Dear Doula

Nearly 40% of babies who enter the NICU are full-term — meaning the NICU is never as far from any parent's birth story as they think. In this episode of Dear Doula, I sit down with NICU nurse and doula Mary Farrelly to talk about how medical professionals and doulas can work together to better support families with babies in the NICU. We discuss the emotional challenges parents often face, includi...

We hand our kids screens almost without thinking. But what if that everyday habit is affecting their brain health for years to come? In this episode, we explore the growing concern around digital dementia , a term used to describe the impact that too much screen time can have on a child's developing brain. Studies suggest that spending more than 2 to 3 hours a day on screens may affect memory, att...

In this episode, I dive into the essential life skills every toddler should learn to thrive. Beyond colors and counting, I focus on the core values and practices that help build resilient, empathetic, and capable little humans. Drawing on more than 25 years of working with families, I share my perspective on what it really takes to foster emotional intelligence, teach delayed gratification, build...

In this episode, I'm joined by Alexandra Evans, an associate clinical counselor and certified doula, to talk about postpartum rage and the emotional realities of life after birth that many parents struggle with silently. Together, we explore how postpartum rage can show up differently from everyday stress or exhaustion, why these feelings are often misunderstood, and the impact that unmet needs, s...

In this special 100th episode of Dear Doula, I sit down with my husband, Michael Chappie, to reflect on our unique parenting journey as a multicultural couple raising children across different continents. We open up about how our diverse upbringings shaped our views on discipline, independence, and family culture, and share the major turning points that helped us create a home filled with resilien...

In this episode of Dear Doula, I talk about how parenting can feel lonely today and why having a "village" of support matters more than ever. I share personal stories about raising my children in Los Angeles without family nearby, and how friendships and community became an important part of my parenting journey. I also give simple ideas for building your own support system, through local meetups,...

In this episode, I dive into the often emotional and sometimes divisive topic of feeding your baby: breastfeeding, formula, or a mix of both. Drawing from years of experience as a lactation consultant and doula, I break down the real facts about breast milk, the benefits of colostrum, and the realities many parents face when making feeding choices. My goal is to release the guilt many parents feel...

In this episode, I talk about what it's really like to travel with babies, toddlers, and kids. Based on my own experience traveling with my three children, I share simple, practical tips. From choosing the right gear to handling airports and messy nap schedules. Whether you're flying abroad or going on a road trip, I cover what actually works, what doesn't, and how to keep your sanity along the wa...

In this episode I open up about the real challenges and emotions that come with navigating postpartum life, especially when returning to work. Drawing from my own experiences as a mom and doula, I share the ups and downs of juggling career ambitions, shifting family dynamics, and the intense feelings that arise when stepping back into the workplace after having a baby. I offer practical tips on ea...

In this episode, I'm joined by integrative nutrition expert Jodi to talk about what women over 35 should think about when it comes to conception, pregnancy, and postpartum health. We go through the basics of nutrition, how to avoid common endocrine disruptors, and what actually matters so you don't get overwhelmed by too much information. We also talk about testing your nutrient levels, simple sup...

In this episode, I dive into the three biggest mistakes new parents make around sleep, how to avoid them. With over two decades of experience as a doula, I've seen it all when it comes to sleep struggles during the early days of parenting. I break down the misconceptions about newborn sleep, why nutrition is essential for building strong sleep foundations, and how expectations impact your rest as...

In this episode of Dear Doula, I break down the realities of finding quality postpartum and childcare in the US, including what you can expect to pay and what industry standards look like. I guide you through the differences between postpartum doulas, newborn care specialists, and nannies. I share my insights from years in the industry, offering tips on how to find caregivers that truly fit your f...

In this episode of Dear Doula, Ι sit down with Dr. Shivani Amin, a functional medicine and women's health specialist, to explore the root causes of hormonal imbalances, inflammation, and the vital role of minerals like magnesium, sodium, and potassium in women's health. We discuss how simple shifts in habits, like proper breathwork, staying hydrated with quality water, and getting sunlight, can si...

In this episode, I sit down with birth doula and postpartum trainer Kaitlyn Wozniak to talk about postpartum recovery in a whole new way. Together, we unpack common myths and outdated expectations, like the "snap back" culture, and explore why postpartum should be treated as essential rehab, not just traditional exercise. We talk about shifting the focus from looks to real healing and functional s...

In this episode of Dear Doula, I'm talking about something many parents experience but often struggle to understand. The sudden changes in their baby's sleep. Is it a sleep regression, a growth spurt, or something else entirely? As a doula and sleep consultant who has supported families for many years, I see this confusion all the time. Babies suddenly waking more often at night, feeding different...

In this episode of Dear Doula, I'm sharing what I actually recommend parents have ready for the first days home with a newborn. As a postpartum doula and lactation consultant who has supported families for nearly two decades, I know how overwhelming those early days can feel. There are endless product lists, conflicting advice, and so much pressure to get everything right. The truth is that you do...

As a doula and newborn care specialist for over 20 years, I can tell you this with certainty : Parents are drowning in misinformation about sleep. From "sleep regressions" to teething, dream feeds, early rising, and even sleep supplements - there are so many myths circulating that it's no wonder parents feel confused and exhausted. In this episode, I'm breaking down the most common newborn sleep m...

Welcome to Season 4 of Dear Doula . After an intentional break, I'm back to talk about the emotional load of parenting and how the way we frame it shapes our experience. Modern parenting is often painted as exhausting and miserable, and I think it's worth questioning what that mindset does to us and our families. In this episode, I share why 2025 felt overwhelming for me and what I'm choosing to d...

TW: This episode contains adult content of a sexual nature  As a doula, I've had countless conversations with new parents navigating the complexities of intimacy after childbirth. Whether it's regaining libido, feeling physically or emotionally more comfortable having sex, or adjusting to the significant hormonal shifts postpartum, there's a lot tied into it. This week, I'm joined by one of the be...

TW: If you have lost a child, had birth complications, or know someone who has, please be aware that some of those themes will be discussed in this week's show.   Many of us dream of the day that you finally get to meet your baby. Labor and delivery is one of the most powerful, life-changing events not only for you, but for your family too. And so getting ready for that moment to make sure that yo...

If you've had a cesarean birth and get pregnant again, one of the questions I often get asked is, 'Should I plan for another cesarean, or should I try to give birth vaginally?' Choosing between a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) and repeat cesarean is not an easy decision, with benefits and risks to both options. Joining me today to dig into this topic further is Melissa Dean, midwife and found...

The arrival of a new life is a momentous occasion that often brings joy, excitement, and a myriad of emotions. However, the perinatal and postpartum periods can also bring a host of mental health complexities that demand attention and understanding.   To help us understand the nuances of perinatal mental health, debunk some of the most common misconceptions around maternal mental health, and shed...

Ever found yourself tiptoeing out of your toddler's room, hoping against hope that this will be the one bedtime where your little one blissfully succumbs to sleep? You're certainly not alone–toddlerhood can be accompanied by a number of bedtime battles and this edition of the Baby Sleep Fairy Chronicles is here to help. If you're struggling to navigate some of the most common toddler sleep problem...

The controversy, conversations, articles, and books surrounding sleep training are so wildly different, I have no idea how any parent today can comfortably reach a decision on it. Is my child really going to get brain damage from sleep training? Will I ever sleep again?     Let's face it, we all need sleep to be able to survive and to actually live joyful, calm, and peaceful lives. If you've lande...

Welcome to the inaugural episode of my "Sleep Fairy" series, where I'm devoting multiple episodes to one of the biggest things parents need help with: sleep.   To start us out in the series, we're delving into the world of sleep when it comes to twins. Believe it or not, I've actually got a lot of experience working with multiples (even quadruplets!), so today I'm providing you with insights and a...