Dear Little Me

Teen trauma On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss HOW I HEALED FROM DEPRESSION: 5 TIPS TO DEEPLY SUPPORT YOUR HEALING Do you remember being a teen? For many of us, it was a tough time. You're no longer a kid and you are not an adult either. Our culture has us believe that teens are trouble, but in reality a teen's brain is wired to start to individuate. We are not supposed to follow our parents an...

Gaslighting and manipulation On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss  FIVE SIGNS OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY Adriana's narcissistic mother was abusive, toxic and abandoning and kept Adriana in a tiny world with very few outside connections. Adriana describes herself as a pawn baby and was used in a game by her mom to manipulate her Dad. When Adriana finally decided to leave it took more than one...

Finding love after trauma. On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss 5 SIGNS OF A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY Lynetta and Mark are the Soul Mate Coaches. Both have had significant trauma in their lives and both have struggled in previous relationships. By the time these two met, they had both done years of healing and work on themselves and they now had the tools to create an incredible soul mate relationshi...

On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER 9 FACTS If you struggle with setting boundaries, people pleasing or putting yourself first, your core belief is "I am not enough just as I am" and that belief affects your friendships and relationships too! How your parents modelled relationships for you affects how you form bonds, what you will accept from your friends and yo...

How I became an alcoholic On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss  NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER 9 FACTS In Part 2 of Dr Constance Scharff's story we hear about her incredible road to recovery. Please listen to Part 1 first to understand the full story. Dr Constance Scharff grew up in a home where the trauma from her abusive father saw her turn to alcohol at age 11. Somehow she understood t...

What helps heal emotional trauma? On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss  FIVE STEPS TO HEAL YOUR INNER CHILD What are the key steps to heal your emotional trauma? Melany Oliver grew up with a narcissistic mother. Her basic needs were met, but she received no love, and there were years of abuse. Melany was traumatised and she searched endlessly for how to heal.  It wasn't until she got to...

How I became an alcoholic On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss  FIVE STEPS TO HEAL YOUR INNER CHILD Dr Constance Scharff grew up in a home where the trauma from her abusive father saw her turn to alcohol at age 11. Somehow she understood that alcohol would negate her need to feel anything. By the time she was in college, Constance was drinking two litres of hard liquor a day. She believed at...

Childhood grooming On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss  Eight Ways A Controlling Environment Leads To Trauma . What does child grooming look like? Jan Broberg was just twelve years old when she was abducted by a friend of the family. Her abductor's entire life revolved around planning and executing this kidnapping. He manipulated everybody... Jan, her family, her sisters, the church communi...

I am not good enough Enter the draw to win a copy of Jana Wilson's book Wise Little One by signing up to the HEAL Newsletter HERE . If you are already signed up, send us an email with the heading Jana Wilson Book Draw HERE to enter. On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss Eight Ways A Controlling Environment Leads To Trauma . Jana's trauma began in the womb. Her father would beat her mother as Jana...

I don't want kids. On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss  My Mother Had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Mandy was a little girl lost. She went through more trauma than most humans will ever understand. And Mandy decided that because of her own experiences she would never have kids of her own.  But at some point this changed and Mandy had two children who she adored.  But despite...

Why do I feel less than? On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss  My Mother Had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Christina grew up in a good family. They loved each other and she was cared for. But as the middle child, Christina never felt good enough. Her older sister was the golden child and her brother was the exceptional younger child. Her siblings seemed to excel at life a...

Somatic healing and the nervous system. Get your ACE score (Adverse Childhood Experiences test)  HERE. What is self sabotage and why does it happen? In this quick chat episode I am speaking with Jamie McCoy, Psychotherapist and Trauma Coach. In her twenties, Jamie was literally bed-ridden with brain fog, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia and eventually received a diagnosis of Lyme disease. Jamie...

Does a parent's trauma affect their children? Get your ACE score (Adverse Childhood Experiences test) HERE. Azzah grew up in Australia with parents who were from Russia and who had survived the war.  They were traumatised.  It could be a beautiful, sunny Australian day and her parents were reacting to things that had happened decades before, in a different country, in a different time.&n...

The long term effects of child sexual abuse On the  HEAL  BLOG this week 7 Tips To Deal With Adult Bullying What happens after a traumatic childhood?  We are left to pick up the pieces… and that can take a lifetime.  Diane spent her life putting on a happy face.  Creating a facade.  Being the kind of person nobody would ever suspect of struggling behind closed doors.&...

Narcissistic mother On The HEAL BLOG this week don't miss My Mother Had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Michaila Tyson is a Motherwound Healing Coach.  I spoke with Michaila in Episode 44 of this podcast, when she had only recently gone no contact with her covert narcissistic mother. Since then Michaila has made the conscious decision to live the life of her dreams. After years of playing...

Toxic mother. On the  HEAL  BLOG this week The Top 5 Tips To Regulate Your Nervous System. There was no big plan. One day Sharon decided she'd simply had enough and she was done with a Mom who had displayed years of toxic behavior. Sharon finally decided it was in the best interests of herself and her kids to go no contact with her mother. Sharon has been through a great deal of trauma i...

Get to know your true self with the enneagram. DO THE TEST! DISCOVER YOUR TRUE SELF HERE On the HEAL BLOG this week The Facts About Complex Trauma How does the enneagram help you discover your true self? I am chatting with Samantha Mackay, Enneagram Coach, who says your personality is actually a defence mechanism that is hiding your true self. You are not your personality. Your personali...

Is forgiveness important? On The HEAL BLOG right now! Supercharge Your Female Friendships Do you have friendships that are passed their use by date? Are you sitting in a friendship that you feel isn't aligned any more? Go to the blog via this link. Do you need to forgive the people who have let you down, caused trauma, unwellness, abandonment, abuse? Shalina doesn't think so. Abandoned by her fath...

Healing generational trauma patterns. On the HEAL BLOG this week Why Do I Keep Attracting Narcissists? Rev’s mom struggled. Her mental health was deteriorating. When Rev was 14 her mother had her first panic attack. Later, she was diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder. There were alter personalities and there were regular suicide attempts. Rev was just a kid. She took i...

Tips for Parents of LGBTQ+ Youth. On The HEAL BLOG right now 18 Signs You May Be Depressed Dr Lu Lu spoke with her father as a young child and told him she liked girls.  Her father told her this was just a phase and she would get over it.  Dr Lu Lu went on to get married and have a family and it wasn’t until her marriage ended in divorce that she took the opportunity to explore this part...

How To Let Go On The HEAL BLOG right now!  The Scapegoat -v- The Golden Child   Latarsha had been through hell.  She was betrayed by the one person she loved the most, her father.  And as Latarsha describes, she was continuing to attract the brokenness that had been passed down to her from generations of trauma on both sides of her family.  In this quick chat episode, you...

Repressed childhood trauma in adults. On the HEAL BLOG this week THE SCAPEGOAT -V- THE GOLDEN CHILD What happens to a child who experiences deeply painful trauma?  It is possible to repress those memories.  It is a survival mechanism and survivors of childhood abuse can recover repressed memories much later in life.  Lynn Crook is the author of a book called FALSE MEMORIES: THE DECE...

Narcissistic partner On the HEAL BLOG this week  https://howmyparentsraisedme.com/13-signs-you-are-an-empath-how-to-use-it-as-your-superpower/ Erin was born into a chaotic family. Her mother was manipulative. It was toxic her entire life and Erin wanted out. Erin left home when she found a man who she wanted to make a new life with. But this man and his family were part of a cult. When you co...

Self healing journey On The HEAL BLOG right now! What Is My ACE Score? How to measure the extent of your childhood trauma. At 205 pounds Lauren was insecure, stressed about money and holding so much trauma and unworthiness. And she was chronically unwell. Suffering childhood trauma and sexual trauma, Lauren was carrying so much weight on her shoulders and she hit many rock bottoms. Now, Lauren is...

Finding your self worth New On The HEAL BLOG The First 6 Steps To Healing With Michael Unbroken Megan was adopted at birth and from a very young age she was acutely aware that her situation was different. She knew her life had involved a transaction and her younger self was stuck in trying to understand what that meant. What was her worth?  Did she offer value to her parents?  And, like...