide a tool to help you GET OUT of a non-sensical argument with a narcissist. It isn't recommending you start arguing with one (or recommending much else). The goal is to help you break the "spell" they might be holding over you by making their problems your problems through faulty logic. Once the spell is broken, it no longer works.  Course on Healing aft...

Why do narcissists so often get what they want? Maybe because they know the answer to this question. Knowing the question doesn't mean the answer is easy, or self evident. But not asking the question means you probably don't have the answer. Not only will it be easier for people to abuse you, you'll be MUCH less likely to be happy.

Big question! Should you forgive a narcissist? Is it even possible to forgive a toxic person? And if it is, is it desirable or necessary? In this conversation with Joshua Goldberg, we start by asking "what do we mean by forgiveness"?

Dealing with toxic people can drive us crazy as they suck us into their insanity - however it is possible to beat them at their game. Use these five tips to keep the upper hand.

Within a few minutes, I helped a client change her mindset to make a situation significantly less toxic and helped her move away from it quickly. Listen to this episode to find out how.

The first time we encounter narcissistic rage, it can be terrifying and extremely uncomfortable. But once we recognise it, it loses a lot of its power. It can be easy to spend time reviewing events wondering if, perhaps, the other person had a point and we did something that warranted this stream of abuse. In this episode I take one specific example and analyse it for your benefit. I give an overv...

Some ideas are particularly bad and unhelpful, and yield disastrous results. A few of them are quite as bad as the idea of labelling people as good or bad people, instead of observing their behaviours. By labelling people, we become blinded to facts and take sides. Those who want us to think this way are trying to control us, whether they realise it or not. Avoid this blindspot and listen to this...

We sometimes get into arguments they don’t seem to go anywhere, it can be very frustrating. It are we sure we’re not simply wrestling with a pig who is enjoying it?

How do find a partner? Make sure you do these two things (in this order). (Old episode, reuploading)

Conversation with CBT Therapist Josh Goldberg

Using the pond metaphor makes it easier to stop putting up with toxic people's pollution of our lives.

When we climb a mountain, we accept and embrace progress. But perfectionism focuses on "you're not yet at the top", making anything other than 100% a failure, regardless of progress. Perfectibility is a more helpful concept as it focuses on reducing the distance with our goal - and enjoying the process.

It is easier to establish healthy boundaries with others and respect ourselves more when we use a simple yet powerful metaphor borrowed from positive psychology. Read Jonathan Haidt's "Happiness Hypothesis" for more.