Dearest Daughters

A New Song in the Wind “From whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.” (Eph. 4:16) Dearest Daughters, Today I’m going to take a little different route with my letter. It’s nearly Christmas time, and during this season we remember al...

That they should set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God… (Psalm 78:7) My Dearest Daughters, As we rolled out the tubs, trunks, and boxes of holiday decorations this year, my thoughts returned, as they usually do, to the days when all of my children were little. The day fell, as it always does, on the Monday after our Homestead Fair. We come home tired and happy, the children all a...

You are not your own… therefore glorify God. (1 Corinthians 6:19–20) My Dearest Daughters, There is a kind of weariness that comes not from work, but from striving. Striving is what a soul does when she’s not yet sure who she is or where she belongs. A woman who knows she’s loved and placed—rooted, named, and claimed—can work very hard without becoming overwhelmed. But the woman who has not yet ac...

He tends His flock like a shepherd. He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart; He gently leads those that have young. — Isaiah 40:11 Dearest Daughters, Especially in the early years, we teach our children not just by what we say, but by who we are. Children are mirrors. But they do not simply imitate—they absorb. Their earliest sense of safety, identity, and worth comes...

He tends His flock like a shepherd. He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart; He gently leads those that have young. — Isaiah 40:11 Dearest Daughters, If we are called to be our children’s first windows to God, reflections of His love, then how do we mother in a way that shows them His face? If God is love, and we are made in His image, then we, too, must  become &...

“Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you.” — Isaiah 49:15 Dearest Daughters, For most people, their first experience of God comes through their mother. If He is love, then a child’s first taste of that love comes through her arms. God arranged the world with windows into eternity—prototypes an...

“I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. . . . In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need.” —Philippians 4:11–12 Dearest Daughters, There is a lurking danger that sometimes tiptoes into a woman’s heart, so subtle we may not notice it at first. Suspicion and coveting were the first sins to enter the world. After conversi...

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” — Galatians 5:1 (NIV) Dearest Daughters, Making excuses padlocks the gate to true repentance and overcoming. In the Bible, Aaron created a golden calf for the Israelites when they became impatient while waiting for Moses to come down from the mountain where he w...

“For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.” —Romans 12:4–5 Dearest Daughters, When one ceases to belong, she drifts like a planet with no orbit, like a note without a song. A single note blown through a clarinet or played on the piano is absolute...

“Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus: who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself of no reputation, and took upon Him the form of a servant.” — Philippians 2:5–7 Dearest Daughters, Jesus showed us what true submission looks like. He laid aside His godhood, stepped into our weakness, and served us from within our human frailty. He...

“Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in Him. He will be like a tree planted by the water… It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green.” (Jeremiah 17:7–8) Dearest Daughters, The cynic never tastes the fruit of God’s goodness, but withers in a desert of unbelief. When Israel was starving during a great famine, and the king went to kill Elisha for not inte...

“Do you not know that if you present yourselves to anyone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one whom you obey—either of sin, which leads to death, or of obedience, which leads to righteousness?” — Romans 6:16 Dearest Daughters, There is a counterfeit of submission that’s important to see clearly, because it often disguises itself as obedience. It’s called capitulation. In the military, cap...

“In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: who, being in very nature God… made Himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant.” (Phil. 2:5–7 ) Dearest Daughters, When it comes to women’s roles, especially in marriage, few words carry more discomfort in today’s world than the word,  submission  (Eph. 5:22; Col. 3:18; 1 Pet. 3:1). I understand w...

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God” (Matt. 5:9) “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth. This is how we know that we belong to the truth and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence: If our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything.” (1 John 3:18–20) Dearest Daughters, How...

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God” (Matt. 5:9) Dearest Daughters Peace is not merely the absence of noise or conflict. It is the deep tranquility that comes when design is at work—as it is in art or music. Think of a choir where every voice blends, or a symphony where each instrument plays the same piece in tune. In this kind of design, no one is in one corner plun...

“Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise; give thanks to Him and bless His name” (Psalm 100:4). Dearest Daughters, Don’t ever let your spirit degenerate into grumbling and complaining. Grumblers are destined to wander, going in circles, repeating the same failures again and again. They may try again, appear to succeed for a while, but soon enough find themselves back where the...

“He brought me out into a spacious place; He rescued me because He delighted in me.” —Psalm 18:19 Dearest Daughters, Some people look at the traditional role of a woman, mother, wife, homemaker, and see something small. They feel it must be narrow, like a hallway without windows or a life with too few options. I understand that fear. The world has painted a narrow one-dimensional picture of womanh...

“And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” — James 3:18 Dearest Daughters, Something my dad once told me has stayed with me for years. He said righteousness is when your thoughts, your words, your actions, and your relationships all line up—with each other, and with God’s purposes. It’s not just about doing the right thing; it’s about being whole. Righteousness brin...

“You also, like living stones, are being built into a spiritual house to be a holy priesthood, offering spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.” 1 Peter 2:5 (NIV)  Dearest Daughters, I’ve often been asked what the purpose of marriage is, and my heart longs to answer in a way that reaches deeper than duty or romance or even companionship. To truly understand marriage, we must...

“She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed.” — Proverbs 31:27-28 (ESV) Dearest Daughters, When you hear the word “home,” what rises in your heart? For me, it’s not just a word; it’s a feeling. A deep, almost painful tug, like something written into our very bones. After a long trip, a hard day, or even a hospital s...

Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. —Romans 12:9–10 (NASB / NIV)  Dearest Daughters, There’s an old story about the word “sincere.” It is said that it comes from the Latin  sine cera —“without wax”—and was used to describe a marble sculpture. A piece was considered sincere if it had n...

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” — Colossians 3:12–14 (NIV)  Dearest Daughters,...

“God has chosen the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God has chosen the weak things of the world to shame the strong." (1 Corinthians 1:27)  My Dearest Daughters, Marriage is not a place for us as human beings to shine—it’s a place for God to shine. Scripture tells us, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my strength is made perfect in weakness” (2 Cor. 12:9). This means that the ve...

“He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together.” Colossians 1:17 Dearest Daughters, As I shared in my previous letter, the role of a wife and mother is meant to be a dance—a dance to the rhythm and music of our Maker. But to dance well, a woman must have extraordinary balance and proprioception. A trained dancer can hold an arabesque on one leg, complete multiple turns with control,...

Teach me to do Your will, for You are my God; May Your good Spirit lead me on level ground. Psalm 143:10 Dearest Daughters, I often think of the calling of womanhood—of being a wife, a mother, a servant of Christ—as being something like the role of a dancer. Motherhood, for one, quite literally keeps you on your toes. But beyond that, there’s a kind of sacred choreography to this life we’ve been g...