Dating Solidarity

1. Never go on a date again Instead, go and chat to someone at a bus stop. I mean this figuratively. What I mean is, every time you go on a date, tell your mind and body that it is not a date. It is simply spending a little bit of time having a chat while you wait for something wonderful. If they surprise you and are something wonderful, absolutely bloody fantastic. But BE IN THE ENERGY of “this i...

Disappointment can be forged into power. Rejection can be the catalyst for profound confidence. Ghosting can be the chrysalis from which you emerge with magnificent wings.   Number 1: Knock Them Off The Pedestal   Imagine finding out something really unappealing about someone you like. Some habit or belief they hold that instantly turns you off. Some behaviour trait that gives you the ick so much...

In today’s episode, I share my story. How a simple mindset shift took me from nearly a decade of disappointment to a proposal in Paris. With a rather luxurious choice between five extremely eligible suitors along the way. Quotes from today’s episode: “ I genuinely thought the best I could hope for was ‘the cream of the dregs’—until I completely shifted my approach, and everything changed.” “The nu...

Today’s episode is intended to be a lovely cool splash of water on a fatigued face. Revitalising tired daters with three new things to try.  Three steps for a dating fresh-up. 1. Re-empower yourself. Pick a date two to six weeks from now and plan something you will LOVE. Until then, date with renewed focus. Try the steps below to approach things slightly differently and see what happens. Once you...

A wonderful listener sent in this question:  Should you resist making the first move if you have an anxious attachment style and a tendency to rush into things? We explore… The enormous value of experimenting with doing the opposite of what you would normally do.  How the way to feel secure is to feel chosen . This involves protecting your energy, rather than giving it away. Creating a playful atm...

How to feel good about yourself while dating... 1. Remember that dating is a problematic means to a glorious end. Just because it feels interminable doesn’t mean it won’t end. Just because it can be extremely hard doesn’t mean it won’t result in more ease, more softness, and extreme delight. Just because it can be the loneliest thing you ever do, doesn’t mean it won’t lead to the most comforting,...