Dear Young Married Couple

We all need connection and we aren't designed to get that solely from our spouse, hence the reason we got asked this question. ♥️⁠ In this episode, we share some easy-to-learn tips for gaining friends and keeping them. ♥️⁠ Here's the link to How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. ♥️⁠ Are you enjoying these mini ASK episodes with your voices recorded in them?⁠ You can record your...

In today's episode, we featured another question from YOU! "How can a spouse learn to be more empathetic when they were not shown empathy growing up?" We have three answers for you, so listen in on this quick 10-minute episode! :)   Are you enjoying these mini ASK episodes with your voices recorded in them?⁠ You can record your own question for our next episode here:   Connect with us on IG/FB: @d...

"My generation was raised by pornography. When it comes to learning sexuality, porn was our parent. Porn was our substitute girlfriend. Porn was our Sex Ed teacher. More importantly, it became our pacifier.⁠" - Drew Boa, MA Drew Boa is passionate about helping men become porn-free before marriage and he runs the "Husband Material" programs (links below). In today's episode, he shares a method to h...

To all of the busy couples in our tribe: this one is for you! Pastor Yuri Sangueza and Dr. Cami Allard Sangueza, a Pastor-Psychologist couple in Norway, join us in a discussion about avoiding burnout in your marriage and it's chalk-full of excellent tips. We cover: Symptoms of Burnout Identity in Ministry Asking for Help Sleep Hygiene Practical Tips for Self-Care Yuri and Cami recommended: Journal...

This is a multifaceted question (and a question that we receive a lot here at DYMC), but we cover what the answer to this question ultimately comes down to in today’s ASK episode on the #DYMCpodcast.⁠   Are you enjoying these mini ASK episodes with your voices recorded in them?⁠ You can record your own question for our next episode here:   Connect with us on IG/FB: @dearyoungmarriedcouple www.dear...

"In the premarital stage, what are some good boundaries to have sexually?" When we get this question, we like to use a model called "The Dating Ladder" to answer it. We got the idea from our friends over at Moral Revolution (they dubbed it "The Intimacy Ladder" and we expound upon it in today's episode on the #DYMCpodcast).⁠   This question was asked from the SpeakPipe (where your recorded voice i...

One of you asked this question on our SpeakPipe, and we thought it was important to clarify a better question to ask. Listen in to hear the better question and let us know your thoughts by commenting below.   Record YOUR question for our next ask episode here on SpeakPipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/dearyoungmarriedcouple   Connect with us on IG/FB: @dearyoungmarriedcouple www.dearyoungmarriedcoupl...

"Don’t wait to give until you get... It goes both ways: don’t wait to have sex with your partner until they’re doing all the things outside the bedroom. On the other hand, don’t wait to do things outside the bedroom until you’re getting the sex you want inside the bedroom.⁠⁠ It’s important for couples to work on meeting these needs so that they can move TOWARD each other." - Dr. Morgan Cutlip Toda...

"I worked with women when they’d come in for their annuals and I'd ask them, 'How is it going with your sex life?' Sometimes, they would tense up and wouldn't want to talk about it. Then, I started thinking to myself, 'Wow! Sexual dysfunction is far larger of a problem than I realized when I was in school.'" - Kimberly Mathis Listen in to what the medical professionals have to say about sexual aro...

"We’re so open about sharing our story, as many times and as often as necessary, because if one more person can realize this happens, that this is a thing and that they can get out of it, then it’s so worth it." - Cole and Cait Zick, Directors of Moral Revolution   In this episode, Cole and Cait share their story of having entirely different upbringings around sex and sexuality, how they merged th...

If you're looking to destress your life/marriage and if you like having clear, practical steps, this podcast is for you!  It consists of 5 tips to simplify your life, explained thoroughly and practically by the lovely minimalist, Shelley Coon. We like to think of her tips as "attainable minimalism". :)   Shelley recommended: Evernote Going Paperless (blog post) Free to Focus by Michael Hyatt Full...

How can we have empirical data to back up the claims we make or advice we give about something so subjective (like relationships)? Hear all about that in this episode as we interview Don and Carrie Cole, Licensed Professional Counselors and Directors of the Gottman Institute. Don and Carrie share incredible research from the most robust marriage studies ever done, involving 40+ years of observing...

We go deep "real quick" in this episode, answering these questions: What role do SMELLS play in physical intimacy? Is it normal to have sexual TEMPTATION as a married Christian man? How do I deal with a very ANGRY spouse? Come join us as we dive even further into like topics at our Monthly LIVE Date Night! (Next one is September 11th @ 5pm-6:30pm PDT and it's called Your Brain, Your Body, and the...

Anthony and Kelli are a Student Pastor and Teacher/RN in Tennessee who have a 1-year-old baby girl. In this episode, they talk about how to keep your marriage alive with an infant. They discuss: Co-Sleeping and Sleep Training Date Nights Traveling before Baby Traveling Alone after Baby PDA Speaking Highly of your Spouse You can reach Anthony and Kelli: IG: @kelli.danielle E-mail: kellimccool91@gma...

"Having been married for only 3 weeks, we were just home from our honeymoon, unpacking, building our new life, and excited for our first home. We were on track. We were headed toward our goals. We were right on schedule. I was a nurse and Kevin had just started his third year of medical school. In an instant, it all changed. An explosion in our home initiated the scariest challenge ever given: the...

"When we talk about scheduling sex, we’re not necessarily saying Tuesday at 9:07pm. Scheduling sex is looking at how frequently the two of you want to have sex and then saying, ‘Okay. What does it look like to start dividing up the week?’⁠" This episode addresses the common debate around scheduling sex. Join in on the conversation we have with the amazing creators of One Extraordinary Marriage, To...

When you constantly live in your adaptive self so that you don't have to risk being rejected, you might be safer -- but you might also be limiting yourself big time.   Today, we had the honor of interviewing our mentor and coach, Andrew Bentley. In this episode, he shares key insights for folks who aren't satisfied with settling and he gives practical tips for taking action now!   Andrew Bentley r...

Your marriage deserves a retreat! DYMC VIRTUAL MARRIAGE RETREAT: August 14-15, 2020 DYMC COUPLES CRUISE: June 14-18, 2021   We can't wait to hang out with you at two upcoming events:   DYMC VIRTUAL MARRIAGE RETREAT: This LIVE event is just around the corner, so be sure to register right away! August 14-15, 2021 - just $37 Learn 5 Communication and Conflict Resolution Tools Talk Confidently about y...

Ever wonder why your spouse doesn't receive your feedback well? In this episode, you'll learn lots of tips for how to make sure you're actually giving feedback and not criticism.     Our guests for today's episode are Aaron and Jocelyn Freeman of The Empowered Couples Podcast and authors of "The Argument Hangover".     They cover everything "Conflict Resolution" in this episode as they share helpf...

In today's episode, we have a conversation with Yvette Kumar, LMFT about how anxiety impacts us as individuals and how it can affect the marriage.     Yvette teaches several practical tools for overcoming anxiety and all from a Christian perspective.     Yvette recommended: The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel The Assertiveness Guide for Women by Julie de Azevedo Hanks The Assertiveness Workbook...

In last week's episode, we shared some tips for speaking about difficult topics like SEX and MONEY. This week, we're sharing some tips for how to listen and understand when your spouse does bring something up.   Here's the link to our upcoming live VIRTUAL MARRIAGE RETREAT: https://event.webinarjam.com/register/1/n6075a7    Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our webs...

Sex and Money - two topics of conversation that often get you to shut down or heat up (maybe in more ways than one?). If you're going to bring up a conversation that you think could cause some more-than-normal tension, trigger unpacked emotions, or even some pain, it's important to let your spouse know that you're going to throw the ball. If you don't give them the heads-up, you might hit them in...

  Whether you think you're married to someone from a different culture than your own or not, this podcast is for you! The truth is, we all come from different family cultures, and when we marry someone, we're faced with many challenges of adopting, adapting, or dismissing various family traditions and norms that we bring into the marriage. In today's episode, Jonathan and Tiffany Bonilla, youth pa...

Rachael was born by artificial insemination to two moms and moved every few years while Montie grew up witnessing the outgrowth of "street life" and the conflicts that surround gang culture - their story about changing generational patterns in your marriage is one you don't want to miss. “One of the biggest impacts for both us, even when we were just dating, was going to families’ houses in the ch...

"Looks actually do matter," says Pastor Myron Wideman Jr., in reference to looking for a potential spouse. Myron is Karissa's former student in the Bachelor of Science in Human Development Program at Wilson University and he earned a concentration in Counseling. He's also the Associate Pastor at Dekalb UPC in Stone Moutain, GA (Metro Atlanta Area). In this episode, we discuss: Biblical Perspective...