Dear Young Married Couple

We can only hope that you will be as blessed as we were by this interview we had with the New York Times best-selling author, Dr. Gary Chapman. Dr. Chapman is best known for his book "The Five Love Languages", but many of you were curious about things that you didn't see in the book, so we shot your questions to him in this 30-minute conversation. You can discover your love language by taking the...

🎉 BIG ANNOUNCEMENT! Coming to an Amazon near you in February: FUNDAMENTOS Baraja de cartas 🎉 ♥ You guys! We can't tell you how excited we are for this project to come to fruition. So many of you have asked about the DYMC card decks being available in Spanish because you have a spouse, friends, or family members who don't know English, but would love this resource. This has been in the works for...

3 Blended Family Pitfalls that Can Destroy a Marriage: Putting your children before your spouse Reactive instead of proactive communication Thinking you’re alone in the storm Cynthia shares practical solutions for each of these challenges in this episode. Listen in to become equipped as a blended family.   You can contact Cynthia at: www.imaginemeefc.com IMCynthia@imaginemeefc.com (916) 272-0950  ...

"But when you turn off your emotions to the people you love, all it does is create distance. Especially us, as men. We tend to turn off all emotion, even when we don’t need to. That used to be me, but it all changed after I found myself on Ground Zero as a firefighter during 9/11.⁠ ♥️⁠ The NYC fire department lost 343 firefighters. Being there on that day was like being on another planet. I saw so...

In this episode, Adam and Karissa reflect back on October 8, 2007 - a date that Adam was 10 minutes from death and called Karissa while stuck in the cab of an old truck at the bottom of a 40-ft ravine (while his lung filled up with blood). Listen in to hear the story and lessons learned.   Hope you'll join us LIVE on 1/15/21 @ 5:30pm where we'll share a template for YOUR goal setting session and w...

Every year between 12/26 and 12/31, we sit down with intentionality and map out new habits for each area of our life and marriage - including our sex life! Hope you'll join us LIVE on 1/15/21 @ 5:30pm where we'll share a template for YOUR goal setting session and we'll share OUR 2021 goals. :)   Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcoup...

Don't get so caught up with the holiday hurry that you miss out on sweet moments with each other. Try these 5 things to stay connected with your lover this week!   Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com   Join us for the next Monthly Live Date Night where we dig into some of these topics with you LIVE for 90 minutes this month!...

In this episode, we interview Nick and Amy McKinlay, the creators of the Christian marriage app, @ultimateintimacyapp. This couple figured out how to attain and maintain ultimate intimacy, so they created an app for it so that they could help many more couples on this journey!   Hear their story about how they went from quantity sex to quality sex after having four children.    You can reach Nick...

4 LOVES Crewneck Sweaters available here.  ♥️⁠ In English, we can love vegan tacos, our golden doodle, Christmas lights, Jeeps, our spouse, and God -- but we call it all "love". The Bible, however, uses FOUR different Greek concepts of love:⁠ ♥️⁠ 1. storge // affection love⁠ 2. philia // friendship love⁠ 3. eros // romantic love⁠ 4. agape // selfless love⁠ ♥️⁠ We dive into each of these on today's...

In this interview, we interview Christian apologist Nancy Pearcey on her new book, Love Thy Body. Yes, the title is a little shocking to some, but it is, as she argues, the biblical point of view. The body is created by God and is good. Down through the centuries, as secularism has taken root, the reverence for the body as God's creation has been displaced. We explore these topics along with askin...

"If you’re hesitant in moving forward with your relationship because it might take away from your degree, then you might need to take a step back and think about several other things going on in your relationship.⁠ ♥️ When you make the decision to get married while in school, you have to make it as a team. You need to have the mentality that says, ‘I’ll be there for you.’ or ‘I’ll go back to schoo...

“My biggest piece of advice for the wedding night: Don’t aim for intercourse, aim for arousal.⁠ ♥️⁠ Christian women experience sexual pain at twice the rate of the general population… so this is OUR problem. I think a large part of that is due to the rushing for intercourse on the wedding night, even if she’s been looking forward to sex her whole life.⁠ ♥️⁠ The reason we tell dating couples to avo...

We all need connection and we aren't designed to get that solely from our spouse, hence the reason we got asked this question. ♥️⁠ In this episode, we share some easy-to-learn tips for gaining friends and keeping them. ♥️⁠ Here's the link to How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. ♥️⁠ Are you enjoying these mini ASK episodes with your voices recorded in them?⁠ You can record your...

In today's episode, we featured another question from YOU! "How can a spouse learn to be more empathetic when they were not shown empathy growing up?" We have three answers for you, so listen in on this quick 10-minute episode! :)   Are you enjoying these mini ASK episodes with your voices recorded in them?⁠ You can record your own question for our next episode here:   Connect with us on IG/FB: @d...

"My generation was raised by pornography. When it comes to learning sexuality, porn was our parent. Porn was our substitute girlfriend. Porn was our Sex Ed teacher. More importantly, it became our pacifier.⁠" - Drew Boa, MA Drew Boa is passionate about helping men become porn-free before marriage and he runs the "Husband Material" programs (links below). In today's episode, he shares a method to h...

To all of the busy couples in our tribe: this one is for you! Pastor Yuri Sangueza and Dr. Cami Allard Sangueza, a Pastor-Psychologist couple in Norway, join us in a discussion about avoiding burnout in your marriage and it's chalk-full of excellent tips. We cover: Symptoms of Burnout Identity in Ministry Asking for Help Sleep Hygiene Practical Tips for Self-Care Yuri and Cami recommended: Journal...

This is a multifaceted question (and a question that we receive a lot here at DYMC), but we cover what the answer to this question ultimately comes down to in today’s ASK episode on the #DYMCpodcast.⁠   Are you enjoying these mini ASK episodes with your voices recorded in them?⁠ You can record your own question for our next episode here:   Connect with us on IG/FB: @dearyoungmarriedcouple www.dear...

"In the premarital stage, what are some good boundaries to have sexually?" When we get this question, we like to use a model called "The Dating Ladder" to answer it. We got the idea from our friends over at Moral Revolution (they dubbed it "The Intimacy Ladder" and we expound upon it in today's episode on the #DYMCpodcast).⁠   This question was asked from the SpeakPipe (where your recorded voice i...

One of you asked this question on our SpeakPipe, and we thought it was important to clarify a better question to ask. Listen in to hear the better question and let us know your thoughts by commenting below.   Record YOUR question for our next ask episode here on SpeakPipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/dearyoungmarriedcouple   Connect with us on IG/FB: @dearyoungmarriedcouple www.dearyoungmarriedcoupl...

"Don’t wait to give until you get... It goes both ways: don’t wait to have sex with your partner until they’re doing all the things outside the bedroom. On the other hand, don’t wait to do things outside the bedroom until you’re getting the sex you want inside the bedroom.⁠⁠ It’s important for couples to work on meeting these needs so that they can move TOWARD each other." - Dr. Morgan Cutlip Toda...

"I worked with women when they’d come in for their annuals and I'd ask them, 'How is it going with your sex life?' Sometimes, they would tense up and wouldn't want to talk about it. Then, I started thinking to myself, 'Wow! Sexual dysfunction is far larger of a problem than I realized when I was in school.'" - Kimberly Mathis Listen in to what the medical professionals have to say about sexual aro...

"We’re so open about sharing our story, as many times and as often as necessary, because if one more person can realize this happens, that this is a thing and that they can get out of it, then it’s so worth it." - Cole and Cait Zick, Directors of Moral Revolution   In this episode, Cole and Cait share their story of having entirely different upbringings around sex and sexuality, how they merged th...

If you're looking to destress your life/marriage and if you like having clear, practical steps, this podcast is for you!  It consists of 5 tips to simplify your life, explained thoroughly and practically by the lovely minimalist, Shelley Coon. We like to think of her tips as "attainable minimalism". :)   Shelley recommended: Evernote Going Paperless (blog post) Free to Focus by Michael Hyatt Full...

How can we have empirical data to back up the claims we make or advice we give about something so subjective (like relationships)? Hear all about that in this episode as we interview Don and Carrie Cole, Licensed Professional Counselors and Directors of the Gottman Institute. Don and Carrie share incredible research from the most robust marriage studies ever done, involving 40+ years of observing...

We go deep "real quick" in this episode, answering these questions: What role do SMELLS play in physical intimacy? Is it normal to have sexual TEMPTATION as a married Christian man? How do I deal with a very ANGRY spouse? Come join us as we dive even further into like topics at our Monthly LIVE Date Night! (Next one is September 11th @ 5pm-6:30pm PDT and it's called Your Brain, Your Body, and the...