Dear Diary, it's TorontoUnicorn

I share that I haven’t recorded anything in two weeks after losing my cat, Daisy Duke, and I’m still grieving and feeling apathetic about what used to bring me joy. I reflect on years of censorship and demonetization across YouTube and podcasts, leaving me to self-monetize, and how I’m no longer motivated to vlog routine sex-club nights unless something truly new happens (though I’m planning a Hed...

I reflect on how I haven’t online dated in years and don’t miss the effort, ghosting, or wasted time, but a recent situation brought me back to that mindset—helping my partner find an apartment. Browsing listings feels like swiping, filtering out mismatches (like no air conditioning or smokers), and even getting “attracted” to certain places. I helped craft a template message with details like his...

I share a personal diary-style reflection on my friendship with R, who first reached out to me with a thoughtful email after watching my YouTube videos, and how we quickly became close friends while going to Oasis Aqualounge (sometimes twice a week) and filming my early sex club vlogs, including our iconic “dirty burger” tradition. I explain that R has been far more than a nightlife buddy: she sup...

I share how therapy has helped me throughout adulthood—especially after a tough childhood, trouble regulating my nervous system, anger/reactivity, and taking years to recover from a major breakup. I describe a key lesson a therapist gave me when I complained that people always leave: instead of trying to stop others from leaving, I needed to build resilience for when they do. Over time, after enou...

I share an embarrassing but real content-creator dilemma: I sometimes sell used items (socks, underwear, stockings, loofahs, clothes) privately to special fans, and I mailed a long-time fan in the U.S. a sealed care package that included used underwear. Because it crossed the border, customs and tracking make everything feel extra personal, and now the package appears lost—last scanned April 30 in...

I share my reflections on Netflix’s Bridgerton (four seasons completed, renewed for a fifth) as a 42-year-old, 2026 sex-positive educator who normally wouldn’t watch an 1800s high-society romance, but loved it and has watched it twice. I talk about how the show is an escapist fantasy with familiar “Disney” tropes, then focus on the sexual and social threads that stood out: the near-total absence o...

I reflect on my seven-year journey as a sex club goer in Toronto, starting in April 2019 when I was shy, naive, living alone, coming out of a tough period, and reconnecting with my body after 10 years without sex. Over time I blossomed, learned I’m demisexual, and had formative experiences with men, couples, and friends, while tracking my sex life in an Excel spreadsheet. I describe how key friend...

It’s been about a month since my last DTF theme night at Oasis Aqua Lounge in Toronto, and after having a great time reconnecting with the energy, networking, and helping friends fulfill fantasies, I’ve decided to go again tonight. DTF Tanya is coming, and a new friend “K” I met last time who recognized my coke-with-cherries order from my videos-is joining too. I’m not going for sex myself; I’m go...

I share how uncomfortable I feel promoting my online learning business for the swinger lifestyle, even though I’m proud of the courses and believe they genuinely help people. After trying to respond to direct requests for advice in places like Reddit and Facebook groups, I got warnings for “self-promotion,” which made me feel like I’m holding the solution but I’m not allowed to share it unless I p...

I share a personal video diary update about the whirlwind month of building my new online learning academy, Level Up with Toronto Unicorn, from the ground up on WordPress, learning plugins, course platforms that allow sex education content, video hosting for uncensored lessons, and setting up a proper business email, while relying heavily on AI for troubleshooting and ad copy. I also recorded and...

I document the final moments before launching my new digital course academy, Level Up with Toronto Unicorn, sharing my excitement, nerves, and pride after months of work. Drawing on five to six years in the sex-positive swinger lifestyle and my YouTube journey as a single woman unicorn, I explain why I shifted from frequent club nights to building a business that packages my tips, stories, etiquet...

I record a diary-style update right before a lawyer consultation as I prepare to incorporate my new educational online academy, Level Up with Toronto Unicorn. I’ve built a website, created two starter courses (including a single men’s guide to sex clubs and a threesomes course), and I’m developing more modules while beta-testing with friends and two male fans who suggested extra etiquette topics l...

I just finished exporting the last video for my first digital course, “Threesomes 101,” a unicorn’s perspective for couples having their first threesome. I’ve spent weeks outlining, recording, editing, and building a two-hour course of educational modules, using ChatGPT to organize my thoughts while delivering all content authentically. Now I need to learn how to market it and plan to keep creatin...

In this diary entry, I reflect on my recent experience at the Big Swinger convention, where I had my first official speaking gig as Toronto Unicorn. While I thoroughly enjoyed the event and met amazing people, I faced several challenges, including forgetting to promote my YouTube channel and missing an invitation to set up a vendor table. Despite these setbacks, I learned valuable lessons about se...

I'm two days away from a big event where I'll be giving a workshop at a swingers convention. Despite my usual style of winging things, this time I have to prepare. The workshop, 'Threesomes 101: A Unicorn's No-Bullshit Guide,' focuses on teaching couples and singles how to interact with a unicorn for a memorable experience. I created a promotional postcard, designed last-minute, to distribute at t...

In today's diary episode, I share my excitement about setting up my email marketing workflow from scratch in my little Toronto Unicorn world. It wasn't an easy journey, but I've learned a lot. With the help of AI like ChatGPT, I finally sent out my first 200 emails. I also talk about the importance of email lists for independent content creators, testing my emails, and creating engaging video cont...

**wanna watch the video version? Open this episode in Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6Tn980uPzKR9UYOueV42cF?si=09ac500d7305456a In this week's diary entry, I, TorontoUnicorn, share my experiences from a busy week in 2026 filled with creating new content and managing multiple podcasts. I talk about my unconventional new video diary format, recent podcast episodes, including a fascinating in...

In this episode, I share the deeply personal journey behind creating my latest piece of art—a canvas filled with my YouTube thumbnails that documents my life as a swinger from 2020 to 2025. I reflect on the emotional and spiritual growth that this project represents, detailing my transformation from a single woman exploring the lifestyle to being in a committed, monogamous relationship. Through th...

In this episode, I reflect on my recent experiences, from compiling a to-do list that I promptly ignored to enjoy creating this podcast, to navigating the hectic holiday season. I discuss my love for content creation and the challenges that come with it, especially when my energy levels are low. I share my enthusiasm for jigsaw puzzles, my joy in finding sponsorships that align with my values, and...

In this episode I share my recent struggles with a severe cold, which kept me out of action and unable to create content for two weeks. I delve into my journey of entering the sex club lifestyle as a single woman after years of celibacy and personal challenges. I also discuss the transition from frequenting sex clubs to preferring intimate experiences with my boyfriend and seeking threesomes with...

I recently attended a 300-person swinger hotel takeover in Niagara Falls and have been busy creating content around this unique experience. In this episode, I dive into my journey of assimilating back into regular life while detailing the complexities and excitement of producing content from the event. From editing vlogs for Spotify and navigating YouTube's strict content guidelines using AI, to e...

In this diary-style episode, I share my recent visit to the Oasis Aqua Lounge after a two-month break. I reflect on my frequent visits over the years and delve into the excitement of 'First Taste Fridays,' a night for couples and single women new to the lifestyle. I vividly describe witnessing a 10-person orgy, discussing the dynamics and my observations. I also talk about my interactions with fan...

In this episode, I reflect on my journey as a YouTuber and podcaster, candidly sharing my morning thoughts and the adjustments I need to make due to eye health issues from overexposure to bright lights. I discuss how my content creation process has evolved, the importance of authenticity, and my plans to create more relaxed, unfiltered content without the pressure of appearances. Additionally, I s...

In this episode, I take a nostalgic journey through the 1990s by watching the classic TV show, Beverly Hills 90210. Born in 1983, I wasn't allowed to watch it growing up due to my controlling and religious household. Now, at 41, I'm binge-watching the series and reflecting on life before smartphones, texting, and social media. From the use of payphones and video rental stores to the lack of online...

In this episode, I recount my recent vacation with my boyfriend to an adults-only resort in Punta Cana. This was my first time experiencing a vacation deliberately without children, and it was an eye-opening and glorious adventure. I describe the serenity of relaxing by the pool without the usual distractions of kids, our delayed and stressful return trip, and the challenges of adjusting to home l...