Dear MK

Do you ever feel like your mind won't stop replaying conversations, imagining worst-case scenarios, or convincing you that your fears are facts? In this solo episode, Mya explores how anxiety creates mental loops, why our brains crave certainty, and practical mindset shifts to help separate your identity from your anxious thoughts. If you've ever felt trapped in overthinking, this episode...

In this week’s mini solo episode, Dakota dives into all things Love Island. She spots instances of gaslighting and manipulation, questions the men, and asks if Kenzie is actually doing anything wrong. If we look at Love Island as its own experience separate from real dating, where do we draw the lines between what’s okay and what isn’t? Instagram - Stop Slut Shaming Kenzie  TikTok - The Madonna Wh...

In this girls’ catch-up episode, Mya and Dakota sit down to talk about all the exciting life updates happening lately, including Mya’s engagement, wedding planning, and the unexpected pressures that can come with such a big milestone. They chat about navigating other people’s opinions, staying true to what feels right for you, and the emotions that come with entering a new chapter. Plus, they dive...

Over the past several months, Mya experienced one of the hardest mental health seasons of her life—and then everything began to change. In this personal episode, she shares her journey through depression, major life transitions, identity shifts, boundary-setting, and the ways she's made meaning of it all through intuition, spirituality, and astrology. Here's what she's learned about gr...

In this mini solo episode, Dakota explores the way sexualization changes with physical context, leaving women to compensate to create their own safety. As the weather warms, uniforms and patterns change, but why does the temperature outside dictate our feelings of safety rather than just our physical comfort? Why are we constantly conscious of what we’re wearing? Why do we only feel safe when we c...

On this episode of Dear MK: Safe Space Interviews , Mya and Dakota interview Olivia about her experience living with endometriosis and navigating a healthcare system that often dismisses women’s pain. Together, they explore the emotional and physical impact of living with a chronic reproductive condition, including the long journey many people face to receive a diagnosis and proper care. Olivia sh...

In this episode of Dear MK, Mya and Dakota discuss the realities of safely leaving an abusive relationship and why escaping abuse is often far more complicated than people understand. They break down safety planning, preparing a go-bag, documenting abuse, legal advocacy resources, and ways survivors can protect themselves while navigating dangerous situations. This conversation is centered on empo...

In this episode of Dear MK, Mya and Dakota unpack the viral article “Men aren’t needed anymore, and they’re struggling to adapt to being wanted” by Olivia Barbulescu. They dive into modern dating, emotional labor, masculinity, and the difference between being needed versus genuinely chosen in relationships. This conversation challenges traditional ideas of usefulness, partnership, and what healthy...

This episode is part of Mya and K’s Back to Basics series, where they’re having the conversations everyone needs—but not everyone is having. This is one you can come back to, save, and share with the people in your life <3 In this episode, they’re talking about what it really looks like to share your story and the complex decision of reporting sexual assault. Mya and K break down the stigmas su...

In this episode, Mya and Dakota break down a shocking CNN investigation exposing online communities where men are drugging and assaulting their partners — sharing, normalizing, and even teaching this abuse. They unpack how these “rape academy” spaces operate, the role of technology and porn culture, and why these crimes are so difficult to report and prosecute. Through powerful survivor stories, t...

This episode is part of Mya and K’s Back to Basics series, where they’re having the conversations everyone needs—but not everyone is having. This is one you can come back to, save, and share with the people in your life <3 In this episode, they’re speaking directly to the person who’s questioning their relationship, because abuse doesn’t always look the way you expect it to. Mya and K break dow...

This episode is a back-to-basics conversation—one you can come back to, save, and share with the people in your life. We’re talking about how to support a friend who is in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, and the reality of how hard that can feel. We break down how to recognize the signs, what to say (and what not to say), and how to support someone without losing yourself in the process. Whe...

Why is it so easy to be kind to everyone else, but so hard to be kind to ourselves? In this solo episode, Mya is getting real about self-criticism, the pressure to always be “doing more,” and the quiet moments where we don’t feel like enough. Through reflection, reframing, and a guided self-compassion meditation, this is your space to slow down, soften, and start treating yourself with the same lo...

In this episode, Mya and Dakota explore why so many women are socialized to doubt their own reality — from internalized self-doubt to the impact of gaslighting culture, microaggressions, and societal expectations. They break down what social conditioning is and how messages from family, media, and lived experiences shape the way women see themselves, their worth, and their place in relationships a...

In this episode of Dear MK , MK takes a deep, trauma-informed look at the viral and highly controversial situation involving Taylor Frankie Paul and Dakota Mortensen. As footage from a past domestic violence incident circulates widely online, MK unpacks not only what viewers are seeing, but what they may be missing. MK explores the psychological dynamics that can exist within abusive relationships...

In this solo episode, Mya explores how to find, cultivate, and enjoy glimmers. Coined by Deb Dana and explained in her book "The Polyvagal Theory," glimmers refer to small moments when our biology is in a place of connection or regulation, which cues our nervous system to feel safe or calm. Mya explains the difference between triggers and glimmers, then walks you through a moment of mind...

Mya and Dakota continue their Survivor’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Sex Life by shifting to a candid conversation about the Orgasm Gap and why it’s still very real for straight women today. While there are many factors behind it, they explain that the biggest reasons still come down to a lack of sex education, media and culture influencing modern sexual expectations, discomfort around talking about...

In this solo episode, Dakota breaks down last week's episode about sex after trauma even further, explaining that not all sexual trauma comes from assault. She discusses the construction of sex as an idea and how that impacts us, especially when we are young. She shares her own stories of sexual discomfort and how she has (recently) been able to identify the trauma they created. She ends with shar...

In this episode, Mya and Dakota explore what it looks like to reclaim your sex life after abuse. Inspired by a training from licensed psychotherapist Vanessa Marin, they unpack the impacts of trauma on intimacy, including dissociation, triggers, hyper vigilance, body image struggles, difficulty saying no, low desire, and sexual concordance. They talk about how trauma can disconnect you from your b...

Valentine’s Day can be romantic, disappointing, chaotic, or completely ordinary … and of course, Mya and Dakota are talking about all of it! In this episode, they share their best and worst Valentine’s memories, most delusional situationship moments, and the times they accepted less than they deserved. Mya and Dakota are also reading your write-ins and unpacking the expectations vs. reality of thi...

In this episode, Mya and Dakota unpack DARVO — the manipulation tactic of deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender — and how it shows up in relationships, systems, and the media. They talk about why naming these patterns matters, how DARVO impacts survivors’ mental health, and why it can be so disorienting to experience. In honor of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, this conversation is a...

Healing is a word we hear everywhere — but what does it actually mean? In this episode, Mya starts with an honest, solo reflection on what healing means to her. It’s an ongoing process of awareness, compassion, and choice. Dakota then joins the conversation, and they explore signs that parts of you may still be asking for healing and nurturing, including: feeling disposable or easily replaceable,...

In this solo episode, Mya names the collective weight so many of us are carrying right now socially, politically, emotionally, and holds space for what it means to live and grow in a world that feels increasingly overwhelming. Through a mental health and trauma-informed lens, she reflects on generational pressure, nervous system responses to constant exposure, and the battle between staying inform...

Season 3 of Dear MK is here. In this first episode back, Mya and Dakota check in, reintroduce the heart of the podcast, and share where they’re really at as they step into a new year and new seasons of life. Dakota opens up about using her real name after previously being known as “K,” and together they talk honestly about mental health, healing, boundaries, and how growth can change the way relat...

In this episode, Mya and K get real about the internal struggle so many of us feel: Should we be “savoring” our single era or locking in our forever person? Should we want the Carrie Bradshaw fantasy or the Pinterest-perfect engagement? Is everyone else doing it “right” as we’re falling behind?! They unpack the pressure to hit certain relationship milestones (moving in, getting engaged, and marrie...