Dear Young Married Couple

💔 Can you love God deeply and still be angry with Him? When life takes a devastating turn, it’s hard to reconcile a good God with a world full of suffering. Adam is not afraid to tackle questions that many Christians are afraid to ask. Listen in as he uses his background in philosophy and theology to explore free will, God’s sovereignty, and the hope of eternity. If you’ve ever wrestled with “Why...

🙏🏼 Ever feel like you’re carrying the weight of your child’s entire spiritual path while constantly refereeing daily household chaos? Listen in as Dr. Charles Fay joins Karissa and Adam to completely revamp the way we think about modern parenting. We'll unpack why forced behavioral compliance falls short of true heart transformation, and how allowing kids to navigate affordable mistakes today bu...

❤️‍🩹🤷‍♂️ Are you and your spouse struggling to find a physical rhythm after a season of broken trust and rebuilt boundaries? Let's start by tossing out those restrictive labels of "high" and "low" libido and replace it with a different concept. Resources: Sexpectations Card Deck: https://www.amazon.com/stores/DearYoungMarriedCouple/page/3166BD9F-FD56-46B5-80D5-F5C64710F492?lp_context_asin=B083RK...

😵‍💫 What happens when the blessing you prayed for brings unexpected sadness, stress, or loneliness? We had Melissa Miller on the podcast to explore the emotional complexity of marriage, adoption, relocation, new parenthood, and other life transitions that can be wonderful and overwhelming at the same time. Let's unpack why gratitude doesn’t cancel out grief, how to support a spouse who is strugg...

🎙️💬 Get ready for an unfiltered, listener-driven Q&A where we tackle your most vulnerable relationship hurdles! We dive deep into navigating culture clashes at home, de-escalating arguments with a highly sensitive spouse, and handling the heavy reality of lacking physical attraction to your spouse. Resources: Intercultural Marriage w/ Tiffany & Jonathan Bonilla https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podca...

🔥💍 Which pieces of “good marriage advice” are actually helpful, and which ones might quietly make your marriage worse? We are back to rate the advice YOU submitted, from “the first year is the hardest” to “forgive and forget,” “marriage is 50/50,” and even the controversial question of whether a husband should be allowed to golf whenever he wants. 😅 Along the way, we'll unpack the nuance behind...

😬 Not all marriage advice deserves an A. In this episode, Adam and Karissa put seven common pieces of marriage advice to the test - from “marriage is all about compromise” to “happy wife, happy life” - and give each one a grade. Some sound wise but need a little more nuance, some are surprisingly solid, and a few might actually be setting couples up for disaster. Come find out which advice gets a...

Most of us have confidence all WRONG (especially in today's self-righteous and entitled culture.) Why do you think even highly successful people starve for validation? How secure are you in the possibility of failure? Let's explore the difference between chasing approval, trying to manufacture your own worth, and receiving an identity that doesn't have to be earned. Resources: Monthly Live Date Ni...

We've all done it... We've labeled ourselves and our spouse as the "high/low drive" one. We assume one party can get it on at any given time and the other just generally isn't in the mood. The truth is, it's much more complex than that. In this episode, we're gonna share a simple tool that will take you minutes to complete, but give you so much insight into each others' desire for sex. Resources:...

🛡️📱 When should "the" conversation start, and what happens if we wait too long? Do you know the danger of some of the seemingly "innocent" games your kids are playing online? Hear author and educator Kristen Jenson  unpack one of the most important parenting conversations of our time. Whether your child is a toddler, tween, or somewhere in between, this episode will equip you with confi...

You can genuinely care about your spouse, say all the “right” things, and still leave them feeling completely alone. In this episode, we explore why empathy can sometimes feel fake, how your spouse’s emotions stir up emotions in you, and the subtle difference between holding space and simply trying to make the moment end. What looks like listening may actually be fixing, defending, or even overval...

🏡 We’re moving and chasing a God-sized dream. This isn’t a story about running away from California. It’s about moving toward the life, ministry, and vision we believe God has been leading us toward for years. We talk about the grief of leaving our home, church, family, and friends; the “breadcrumbs” that helped us recognize God’s direction; and why Nashville gives us a better opportunity to serv...

📖 TODAY'S THE DAY! Hard copies are available on Amazon! You can get it on your doorstep as early as tomorrow. After years of conversations, counseling, rewriting, and refining, we are pulling back the curtain on what creating Dear Young Married Couple taught them about strengthening our own marriage. Whether you're building a dream together or simply trying to build a stronger relationship, this...

🤖 Is AI a good substitute for marriage counseling? We say no (shocking, right?) 😆 ChatGPT is designed to reinforce assumptions, whether they're accurate or not, and deliver confident answers that aren't always wise. In this episode, we unpack why turning to AI for relationship advice can sometimes deepen misunderstandings instead of bringing healing. That doesn't mean AI is all bad, though. Used...

📖 A dream years in the making is finally becoming reality! Dear Young Married Couple: Letters & Tools for the Fights, the Fun, the Sex, and the Soulwork is available for pre-order in the Kindle version. Hard copies drop 7/7! Pre-order the ebook here and get the audiobook for FREE when it's available! https://a.co/d/02yhAD8O See where we're headed on our book tour! We'd love to meet you !🚗 https:...

What does it really take to build a lasting ministry without sacrificing your marriage, family, or personal well-being along the way? JD and Lori Pearring pull back the curtain on the hidden challenges many leaders face from blind spots and burnout to finances, calling, and emotional health. Resources: Excel Leadership Network https://excelnetwork.org/blog LoriPearringLMFT@gmail.com Dear Young Mar...

💔 Betrayal doesn’t just break trust. It shatters the entire sense of safety a marriage was built on. So what does real repair actually look like? Let's unpack the three actions that help rebuild what was lost after a breach of trust. If you're tired of surface-level advice and wondering how trust is rebuilt in the real world, this conversation offers a practical roadmap for the long road back to...

🔥In a culture where pride is often celebrated as a virtue, what if it's actually the thing holding us back? In this conversation with Pastor Josh Melancon, we unpack the hidden ways pride can shape our marriages, leadership, parenting, and spiritual growth without us even realizing it. From learning how to receive hard feedback to uncovering the wounds that drive our behavior, Pastor Josh shares...

⛪️ Ministry can look fruitful on the outside while quietly draining the people you love most at home. Adam & Karissa had the privilege of sitting down with Kevin & Chassidy Allen to discuss how couples can stay connected when life feels nonstop. This episode is packed with wisdom for leaders, pastors, and couples trying to balance calling, family, and emotional health without losing themselves in...

🧠❤️ What if your desires aren’t the problem, but rather the roadmap? Listen to Adam, Karissa, and Jay Stringer unpack why so many marriages feel stuck between suppression and self-indulgence - from purity culture and porn struggles to emotional intimacy, self-sabotage, family dynamics, and the hidden stories shaping our marriages. If you’ve ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns o...

This is one of our most listened to podcasts of all time! The reason? EVERY COUPLE argues. Aaaaand, arguments can be great & productive if they are done correctly. Have your arguments been going nuclear? Join Adam + Karissa as they share a tool to rescue your toxic arguments, along with some simple, easy steps to apply it! Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our websi...

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 This post BLEW UP! A couple weeks ago, we made a post on IG about prioritizing your spouse over every other relationship.... including your kids. Aaaaand it got some pushback.  In this episode, we unpack the tension around prioritizing your spouse and bring clarity to what “putting your marriage first” actually means (hint: it’s not about neglecting your kids). If you’ve ever felt like...

👩🏻‍❤️‍👨🏽 Submission is a hot topic because it's often misinterpreted, ignored, or distorted. In this conversation with Cornelius J. Williams, we unpack a fresh, thought-provoking framework: what it really looks like to surrender your mind, will, and pride to God and each other in marriage. Let's get honest about the messy middle where faith meets everyday decisions. If you’ve ever wrestled wit...

😰 When your body sounds the alarm, you feel out of control, and you can't even identify what triggered it, you may be having a panic attack. In this episode, we’re unpacking panic attacks -- what they are (and aren’t), why they can feel so intense and out of nowhere, and how fear can quietly fuel the cycle. You’ll hear Karissa's personal story, learn how panic connects to your mind, body, and spi...

💥 What if your fights aren’t actually the problem… but the doorway to something better? In this conversation with Dr. Les Parrott, we unpack why some arguments quietly tear couples apart while others can actually bring you closer. You’ll walk away with a simple but powerful shift: learning to see your spouse’s world from the inside out. Grab the free relationship assessment at https://www.myheart...