Decide Your Legacy

It’s time to make connections with new people. In this episode of the Decide Your Legacy Podcast, I explore the idea of reaching out to new people and turning them into friends or contacts. We delve into how we can view new faces as interesting people and opportunities for growth. I share experiences where I did something uncomfortable, which resulted in forming deeper connections with others. We...

It’s Mental Health Month and today we are going to delve deeper into keys to developing mental toughness. He explains its implications for life challenges, delaying gratification, building a more profitable outcome, and promoting faith in influencing your future. Today it’s going to be the actions that you can take.  On this episode we discuss: 01:22 Celebrating 100th Episode and Podcast Promotion...

On this episode of the Decide Your Legacy podcast, we discuss how to get to the root of stress to prevent it from hindering life. You’ll hear my own experience with nail-biting due to stress and fear. We’ll talk about the importance of identifying stressful situations, acknowledging the physical reactions to stress, noting the thoughts contributing to the stress, and understanding its connection t...

Sometimes things get in the way of seeing what is possible.  I used to have a great vision for a bright future back in 2015, but challenges I faced put me in survival mode and I lost sight of it.  You may feel the same way but today we are going to break down those barriers together.   On this episode we discuss: The myths that we believe The false belief that we don’t need to achieve our goals or...

Many times when I’m speaking with a client I have to engage in courageous honesty.  People will avoid things that are uncomfortable truths in their life.  Today we are going to get into several key items you won’t want to hear (but can be incredibly powerful).   On this episode we discuss: The one phrase I often preface statements with is… What are you currently avoiding The impact of avoiding thi...

Social skills can be a powerful way to develop the life you've always wanted.  In this episode we get down to how you can be more encouraging to those around you and the impact that can have on your life.  And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life (and use the code "mylifepurpose" to get $100 off)!  On this episode we discuss: The risk Adam is taking right now Why social skills matter Askin...

When I get a coach for anything, I pay for everything up front.  I do this so that I force a level of commitment that allows me to take responsibility with my life.  That responsibility is power and today we’re going to define several actions you can take right now to grab responsibility by the horns.  On this episode we discuss: What is the big challenge you struggle to take responsibility for Th...

I’ve had people in my life use manipulation to create leverage that allows them to achieve their goals.  But there is a way to handle these situations effectively to keep yourself in check.  On this episode we discuss: Who is challenging/manipulative in your life Why people resort to manipulation Don’t get sucked in Focusing on your breathing Slowing down by asking questions It is NOT about YOU Le...

Growing up I had a bully that always bothered me.  One day, I found out firsthand how taking decisive and consistent action can be transformational.  And I want you to have that same victory in your life. On this episode we discuss: How the act of spitting energized me What is that one thing you are procrastinating on? Defining the perfection trap Getting out of your head Focusing on how action wi...

There was a time when I didn’t get sleep for several nights in a row, and it really messed me up.  We underestimate the power great sleep can have on our lives and today we are going to help get better sleep.  On this episode we discuss: What are the things that interrupt your sleep? Health impacts of not getting enough sleep Get curious about something stimulating Stick with a sleep schedule (eve...

There are times when I’ve given in to the pressure to impress others.  My insecurities can cause my ego to kick in, and the ego is the enemy.  Today we are going to explore four ways to overcome your ego.  On this episode we discuss: I, me and mine perspective Ego = fear Operating out of the self instead of the ego The comparison trap Doing something kind for others, becoming a giver How pride get...

What do you do that you know is bad for you?  How are these sabotaging the future you are building?  Today we are going to give you strategies to have power over the temptations in your life.  On this episode we discuss: Understand what is holding you back You have power over your behaviors Using replacement behaviors to create new habits You have power over your emotions Learning to engage with e...

Has anyone ever asked you if you are crazy? Do you feel like your brain has clutter scattered throughout? Today we are going to break down seven different ways to declutter your life to create space.  On this episode we discuss: What is an area of your life that needs de-cluttered? The contributions of Leonardo da Vinci to society Record your thoughts Focus on the important / not-urgent tasks Get...

How would you feel if you always took the actions you wanted?  Today we’re going to cover some strategies to showing up in a way that allows you to feel great about yourself and the life you are living. On this episode we discuss: How do you beat yourself up How would you feel if you took the actions you want What happens to your inner life when you try to please others Be generous - with you trea...

It’s that time of year, many are going back to school.  In a few months the holidays will be upon us.  These events and situations can often bring social anxiety with them.  But today we are going to dive into the strategies you can use to decrease the impact social anxiety has on you.   On this episode we discuss:What social situations cause you the most fear? Why do they trigger you? Ice breaker...

Why do some people seem so self-confident?  How can you become more self-confident?  While you might think that self-confidence is something you develop first, there are actually 5 actions you can take that will bring more energy and self-confidence to your life.   On this episode we discuss: Where do you lack self-confidence The difference between confidence and self-confidence How distractions k...

This week I’m joined by my good friend Rusty.  Over the past few months, I’ve noticed a major transformation and shift in his demeanor and perspective, so I wanted him to join me to talk about how forgiveness has transformed his life.  On this episode we discuss: Rusty’s upbringing, moving from place to place The struggle with his father and recognizing the trauma Seeing the good and the bad in pe...

We regularly talk about the basics of communication and how to improve them, but I want to go beyond the basics today.  I'm going to share several secret skills that will take your communication to a deeper and stronger level with those around you.  On this episode we discuss: All the risks I'm taking (I'm doing it a lot lately) Problems that can arise from poor communication A fly-over of a few o...

Our brains are wired against us sometimes.  It tries to protect us, but often puts us on the defensive.  Today we take back our perspective and build positivity into our lives.  On this episode we discuss: Confirmation bias and negativity bias Looking for evidence that things can go right Living in the moment and enjoying it What you focus on grows Facing the core issues in your life relentlessly...

Often the circumstances in our lives can try to derail us completely.  Just a few weeks ago I was involved in a fender bender.  No one was hurt, but it could have easily caused me to give my power.  Today I want to explore four key facts to ensure that you don’t give power away to your circumstances.  On this episode we discuss: Who or what do you give your power away to? You have power over your...

I’m a fan of several sports teams: Oakland A’s and the Oregon Ducks.  But I wouldn’t classify myself as a fanatic.  Today we are going to dive into one fanatical thing you can do to make a massive impact on your life.  On this episode we discuss: What is a change you keep putting off What do you want the most Commit to one small change for 7 straight days Create clarity How will you feel with this...

Where does your time and talents go?  Where we spend these items indicates what we place a priority on.  But to remain balanced and healthy you must ensure you regularly make your own self-care a priority.  On this episode we discuss: What happens when we make our priorities Don’t let self-care become urgent and critical The danger of tunnel vision Confusing selfish v. selfless Have faith rather t...

Someone once asked me what the best advice I would give on relationships if I only had a minute.  And that question was in my head for an entire week.  Today I want to share with you my biggest two pieces of advice to mend your closest relationships.  On this episode we discuss: The damage of avoidance and withdrawal Actions v. intentions The defensiveness trigger What inconvenience communicates B...

Whenever something good happens my first reaction is surprise and excitement.  But almost immediately after, my inner monologue chimes in and starts spreading lies.  It doesn’t have to be that way and today we’ll explore why the voice exists and what you can do to make it shut up.  On this episode we discuss: The book that I recommend to so many people What is something you keep putting off? The I...

We just finished mental health month and you might be thinking about some people around you that you know are struggling.  Even though we sometimes feel like we can’t do anything, little things can make a big difference and we’re going to talk about how to provide that help.  On this episode we discuss: Learning to listen and validate others Asking open ended questions Getting your heart right Dir...